Food for Thought: Receiving Love

At some point in your life you have received various forms of love. Love can come from anyone. Parents, siblings, friends, spouses, boyfriend, girlfriend, animals, even kind-hearted strangers. Love can come when you least suspect it; I’m sure you’ve heard that saying before.

Maybe you heard or learned that love is something you have to earn. While that might be true for when you are dating someone and getting to know them on a deep personal level, this not entirely true in relation to life itself. For example, you should never have to be put in a position where you have to earn love from your parents. Your parents should love you just the way you are.

Sometimes we can be hard on ourselves about every aspect and trait about our personality and life. Our mindset may be wired to where we don’t think we are deserving of love from anyone. Even kind gestures and words, big and small, we think we don’t deserve them.

This can come from various forms of emotional abuse. Guilt tripping, lies, name-calling, body shaming, even giving someone the cold shoulder can hurt someone severely mentally and emotionally speaking. The duration and severity of emotional abuse can take a heavy toll on our mindset and affect how we view ourselves and life itself.

Now remember there are people out there who will give you some form of love. This can be from anything from positive words, a nice gesture, a pat on the back, to a hug and maybe a kiss. They will do so because they like you, love you, and because they are kind hearted people. Now whether or not you accept their love is up to you.

There are people out there who love you just the way you are. You are lovable because you exist. You are love. Love is more about how you treat yourself rather than how others treat you.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

I’m Back

Hi everyone after nearly one year away, I’m back. I’ll keep it brief on what I’ve been up to.

So I took some time to do a lot of self-care work. It had it’s ups and downs and stagnant days. At the beginning of the year, I got Covid which put me out of commission for awhile. I tried a new job which didn’t really suit me and was draining along with having another part time job with it. I lost some money through cryptocurrency. I have been working with a counselor and briefly with a life coach who have been tremendously helpful.

Now I’m working as a dietary aide at a assisted living facility full-time. I’m also studying again to take my exam to get licensed for counseling. I’m living more in the present and have gotten much better at not comparing myself to others.

So the plan is I’m going to post once a week for the time being. Before I took a break, I did redesign my blog with a new layout. The new post will be a symbolism post and will be posted tomorrow.

Thank you for your patience. I appreciate you all for following my blog and taking the time to read my content. I’m doing much better than I was this time last year. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Christmas Update

Hi everyone, I hope your all doing well and that the holidays are treating you all right. So I know I’ve been away for quite some time; well I have some updates.

So I’m currently working two part time jobs, one in the morning and the other from the afternoon into the evening. Right now all my energy and attention have gone into acclimating my daily routine into balancing and working both jobs while trying to not get burned out.

Those of you who are following me and get emails of when I upload posts, may have noticed that I redesigned my logo and changed the overall theme.

I also have been thinking of new ideas of writing different kinds of posts and setting up new pages. I’ll keep you posted on that.

Thank you all for being patient with me as I balance two jobs and work on some personal things in my life. I hope to get back to uploading posts soon. I truly appreciate all of you who follow, like, and comment on my posts. I enjoy seeing and reading your feedback.

Have a wonderful Christmas and holiday season as 2021 comes to a close. Spend time with loved ones, have fun, and relax, you’ve earned it. For those of you where Christmas isn’t the most wonderful time of the year, your not alone in your struggles. I’ll send good vibes your way and say a prayer for you all. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Symbolism: What You Build and Create is Different Than Others

You are Your Own Person

My very first post when I started this blog was a post on comparing yourself to others. This concept is a real struggle for some people. So for this symbolism post I thought I talk about in another perspective.

As we get older, we begin to create our own lifestyle. However, other people’s lifestyles can make us feel jealous and envyness. Sometimes we focus our mindset towards what others. This can be because they either have qualities, traits, or material things that we want or we think their way of life is than ours.

So I want you to focus on the first tree in the center of the pic. What do you notice? It’s not a huge tree. It looks to be in good health. It has a handful of branches that aren’t real big or long, but it has a bunch of green leaves.

Someone planted this tree and mother nature has been good to it and taken care of it. Now this tree didn’t get this way over night or in 1 week. It took time for it to get this way. Just like when you build or create something big like a house or a diorama, it takes time and effort to complete them.

Now don’t get me wrong, some things can get done in a day or less than a days time. The point is that every big business or actors successful TV and/or film career didn’t come about in a short time. That business success and fame took time to grow.

Now look at this pic. What’s different from the first? Well there are more trees. These trees are very big. They have more branches and they are longer and stronger. These individual trees have way more leaves on them.

Each of these trees are in good health and they have been around for a long time. Now think back what I just mentioned about the first tree. These trees have had more time to become what they are.

Overall Point

Success isn’t always achieved overnight or in a days time. The bigger and biggest things take time, energy, and effort to develop. Everyone starts from a different starting line. If you have built and created something and it’s only gotten as successful as the progress of the first tree, that’s fine. Don’t let the success of people and the creation of other things (the big trees) discourage you.

You don’t always know the full story. Those that make it appear like everything is going great and problem free, may be hiding some huge problems. If that’s the case, you should feel lucky that you don’t have to deal with those huge problems.

