Unknown Future, Regrets in the Past, Live in the Present
Our future is something that has been on our mind at some point. We think about the next day, week, month, and year. We try to plan things far out in advance and sometimes life says otherwise. Sometimes not knowing the future can be scary.
There are people who map put there future. They map out when they will graduate college and grad school. They map out their career path, what age they want to get married, if their going to move somewhere new, how many kids they want to have, the age and year they want to retire, when they want to buy a house, etc. There are people who try to map these things out, but you if noticed map out how old they want to be when they achieve one of those goals and what year it should happen.
It’s all right to have goals and plans like finishing college, having a career, wanting to get married and have kids, and living on your own. Trying to map out every precise and specific detail can become stressful and no fun. I have mentioned the unknown factor before and that can happen at any point in your life. It can help and ruin well thought out plans.
When our plans get ruined or we don’t have a plan, that’s when the future can be scary. We don’t have anything to work toward or have something to look forward to we can become lost, confused, stressed, and fearful about the future.
We have a tendency to look back at our past sometimes seeking answers to our questions or when we do some soul searching. Sometimes however we get caught up in our past mistakes and regrets. Sometimes this just happens or we do it to ourselves intentionally.
We sometimes dwell on those things thinking what different about outcomes could have happened or what we could have done different.
In the back of our mind, we believe that we can undo every one of them especially the big ones. In some cases we can, and in some cases we can’t.
Savor the Present
‘Live like there’s no tomorrow’ is another saying that we have heard at some point in our lives. Living and savoring the moment can be difficult for some people to do. Some people believe that they have to be doing something every moment of everyday.
Instead of looking ahead, take a moment to look around your current surroundings. Are you outside? Look up at the sky and take that in. Are you in your living room? Try putting down and turning off all electronic devices and just sit in silence. If your laying on your bed, turn everything off and take some slow deep breaths.
Did something good happen to you? Did you relish that moment, that good feeling? If you did that’s wonderful. If you didn’t and were thinking about something else, it’s ok; I’ve done that myself. I was thinking about the next thing I was going to do or question that compliment.
Advice and Tips
Here’s some advice and tips on how to balance the past, present, and future:
- Take each day one day at a time
- You don’t have tomorrow’s energy; you only have enough for today
- It’s ok to not be ok. You don’t need everything single thing in your life to be mapped out right now
- You can add things, make changes along the way, and things can still be fine
- Learn from your past and look forward and right in front of you
- Forgive those who wronged you or forgive yourself
- Be grateful for what you have
- Appreciate the good people in your life
- Dream about the future, but focus on what you can do today
- Look back at past achievements, but don’t dwell on them
Like Ferris Buehler once said “Life moves very fast. If you don’t stop to look around once in awhile, you could miss it”. It’s ok to think about your future. It’s all right to make plans for your future. You can have a general idea and be all right. Where people make the mistake is that they try to map out very specifics details in a specific and sometimes condensed time frame. They dwell on those plans for a majority of their day and sometimes neglect their health and friends and family. They hope nothing unexpected will happen otherwise they believe everything can fall apart and chaos will rule their lives.
It’s all right to look back in your past to understand your roots. What people fall victim to is getting caught up in those regrets and mistakes where they dwell on them and feel bad afterwards. They try to change things that already happened to them in the hope that the outcome will change even if a lot of time has gone by.
Living in the present is one thing, but it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t think ahead or make any plans for your future. You can plan out your day like things to do in the morning, what you want to do after school or work, or what your having for dinner tonight. If we want to change something about ourselves that we don’t like and is hurtful to others, sometimes we need to look back to our past to find where things started and work there.
Enjoy those good moments, accept those compliments, and remember it’s ok to stop and do nothing. Take care of yourselves, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.