Symbolism: The Cocoon, the Healing, the Transformation

Have you ever retreated to a place where you needed comfort and safety from something bad? Did you need to be in a place where you needed healing and to work on yourself? If you answered yes to any of these then your not alone. Many people do this throughout there lives and there is nothing wrong with that.

The Cocoon: The Beginning

By now you may be wondering why do I keep mentioning the word cocoon. We all know a caterpillar creates a cocoon and then comes out a butterfly. While the caterpillar is inside the cocoon, it’s safe and it starts to evolve into its next phase of life.

When we go through phases, rough roads, trials, transformations, and transitions in life, we can be dealing with a handful of emotions. Sometimes we find ourselves in a place whether it be a new home, new room, or new school where we can be safe and grow as a person. These places are sometimes temporary.

We can view theses kinds of places as safe havens to escape from a bad situation or living arrangement. For example, a wife ends up living in a new apartment after she gets divorced from her husband. This apartment can serve as a safe haven (the cocoon) for the wife. She can work on healing, getting her life back together. and moving forward from the divorce.

The Butterfly: The Transformation

Remember the cocoon phase is only temporary. After you got out of survival mode and felt better about yourself, did you feel that you were ready to tackle the world with a new perspective? Did you feel like you were ready to spread your wings again? I have felt like this and know many friends who have as well; so your not alone.

After coming out the cocoon figuratively speaking, you feel transformed. You can have either more energy, a new mindset, new strength or all three for example. You feel ready to spread your wings and soar to new heights. Maybe that sounds a little cheesy, but people who come out of the cocoon phase are ready to tackle new goals and do things they thought were once unachievable.

Wrap Up

New perspectives along with new mindsets can feel like a breath of fresh air for your mind and soul. Your thinking differently, you have a better and healthy mindset, and you have a better tolerance against negative things. Maybe your in a cocoon phase right now; if so that’s fine.

Maybe you got out of something horrible and you’ve been healing for a while now. You’ve been doing some self work on yourself. Your unlearning bad habits and developing better ones. All of this is fine, don’t let anyone put you down or tell you otherwise. You may even have some friends and family members who are in a cocoon phase and/or have transformed into butterflies.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

The Friends You Can Confide In

Vulnerability, honesty, and trust. Do these words come to mind when you think of your closest friends? Are you able to confide in them about deep and personal things?

Different Types of Friends

So some of you may already know that there are various kinds of friends out there. You have your athletic friends, those who like to party, those who are good listeners, some who are reserved but easy to get along with, and so on. If this sounds like people you know, your not alone. Every person out there has a variety of friends.

Your allowed to have a variety of friends. Whether your a big social person or someone who is more laid back, having different kinds of friends enriches your life. As I’ve mentioned before, having moral support from friends is just as good as having moral support from family.

Confiding in Others

You have friends who you can laugh and have a fun time with, but you can confide in them if you are troubled. Easy right; well not always. Maybe the reality of your situation is that you have dozens of friends who you get along with, but only a few of them are ones you can talk deep stuff with. You may think you are being a burden to them by dumping you troubles onto them especially if you’ve done it before. You may think your damaging the friendship and that eventually you’ll loose them. If you have thought this way before, your not alone. I’ve been there myself.

As I mentioned you may have a variety of friends who you can talk sports with but not books. Then you have people who you can talk urban legends and unexplained events with, but not video games.

Some people only have that one friend who they can go to no matter what happens and have a deep talk, a rant, and even a good cry. This is what I meant about vulnerability, trust, and honesty. These three traits are precious. Not every person can open up, some have trust issues, and some just don’t know how to tell the truth.

There is a deep connection and understanding between people who are vulnerable to one another. You really get to know someone in how they think, how they handle their emotions, and how they view life. They provide you comfort when you feel fragile, confused, hurt, and broken. Sometimes they give you words of encouragement, a hug, a shoulder to cry on, even a listening ear for you to vent. Sounds like I’m repeating myself a bit, but these kind of people will really do these things for you. In reality, these kind of friends are easier to go to and confide in than our own parents. In my opinion, this shouldn’t be a thing, but it is.