Some people only like talking about their successes which isn’t a bad thing. However, this can give push people away and intimidate them into thinking that they are not good enough or failures. They may think that nothing wrong ever happens to that person.

Now this goes into how someones mindset is. If it’s a pessimistic one, then that can cause unwanted stress. If it’s a optimistic one, someone can be happy for the other person’s accomplishment and maybe even get inspired from it.

One last thing, don’t put down or make fun of whatever someone else has created and built regardless of the size. A lot of work and passion went into creating whatever it is. The person who created it probably feels proud of it. Be nice to one another.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Taking a Break

So I wanted to let you all know that I’m going to be taking a break for awhile.  Looking for work is a job itself which can be draining.  I recently realized that I pushed myself too hard which has caused me to be hard on myself and caused me to be mentally exhausted. 

Recently I have educating myself more on self-care habits which are helping me.  I’m putting my energy and effort onto being gentle on myself and appreciating all that I have and to be grateful for it.

Again thank you all for the support.  I read all your comments and I appreciate them, the likes, as well as the feedback.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Don’t Lose the Love in Your Heart

The love you carry in your heart is something very precious.  It’s the love you have for the people in your life, life itself, and the love you have for yourself.  However, various things can destroy or damage that love. 

Words spoken out of anger, betrayal of trust, lies, words and actions that install fear into people are some examples that can take away that love if we let it.  When these things come from those we like, love, and care about, it hurts even worse and can be very damaging to our physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual health.

Don’t let the fear and anger of others take away the love you have on your heart.  Maybe easier said than done.  Anger and fear can cause a lot of pain to someone and it’s not always visible. Remember that

As I mentioned, having the ability to love yourself and other people in a genuine and sincere way is something precious.  Unfortunately not everyone on the world can do this.  If you can, treasure this gift and don’t take it for granted.   Your family members and the real friends in your life are grateful and blessed to have you in their life.

Update

Hi everyone, so I wanted to let you all know that next week I’m going to be taking a break. For those of you who don’t know, I’m unemployed and have been since early May. I’ve been trying to find a new job which has been taking up my time and energy. This past week has been kinda rough for me. I’ve been hard on myself and have been dealing with unwanted stress and anxiety; so I need to take a step back and reevaluate some things in my life. I hope you all understand. Thank you all for your support, I hope you know that I really appreciate it.

As some of you know, Simone Bailes had recently pulled herself out of the Olympic Finals. The reason was because she wanted to focus on her mental well-being. Her decision and reason reminded me of why I took my social media hiatus. I need to refocus on myself again for the time being.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: 7 Things You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty For

Hi there everyone, I hope you all are doing all right.  There are a number of things that we can feel guilty about.  This video focuses on 7 different things that we feel guilty about and how they can influence different aspects of our life.

The feeling of guilt can lead to feelings of inadequacy, unwanted anxiety, and perfectionism. This then leads to high levels of stress and overcompensating on every thing you.

Your not alone if you have felt guilty about doing something for yourself. We are allowed to have hobbies, personal interests, and we are allowed to invest our time and energy into them. I have felt this way, your parents, best friends, teachers, co-workers, boss, significant other, family members, etc have all felt this kind of guilt before.

Feeling Guilty for Feeling Happy

At some point, we have felt guilty about something.  We feel bad for hurting someone’s feelings, not doing something we should have, and for doing something that makes us happy.  Yes feeling guilty about being happy is a real thing. 

We feel guilty of being happy for doing things we enjoy because our brains can translate that into being selfish and self-centered.  We feel we should be doing something for everyone in our lives and helping them with their problems.  Yes this is something we do, but we also need to take time for ourselves. 

We need to rest and recharge ourselves.  We also need to invest our time and energy doing things that bring us joy.  That isn’t being selfish, that’s taking care of ourselves. This video goes into more details.

Wrap Up

Not being perfect, asking for help, being successful, saying no when you need to, removing yourself from toxic situations or people, ending toxic relationships, and wanting to be happy are only 7 things we shouldn’t feel guilty about. There are various other things as well. Our self-worth, esteem, and inner peace are very special and important to our well-being. Yes we do want to please and help others, but we also shouldn’t feel guilty or ashamed that we want to take time for ourselves.

I hope this video shined some light on your life. Hopefully you got some clarity and some bettee guidance in your life. Maybe some heavy stress and anxiety just got lifted from your shoulders and mind. Maybe now you can breathe better too.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Time: 3 Ways Mindfulness Exercises Help You Relax and Keep You in the Present

Hey everyone, I hope your enjoying the summer season. For this Video Time post, I thought we focus on the topic of Mindfulness. These videos will explain what mindfulness is and the techniques that make it up.

These videos will discuss how to lower your stress levels, slow down your thoughts, and focus on your 5 senses. One video will break down the process of how a thought can quickly consume us and result in a negative feeling. We can have negative thoughts in which we can acknowledge and leave it at that. Whether or not we act on them is up to us.

Any thought can come into our mind and change how we behave and what we say vert fast. Remember different parts of our body can be affected by this process as well.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.