Vulnerability, honesty, and trust. Do these words come to mind when you think of your closest friends? Are you able to confide in them about deep and personal things?
Different Types of Friends
So some of you may already know that there are various kinds of friends out there. You have your athletic friends, those who like to party, those who are good listeners, some who are reserved but easy to get along with, and so on. If this sounds like people you know, your not alone. Every person out there has a variety of friends.
Your allowed to have a variety of friends. Whether your a big social person or someone who is more laid back, having different kinds of friends enriches your life. As I’ve mentioned before, having moral support from friends is just as good as having moral support from family.
Confiding in Others
You have friends who you can laugh and have a fun time with, but you can confide in them if you are troubled. Easy right; well not always. Maybe the reality of your situation is that you have dozens of friends who you get along with, but only a few of them are ones you can talk deep stuff with. You may think you are being a burden to them by dumping you troubles onto them especially if you’ve done it before. You may think your damaging the friendship and that eventually you’ll loose them. If you have thought this way before, your not alone. I’ve been there myself.
As I mentioned you may have a variety of friends who you can talk sports with but not books. Then you have people who you can talk urban legends and unexplained events with, but not video games.
Some people only have that one friend who they can go to no matter what happens and have a deep talk, a rant, and even a good cry. This is what I meant about vulnerability, trust, and honesty. These three traits are precious. Not every person can open up, some have trust issues, and some just don’t know how to tell the truth.
There is a deep connection and understanding between people who are vulnerable to one another. You really get to know someone in how they think, how they handle their emotions, and how they view life. They provide you comfort when you feel fragile, confused, hurt, and broken. Sometimes they give you words of encouragement, a hug, a shoulder to cry on, even a listening ear for you to vent. Sounds like I’m repeating myself a bit, but these kind of people will really do these things for you. In reality, these kind of friends are easier to go to and confide in than our own parents. In my opinion, this shouldn’t be a thing, but it is.
The close friends you can confide in shouldn’t be taken for granted. Some of the worst and toughest moments of your life are made a bit easier to deal with these kind of friends. If you have these kind of friends in your life, you should consider yourself grateful. Your not alone in this world; these kind of friends will remind you of that. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.