Wrap Up

The close friends you can confide in shouldn’t be taken for granted. Some of the worst and toughest moments of your life are made a bit easier to deal with these kind of friends. If you have these kind of friends in your life, you should consider yourself grateful. Your not alone in this world; these kind of friends will remind you of that. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: To See New Things, Empty Your Mind

First video discussion post in a long time. I watched the movie 2012 for the first time in a long time. Even though it was very short, this scene really spoke to me. A bit of background of what led to this scene. A family and group of people are fleeing to ships that will protect them from the end of the world. Elsewhere two monks are talking about what is happening. One monk helps to ease the other ones troubled mind by pouring tea into a cup and allowing it to overflow. Here’s the scene

A Full Mind

So I believe a lot of people are wired like the young monk. People are full of opinions and speculations about themselves, other people, and life itself. Yet people want to learn more and seek wisdom from others.

However, if we are too full of opinions and speculate about every little thing, then our minds are not able to take in new things. Even now, we still live in a fast paced society where we want answers to our questions right away. Our minds can go fast and even go into overdrive. When this happens, we have trouble learning new things or are unable to learn something new and sometimes are not able to see the things right on front of us. Even the simple things seem very complex.

An Open Mind

As the older monk said, to see the light of wisdom, you must first empty your cup. In other words, to accept new knowledge and wisdom from others, we need to slow our minds down. We need to put aside our thoughts, speculations, and opinions and have an open mind. An open mind will allow you to comprehend and learn new things.

This is easier said than done I know. For some people, they have trouble slowly their thoughts down because they’re going from one thing to the next. We also have a tendency to take in the littlest new thing and quickly fit it into our established thought patterns.

However by doing this we assume we don’t need to learn anything else and we close our minds. Some new things take time to learn and we don’t always get the full picture up front. We learn one new thing and then we learn the next part of it at a later time and date.

Wrap Up

The overall moral is we should always be open to new things. We should be patient and not rush the process. Some things are easier to learn than others. Some things take longer to learn and that’s just life which is ok. It’s good to have our own opinions and speculations, we just have to keep them in check every now and then which can be challenging.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Receiving Love

At some point in your life you have received various forms of love. Love can come from anyone. Parents, siblings, friends, spouses, boyfriend, girlfriend, animals, even kind-hearted strangers. Love can come when you least suspect it; I’m sure you’ve heard that saying before.

Maybe you heard or learned that love is something you have to earn. While that might be true for when you are dating someone and getting to know them on a deep personal level, this not entirely true in relation to life itself. For example, you should never have to be put in a position where you have to earn love from your parents. Your parents should love you just the way you are.

Sometimes we can be hard on ourselves about every aspect and trait about our personality and life. Our mindset may be wired to where we don’t think we are deserving of love from anyone. Even kind gestures and words, big and small, we think we don’t deserve them.

This can come from various forms of emotional abuse. Guilt tripping, lies, name-calling, body shaming, even giving someone the cold shoulder can hurt someone severely mentally and emotionally speaking. The duration and severity of emotional abuse can take a heavy toll on our mindset and affect how we view ourselves and life itself.

Now remember there are people out there who will give you some form of love. This can be from anything from positive words, a nice gesture, a pat on the back, to a hug and maybe a kiss. They will do so because they like you, love you, and because they are kind hearted people. Now whether or not you accept their love is up to you.

There are people out there who love you just the way you are. You are lovable because you exist. You are love. Love is more about how you treat yourself rather than how others treat you.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

I’m Back

Hi everyone after nearly one year away, I’m back. I’ll keep it brief on what I’ve been up to.

