Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over
There have been times where we have gotten used to something, like a routine, and for a long period of time it became a part of our life. Then something happened that shook our world and we had to start over. We were so comfortable doing what we were doing, we didn’t want to start from scratch again. However, even though we didn’t want to start over, it actually may be good for us.
New Beginnings: A Fresh Start
Your not alone if you’ve had to start over anything in your life. I’ve had to and there are so many people who have had to as well. A new beginning can describe various life situations. You move to a new town and go to a new school where you make new friends. You start a new job and you have to adjust to a new work environment and interact with new co-workers. You get married, you have a child are new beginnings. You quit your old habits and work on developing new ones which can be a new beginning. The high school to college transition I talked about in a previous post is also a new beginning. These are a some handful of life situations where a new beginning can occur. New beginnings can be scary because we’re transitioning out of something comfortable to something that isn’t and may be rough. The unknown factor rears itself into this idea because we can’t predict how things will turn out whereas before there was that predictability. Starting over isn’t always an easy thing regardless of what it is, but sometimes it’s necessary.
The Adjustment Phase
We have a period of adjustment in anything new that we do. There is no way to get around it. Any kind of adjustment is going to take time to get used to. In some cases, your changing your behavior into something that is supposed to be better for you. This concept is something that can’t be rushed. Sometimes it can be a uncomfortable transition, but not always. New beginnings can be helpful for us to grow as a person. We learn new skills, acquire new knowledge, and can meet new people who can help us to continue to grow. They can help us learn new things about ourselves directly and indirectly. They can become life long friends regardless of distance.
If your struggling with beginning something new, here are some ways that can help you through it:
1. Let go of things that your unable to control and move on.
2. Change your mindset
3. Accept a new reality
4. Hold onto the good things
5. Take that chance
6. Freedom in the unknown
7. Keep going
A new beginning requires you to move forward and let go of things. There may be things that your unable to control and you have been trying but with no success. So if that’s the case, it would be best you stop trying. Trying to control something that you can’t can have a bad impact on your overall health.
Changing your mindset is important because it will help you through the adjustment phase. If you go into something new and or start over, you won’t get far if your telling yourself that you can’t do it, your going to fail, nothing good will out of this, or this is a waste of time. Positive self talk will help you believe in yourself and also help in not letting the fresh start be overwhelming and even confusing. It does take awhile to adapt to a new mindset; don’t rush it, be patient with yourself.
A new beginning can consist of a new reality. This reality may include learning something new, meeting new people, adapting to a new environment and atmosphere whether that’s a new town, church, state, country, school, job, a step parent, etc. Accepting the new reality can be tough, but acceptance is what will help you move forward because it means that your acknowledging the new start and are committed to seeing it through.
Now just because your starting over doesn’t mean you have to do a full entire reset of your life. If you are moving away, that doesn’t mean you have to cut all contact with your current friends. If you want to change your behavior into something better, that is a new beginning. People that you are close to you don’t have to go away just because you need a fresh start. Some people will be apart of your life forever and some won’t.
Taking a chance on someone or something can be nerve-racking. A new start is no exception. There are some people who take that leap of faith and it pays off for them. They can adjust to the new setting, new style of life and thrive on it. You can as well. Having people back you up and supporting you makes taking that chance easier. If you strongly believe in yourself and tell yourself you can do it, things tend to work out for you.
Breaking away from old habits and current routines can be frightening, but there a sense of freedom and relief that can come out of it. On the one hand, your not tethered to anything. You have a blank slate in front of you to start over metaphorically. You start over the way you want to. This way of thinking can make the unknown factor less scary. Now there will be tough times and challenges, but don’t let them stop you. Keep going, remember you wanted a fresh start so that things would be different and better. Let that fuel your drive to keep going.
Final Thoughts and Sum Up
New beginnings can be scary at first glance, but they can be good for us. A fresh start can be helpful in leaving behind an old style of life that may have been destructive and transition into one that is healthy and rejuvenating. Remember to go at your own pace. Don’t think you have to rush the process because you think you have to or someone tells you to (this may not fully apply to school and the workplace). If you take a small step each day, that is good. One thing to remember it’s never too late to start from the beginning.