I hope everyone had a terrific Christmas.  I hope you got to spend time with your family, relatives, and friends.  2019 coming to an end and 2020 is right around the corner.  As the year comes to an end, we say we will make changes to our life.  We set goals that we want to accomplish the next year that we call New Year resolutions.  In the end, some follow through with their New Year’s resolutions and some don’t.

At the end of the year, we begin to set goals that we want to accomplish, things we want to stop doing and saying, or things we want to get better at.  When the new year comes, we have the motivation to start these goals, but sometimes what happens by the end of the first week, two weeks, or month, we lose the motivation.  If you think your the only one who has stuck with their New Year’s resolutions or has fallen off the wagon, your wrong.

Your not alone when it comes to making New Year’s resolutions and not sticking with them.  Maybe there was one year where you made some goals and accomplished them the following year.  Another year you made some more goals, but you couldn’t follow through with them.  That’s fine; what’s important is that you learn why you couldn’t stick with those resolutions.

Maybe you had unwanted baggage that was draining your energy.  Maybe you were at a place in your life that you weren’t ready to take that next step.  Overall, maybe the timing wasn’t right.  Unexpected things happen that are out of our control, there may be things that we have to overcome first before we can move forward.  The fear of the unknown could be stopping us from taking that leap of faith.  It wouldn’t be surprising if we bit off my than we could chew, I know I have, so your not alone in that.

Well as 2019 comes to an end, it’s that time again when people are making those New Year’s resolutions.  If you have stuck with your New Year’s resolutions in the past, awesome keep doing what your doing.  If you haven’t or struggled here are some pointers that may help you:

1. Don’t Just Set Regular Goals
It’s easy to set a goal for yourself.  Anyone can set goals.  The question is are you setting realistic achievable goals?  I have talked about setting realistic goals once before.  You have to know what your capable of accomplishing.  You have to know how far your able to push your limits.  You have to be honest and true with yourself.

2. The Time Frame is Important

Setting a time frame is essential as well.  When do you want to accomplish these goals?  3 months, 6 months, 8 months?  The shorter the timeline, the more energy you’re going to have to put out.  If it’s a new thing, you may want to pace yourself and give yourself more time.  You may have a year long goal that will require to be patient with yourself and pace yourself in a respectable manner.  Before you begin, ask yourself this, ‘are you going to run a sprint or a marathon?’

3. Accountability

Setting New Year’s resolutions is something that you want to hold accountable to yourself.  Ask a family member or a trusted friend to hold you accountable with your resolutions as well.  Ask a few people if you want.  Should you start to fall off the wagon, this individual or these individuals can help you get back on track and stay on track.

4. Don’t Give Up

Staying committed to anything takes effort and energy.  You unfortunately will encounter rough patches.  These times can drain you and giving up begins to seem like a good idea. It’s during these times that you we’ll have to push yourself.  You can ask someone for help.  This could be whether you need to vent and let out your frustrations or you need a pep talk for energy and motivation.  Treat yourself to something nice to rejuvenate and replenish yourself.

5. Break Them Down

Committing to your New Year’s resolutions can be overwhelming especially if you’re thinking big.  There are things out there that look overwhelming, but when you break them down they aren’t as scary.  They actually can turn out to be very manageable for you.  Know what the full picture is, but take each day one at a time.  Breaking down the overwhelming huge intimidating thing into smaller manageable things is less scary.  Live in the present.  That kind of perspective doesn’t look as overwhelming.

New Year’s resolutions can be a hit or miss.  It all comes down to how you deal with them.  Trying to better yourself, expanding your horizon, and experiencing new things requires change, time, and effort.  Yeah change can be scary, but it helps us grow as a person.  I hope whatever New Year’s resolutions you make, I wish you the best of luck with them.  Hopefully this helps you.  You have my support.  I believe in you.