So I took some time to do a lot of self-care work. It had it’s ups and downs and stagnant days. At the beginning of the year, I got Covid which put me out of commission for awhile. I tried a new job which didn’t really suit me and was draining along with having another part time job with it. I lost some money through cryptocurrency. I have been working with a counselor and briefly with a life coach who have been tremendously helpful.

Now I’m working as a dietary aide at a assisted living facility full-time. I’m also studying again to take my exam to get licensed for counseling. I’m living more in the present and have gotten much better at not comparing myself to others.

So the plan is I’m going to post once a week for the time being. Before I took a break, I did redesign my blog with a new layout. The new post will be a symbolism post and will be posted tomorrow.

Thank you for your patience. I appreciate you all for following my blog and taking the time to read my content. I’m doing much better than I was this time last year. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Christmas Update

Hi everyone, I hope your all doing well and that the holidays are treating you all right. So I know I’ve been away for quite some time; well I have some updates.

So I’m currently working two part time jobs, one in the morning and the other from the afternoon into the evening. Right now all my energy and attention have gone into acclimating my daily routine into balancing and working both jobs while trying to not get burned out.

Those of you who are following me and get emails of when I upload posts, may have noticed that I redesigned my logo and changed the overall theme.

I also have been thinking of new ideas of writing different kinds of posts and setting up new pages. I’ll keep you posted on that.

Thank you all for being patient with me as I balance two jobs and work on some personal things in my life. I hope to get back to uploading posts soon. I truly appreciate all of you who follow, like, and comment on my posts. I enjoy seeing and reading your feedback.

Have a wonderful Christmas and holiday season as 2021 comes to a close. Spend time with loved ones, have fun, and relax, you’ve earned it. For those of you where Christmas isn’t the most wonderful time of the year, your not alone in your struggles. I’ll send good vibes your way and say a prayer for you all. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Symbolism: What You Build and Create is Different Than Others

You are Your Own Person

My very first post when I started this blog was a post on comparing yourself to others. This concept is a real struggle for some people. So for this symbolism post I thought I talk about in another perspective.

As we get older, we begin to create our own lifestyle. However, other people’s lifestyles can make us feel jealous and envyness. Sometimes we focus our mindset towards what others. This can be because they either have qualities, traits, or material things that we want or we think their way of life is than ours.

So I want you to focus on the first tree in the center of the pic. What do you notice? It’s not a huge tree. It looks to be in good health. It has a handful of branches that aren’t real big or long, but it has a bunch of green leaves.

Someone planted this tree and mother nature has been good to it and taken care of it. Now this tree didn’t get this way over night or in 1 week. It took time for it to get this way. Just like when you build or create something big like a house or a diorama, it takes time and effort to complete them.

Now don’t get me wrong, some things can get done in a day or less than a days time. The point is that every big business or actors successful TV and/or film career didn’t come about in a short time. That business success and fame took time to grow.

Now look at this pic. What’s different from the first? Well there are more trees. These trees are very big. They have more branches and they are longer and stronger. These individual trees have way more leaves on them.

Each of these trees are in good health and they have been around for a long time. Now think back what I just mentioned about the first tree. These trees have had more time to become what they are.

Overall Point

Success isn’t always achieved overnight or in a days time. The bigger and biggest things take time, energy, and effort to develop. Everyone starts from a different starting line. If you have built and created something and it’s only gotten as successful as the progress of the first tree, that’s fine. Don’t let the success of people and the creation of other things (the big trees) discourage you.

You don’t always know the full story. Those that make it appear like everything is going great and problem free, may be hiding some huge problems. If that’s the case, you should feel lucky that you don’t have to deal with those huge problems.

Some people only like talking about their successes which isn’t a bad thing. However, this can give push people away and intimidate them into thinking that they are not good enough or failures. They may think that nothing wrong ever happens to that person.

Now this goes into how someones mindset is. If it’s a pessimistic one, then that can cause unwanted stress. If it’s a optimistic one, someone can be happy for the other person’s accomplishment and maybe even get inspired from it.

