How Often Does Time Get Away From You?

Hi everyone, I hope you all had a wonderful 4th of July (if you celebrate it). One thing that got me wondering this past weekend is time itself. I bet there was a handful of times at one point where you had said ‘where has the time gone?’ or ‘how did time get away from me?’. I myself have said that numerous times to myself or to my friends. Your not alone if you feel like time has gotten away from you.

How Does Time get Away From Us

Growing up, some of us don’t keep track of time or have any time management skills. As kids, sometimes we aren’t taught how to manage our time properly. When were in school, a conference, meeting, or a seminar for example, time can drag on and feel like forever yet only a small amount of time has gone by. Then some days, time goes by so fast and the day is almost over yet it feels like the day just started and we just woke up.

Lets be real, we all at one point have slept in and didn’t get out of bed until later in the day. Well that can be because we didn’t sleep until late at night. Is it this simple, unfortunately no. Everyone has a different life schedule where some of us have jobs late at night. Some of us stay up late to study and others stay up late partying. Then there are those who have sleep troubles where it’s physically and mentally hard to fall asleep.

Sleep schedules and patterns are just a couple of factors of time getting away from us. We can get so involved into something that we lose all track of time. Planning a party, building a model of the Titanic, binging something on Netflix, playing a sport with friends, playing video games are examples where time just gets away from us. We can be working on a company project, doing chores, or studying up for a math test that time just flies right by. Spending time with friends and loved ones always seems to pass the time.

Now all those things can eat up a lot of time right? Well some of you see that as your life, a life you used to live, or maybe a life you want to tweek and make changes to. With the right mindset, you can keep time in check while not obsessing or dwelling on it. You don’t need to look at your phone, the clock, or watch counting minutes and seconds.

Here are some tips to help you better manage your time:

  • Organization is a great way to have clarity and get down what you need to get done
  • Setting realistic goals and writing them down believe it or not can help motivate you to accomplish everything on your to do list
  • Planning how much time you want to spend on one thing can help you not lose track of time and get the next thing done before the day is up
  • Managing your stress to stay in the present and using it correctly to not let things slip away is helpful
  • Prioritize what needs to get done first or what will need the most energy can help you get things done and have energy to spare
  • Self-awareness is helpful in keeping track of time and I don’t mean looking at your watch or the clock consistently. You can set an alarm to let you know when your time on something is up or set up a 5 or 10 minute warning.
  • That to do list I keep mentioning, write it down if it helps you prioritize things better instead of remembering it all in your head.
  • Stay focused on what you need to do or get done. Try to minimize any distractions around you like the TV or unnecessary noise.

Wrap Up

Time management is key. Sometimes we feel like there isn’t enough time in the day to do the things we want to do. With the proper prioritizing of goals and your to do list, you can get a lot done and still have time in the day.

Some of what I said can be described as setting up a routine. I talked about routines before and how they can work against us instead of helping us. This just goes back to having the right kind of balance in your life which takes time to figure out. Everyone is different, so what works for some people may not work for you. It’s ok to have game nights on Fridays or going to the movies on Wednesday afternoons.

Remember to have flexibility in your life, that way you can manage your time better and not become a victim of your own routine; don’t let it control you, control it. It’s ok to change things up; something new is great for the mind. Also don’t forget that if you need time to rest and do nothing, that’s perfectly fine. Don’t feel guilty about it, we all need downtime and rest, we need to recharge ourselves, and this can help in slowing down our thoughts so their not causing us unwanted anxiety or stress. This helps in us having and maintaining a clear mind.

Staying in the present can help us not think and dwell too much about the future and the past. Try focusing on the next hour and what you can do in it. Don’t think about the next hour or later in the day. Don’t think back to earlier in the day, that time has passed. You have 60 minutes, put your energy and focus solely on that period of time. I have learned that this technique helps me stay more in the present time.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: Prisoner of Your Past

Hi everyone, for this video discussion I thought I’d try something a bit different. Instead of watching and hearing someone explain the topic, I thought that it would be nice to try some reflection and then do the discussion.