One last thing, don’t put down or make fun of whatever someone else has created and built regardless of the size. A lot of work and passion went into creating whatever it is. The person who created it probably feels proud of it. Be nice to one another.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Don’t Put Out Someone Elses Candle Just to Make Yours Brighter

This saying really got me thinking when I first heard it. It helped me appreciate the friends I have even more. So maybe you all haven’t heard this exact phrase, but maybe something like it.

All of us have dealt with various struggles in our life. Yes some of us more than others. We shouldn’t put each other down. You could say we should share the spotlight with others instead of hogging it.

Here’s a scenario, say you and a friend are hiking up a big hill. You both reach the top, you feel great and have energy to spare. Yet your friend is tired and more exhausted than you. The moral is that you should give praise your friend for making it to the top. You shouldn’t belittle them for being tired and gloat that the hike was very easy for you.

You wouldn’t like it if someone put you down, belittled, or mocked you for something that you worked so hard at especially if it wasn’t easy for you to accomplish right? We should encourage and lift up each other especially our friends, family, co-workers, and fellow students. You don’t always know what kind of battles and struggles they are dealing with. That big amount of praise or even those few words like “Well Done” or ” You did it” can do wonders for a person’s overall well being.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Your Not Alone, We’re All Doing Something Different Together

Throughout the time I started this blog, the main idea ‘your not alone’ hasn’t changed. I have talked about various topics where someone can feel alone. Various factors, circumstances, events can make us feel alone directly and indirectly. Just remember, your not the only one who is dealing or feeling whatever it is that your going through or even have went through.

We are all doing something different together. We are all on different paths in our life. Sometimes those paths cross each other, sometimes are paths are alongside each other.

Just because your friend is doing something different than you, that doesn’t mean that they have abandoned or forgotten about you. Your life can be really busy with work, school, both, or even raising children, for example while your two friends from college are traveling the world and going to different events in your community. You can feel down and alone because you don’t see them as much or hang out like you all used to.

They are on a different path than you and that is fine. It doesn’t mean their path is better than your path or your path is better than theirs. This idea can be misconstrued and that is where stress and anxiety can come in and make us feel bad about ourselves.

You have to live your life and your circle of friends and family have to live theirs. You have your priorities and things to get done and manage just like everyone else. Every life path is unique and different. Your doing something different than the person sitting right in front of you and that person is doing something different than the person across the room. We all may be doing something different, but as a collective, we’re doing it together.

Take care, stay safe, and remember that your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Being and Living in the Present Can Tough

We want to plan for our future and look back or dwell in the past. So we try to live in the present and focus on the day ahead. Yet this is easier said than done.

If were going through any kind of struggle (emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual), living in the present can be tough. We encounter things that are out of our control. We get curve balls that throw our daily, weekly, monthly, or even yearly schedules for a loop. When these things happen, we want to focus on the future outcomes and look back on what happened. Our attention is driven back to the future and the past.

Being emotionally present can be tough to do if you have a whirlwind of emotions going on. Mentally your attention and focus can be scattered and your being driven by your out of control emotions. Maybe you have a physical ailment that is taking your attention and focus. You might have just gotten your wisdom teeth pulled and your attention and focus is all on the pain your feeling. Maybe someone just passed away who you were very close to and now you may be questioning your morals, values, or the spiritual beliefs you hold dear.

If all 4 of these aspects aren’t in check, then trying to be present can be difficult. Being present can be one of the hardest things to do and master. Over the course of our life, we are told to focus and plan on our future. Look back and learn from our mistakes. Even though these are good, we aren’t taught how to look forward properly and come back to the present. We also aren’t taught how to not dwell on the past and come back to the present.

Don’t give up if your trying to master this concept. Some days it’s easier and some days it’s harder; I speak from experience. Ask trusted friends, family members, teachers, or counselors for tips and advice if your struggling. Remember your not perfect; no is perfect.

Take care, stay safe, and remember that your not alone and you have worth in this world.