The video has just a quote and some background music. You can reloop the video for the music if it makes it easier for you to think. If you want to use other music, go ahead.

Now that you have reflected on the quote, how do you feel? Does this quote hit home for you? Do you know someone who is a prisoner of their past? Were you once a prisoner of your past mistakes?

Prisoners of Our Past Why?

It’s not always easy to break free from our past. Sometimes people don’t know that they’re living their daily lives, though in the present, the mindset is in the past.

Mistakes, wrong choices, setbacks, not forgiving others, or not forgiving onself are some reasons why people are prisoners of their past. People can be smart, kind, and wise, but things change when something bad happens to them whether it’s by someone else, something else, or by their own free will. Now people will go through the storm and come out of it. However that’s not always the end of the story.

During that storm, people sometimes bury or try to bury something bad that happened to them that they don’t want anyone else to know. They are told to toughen up, smile, or act like it never happened and move on. Yet they deal with various emotions like regret, guilt, jealously, unwanted stress, or sadness. In some cases, people will succumb to depression or other bad habits and sometimes not realize it like unhealthy eating or drugs.

Other cases though, people will not want to forgive someone else who did them wrong. This can keep them stuck in that past hurt. Someone who hurt a family member, a friend, or someone close to them can be stuck in that past hurt because they are unable to forgive themselves.

Forgiveness can be Freedom

One way to help break free from being a prisoner of your past is forgiveness. I have talked about forgiveness before and forgiving yourself of past mistakes is the first step toward healing and truly moving forward. You acknowledge your mistakes, you see them as life lessons in which you learn from, and you free yourself from your prison.

Forgiving others is different. We are directly or indirectly taught that we shouldn’t forgive others who did us wrong. We wind up holding a grudge which can affect and change our way of living and thinking in ways that can be unhealthy. Remember forgiving someone doesn’t mean that your justifying or exonerating what they did to you, it means that your not going to be hindered by that hurt any longer. Your not going to let that hurt dictate every decision you make. Your not going to let that other person or people have power over you anymore. You accept and acknowledge what happened, you forgive the other person, and then you truly move on.

Both scenarios show that forgiveness toward yourself and toward others is the first step toward healing, fixing things, making things better in your life, and maybe in other people’s lives as well.

Wrap Up

Being a prisoner of your past happens to even good people. Some know it and some don’t. Your not alone if you felt this way or are currently feeling this way. There are people all over the world who are prisoners of their past. Maybe the waiter who served you last week is a prisoner of his past. Maybe that server at Starbucks, the person right beside you, the person who is always happy, or your closest friend who is like a sibling to you are prisoners of their past.

You can break free from this. It will take some time and effort, but you can take the first step and start making and living a better life you deserve. You are worthy of love, respect, kindness, and peace of mind.

Reflecting on life can be scary, but it can be beneficial and enriching. I hope that when you reflected earlier when watching the video, you realized some things that you need in your life and/or no longer need in your life.

Take care, stay safe and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Symbolism: The Roads of Life

Hi everyone it has been awhile since I have done a symbolism post. I’ve talked about how we are all on different roads in life. Some roads intersect and some go in the opposite direction from our friends and loves ones. The roads of life are different for everyone and they are smooth and bumpy.

This kind of road resembles how life has ups and downs. We have great moments where we feel like we’re on cloud 9. We also have moments where we feel tired, stressed, and overwhelmed.

This pic symbolizes someone who is going through a very rough time. We feel like we hit rock bottom, the stress and anxiety were feeling is overwhelming. We can feel depressed and the light at the end of the tunnel is nowhere in sight.

We have bad moments and storms that we go through in our lives. Some are unavoidable, some are caused by others, and the experience can take a toll on our physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional health.

Like the first pic, life has it’s ups and downs. This one to me symbolizes how we work hard to achieve something great where we can feel accomplished and satisfied. The journey up is not always easy and can be tiresome. The hill the road is on symbolizes that.

Life has a way of taking unexpected turns which can be beneficial to us. We end up staying away from things, environments, or people that we thought we help improve our lives but ultimately would end up hurting us. We don’t always know that though.

However, those unexpected turns can happen at any moment and throw a wrench in our lives and the plans we have. We sometimes have no choice but to take that detour and go forward.

This pic is a smooth road which is something we all hope and strive to be on. Some of us are on that road right now. There are no rough spots, no forks, no turns, and no bumps. Being on a smooth road means that there is no unwanted stress, we’re not worried about anything, and we feel fulfilled and calm.

Wrap Up

All roads are smooth and rough. All I can say is when your on that smooth road, savior every moment. The rough roads don’t last forever. Moral support from friends and loved ones makes being on those roads easier to handle. Being able to adapt, change, and be flexible is what will help you when those unexpected turns in the road happen.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Time: Self Affirmations

So when things are getting you down or you feel like your a magnet for bad things in your life, you can feel like your not deserving of anything good. One thing I started doing was saying 10 things that I am grateful for every morning and every night. That has really helped me start to feel better and better deal with troubles in my life.

Positive self affirmations are also helpful as well. In these 3 videos, you’ll hear more about how positive and negative self informations can help you and also hold you back and hurt you. You will hear how they can affect you in your conscious and your unconscious. You may not notice much at first as this will take some time to get into a rhythm, but if you start repeating them on a daily basis, eventually you will start to feel better about yourself, attract better things, and your confidence will build-up.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Whose an Approachable Person in Your Life?

Have you ever been around someone and you just get a vibe from them about whether or not you should talk to them or not? Their words say one thing and yet your not sure if you should ask them a question or not. You start thinking ‘should I even be around them though’.

If you have had these thoughts before, your not the only one. I’ve had those thoughts myself. There are people who are cautious about who they talk to. They are also cautious about who they invest their time and energy with.

Why Do People Think This Way?

Shyness, unwanted stress and anxiety, letting insecurities run your life, not knowing how to introduce yourself to others, and fear in general can be factors of why someone will keep to themselves and not talk to someone. These factors can cause someone to think other people are not approachable. If your confused and/or don’t understand something, you don’t ask a question or for help and you just keep it to yourself. However that’s not always the case.

People give off vibes about their personality. This is can be from the way they talk and the way they act around friends, family, and strangers. Some people say things to invite others into their lives like, “If you have questions, don’t hesitate to ask”, or “You can call or text me anytime”. Words say one thing, the behavior from the person can say another.

There are people who can pick up on good and bad vibes from others very easily. There are people who you can open up to about anything. There are those you can open up to, but you are still reserved on some deep personal things.

Examples

If you know someone who raises their voice to the point of yelling during a simple conversation and has trouble talking to people, chances are this person isn’t very approachable even if they say you can talk to them anytime you need to. Then you have someone who smiles when they’re around people they know and don’t know. They are being kind and generous to others. When they say things, you can take their word for it. These types of people are approachable to go up to. You can introduce yourself to them and ask them questions easily.

Here’s some tips and ways to approach other people better and how you can become more approachable to others:

  • Be respectful to others and yourself
  • Smile and laugh
  • Take people up on their offer when they say you can ask them anything
  • Use eye contact
  • Take some deep breaths
  • Rehearse your introduction to others
  • Keep your head up
  • Mirror the person your talking to
  • Avoid nervous twitching and habits
  • Be accessible to others
  • If your holding something like a drink, hold it at your side, not in front of your chest
  • Be positive
  • Nod and acknowledge the other person during a conversation

Wrap Up

Anyone can be approachable; only you can decide if that’s you. Confidence doesn’t come easy for some people. It can take time, but that’s ok. Just be patient and keep working on it. If you have trouble looking someone in the eye, try looking at just one of their eyes or in between their eyes until it gets easier. Not everyone is out to get you. People who say ‘you can come to me and ask me questions’ some really do mean it. That goes for the same to those people who say ‘were always here for you’.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.