Food for Thought: Receiving Love

At some point in your life you have received various forms of love. Love can come from anyone. Parents, siblings, friends, spouses, boyfriend, girlfriend, animals, even kind-hearted strangers. Love can come when you least suspect it; I’m sure you’ve heard that saying before.

Maybe you heard or learned that love is something you have to earn. While that might be true for when you are dating someone and getting to know them on a deep personal level, this not entirely true in relation to life itself. For example, you should never have to be put in a position where you have to earn love from your parents. Your parents should love you just the way you are.

Sometimes we can be hard on ourselves about every aspect and trait about our personality and life. Our mindset may be wired to where we don’t think we are deserving of love from anyone. Even kind gestures and words, big and small, we think we don’t deserve them.

This can come from various forms of emotional abuse. Guilt tripping, lies, name-calling, body shaming, even giving someone the cold shoulder can hurt someone severely mentally and emotionally speaking. The duration and severity of emotional abuse can take a heavy toll on our mindset and affect how we view ourselves and life itself.

Now remember there are people out there who will give you some form of love. This can be from anything from positive words, a nice gesture, a pat on the back, to a hug and maybe a kiss. They will do so because they like you, love you, and because they are kind hearted people. Now whether or not you accept their love is up to you.

There are people out there who love you just the way you are. You are lovable because you exist. You are love. Love is more about how you treat yourself rather than how others treat you.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

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Food for Thought: Don’t Put Out Someone Elses Candle Just to Make Yours Brighter

This saying really got me thinking when I first heard it. It helped me appreciate the friends I have even more. So maybe you all haven’t heard this exact phrase, but maybe something like it.

All of us have dealt with various struggles in our life. Yes some of us more than others. We shouldn’t put each other down. You could say we should share the spotlight with others instead of hogging it.

Here’s a scenario, say you and a friend are hiking up a big hill. You both reach the top, you feel great and have energy to spare. Yet your friend is tired and more exhausted than you. The moral is that you should give praise your friend for making it to the top. You shouldn’t belittle them for being tired and gloat that the hike was very easy for you.

You wouldn’t like it if someone put you down, belittled, or mocked you for something that you worked so hard at especially if it wasn’t easy for you to accomplish right? We should encourage and lift up each other especially our friends, family, co-workers, and fellow students. You don’t always know what kind of battles and struggles they are dealing with. That big amount of praise or even those few words like “Well Done” or ” You did it” can do wonders for a person’s overall well being.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Your Not Alone, We’re All Doing Something Different Together

Throughout the time I started this blog, the main idea ‘your not alone’ hasn’t changed. I have talked about various topics where someone can feel alone. Various factors, circumstances, events can make us feel alone directly and indirectly. Just remember, your not the only one who is dealing or feeling whatever it is that your going through or even have went through.

We are all doing something different together. We are all on different paths in our life. Sometimes those paths cross each other, sometimes are paths are alongside each other.

Just because your friend is doing something different than you, that doesn’t mean that they have abandoned or forgotten about you. Your life can be really busy with work, school, both, or even raising children, for example while your two friends from college are traveling the world and going to different events in your community. You can feel down and alone because you don’t see them as much or hang out like you all used to.

They are on a different path than you and that is fine. It doesn’t mean their path is better than your path or your path is better than theirs. This idea can be misconstrued and that is where stress and anxiety can come in and make us feel bad about ourselves.

You have to live your life and your circle of friends and family have to live theirs. You have your priorities and things to get done and manage just like everyone else. Every life path is unique and different. Your doing something different than the person sitting right in front of you and that person is doing something different than the person across the room. We all may be doing something different, but as a collective, we’re doing it together.

Take care, stay safe, and remember that your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Being and Living in the Present Can Tough

We want to plan for our future and look back or dwell in the past. So we try to live in the present and focus on the day ahead. Yet this is easier said than done.

If were going through any kind of struggle (emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual), living in the present can be tough. We encounter things that are out of our control. We get curve balls that throw our daily, weekly, monthly, or even yearly schedules for a loop. When these things happen, we want to focus on the future outcomes and look back on what happened. Our attention is driven back to the future and the past.

Being emotionally present can be tough to do if you have a whirlwind of emotions going on. Mentally your attention and focus can be scattered and your being driven by your out of control emotions. Maybe you have a physical ailment that is taking your attention and focus. You might have just gotten your wisdom teeth pulled and your attention and focus is all on the pain your feeling. Maybe someone just passed away who you were very close to and now you may be questioning your morals, values, or the spiritual beliefs you hold dear.

If all 4 of these aspects aren’t in check, then trying to be present can be difficult. Being present can be one of the hardest things to do and master. Over the course of our life, we are told to focus and plan on our future. Look back and learn from our mistakes. Even though these are good, we aren’t taught how to look forward properly and come back to the present. We also aren’t taught how to not dwell on the past and come back to the present.

Don’t give up if your trying to master this concept. Some days it’s easier and some days it’s harder; I speak from experience. Ask trusted friends, family members, teachers, or counselors for tips and advice if your struggling. Remember your not perfect; no is perfect.

Take care, stay safe, and remember that your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Being Challenged = Change

You probably have heard how you need to challenge yourself to new things. You may also have heard that change can be a good thing. Have you heard the phrase, you can’t change unless your challenged? Maybe you haven’t heard this phrase before or heard this exact wording; I know I didn’t.

We all go through all kinds of different challenges and trials in our lives. Experiencing a new thing is a trial itself; you can consider it a challenge as well depending on what it is. Theses challenges and trials can help us grow and expand our horizon of skills and knowledge.

Change is something that people embrace and fear. Change can be enriching, but also scary. We can be heavily involved in our ways and routines that we put off or ignore any kind of change. Change can mean taking yourself of our comfort zone into the new or unknown.

So back to the phrase, you can’t change unless your challenged. Family members, teachers, employees, students, mentors, friends, spouse, your boyfriend, or girlfriend will challenge you directly or indirectly. Some will challenge you to learn a new skill, to be a better person, or to feel and express your emotions.

People will push you out of your comfort zone, not to make you feel uncomfortable, but to expand your horizon. They may want to help you see things in a new perspective or from their point of view. They want to help you grow. We can get stuck in our mental, spiritual, emotional, even our physical growth and not realize it. Those who care about us and our well being only want to help in the best way they can.

Sometimes its easy to accept change, sometimes its hard. Those we know and don’t know are on the same playing field. Sometimes its easier to change for the better by strangers encouraging us those we care about. Sometimes its the opposite; everyone is different. Now there are many other ways a person can change. You can read something new, learn new things by doing them, watch another person do something, or hear someone explain it to you. Change can be a good thing, but remember don’t change the core morals and values that make you unique and special.

Take care, stay safe, and remember that your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Don’t Lose the Love in Your Heart

The love you carry in your heart is something very precious.  It’s the love you have for the people in your life, life itself, and the love you have for yourself.  However, various things can destroy or damage that love. 

Words spoken out of anger, betrayal of trust, lies, words and actions that install fear into people are some examples that can take away that love if we let it.  When these things come from those we like, love, and care about, it hurts even worse and can be very damaging to our physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual health.

Don’t let the fear and anger of others take away the love you have on your heart.  Maybe easier said than done.  Anger and fear can cause a lot of pain to someone and it’s not always visible. Remember that

As I mentioned, having the ability to love yourself and other people in a genuine and sincere way is something precious.  Unfortunately not everyone on the world can do this.  If you can, treasure this gift and don’t take it for granted.   Your family members and the real friends in your life are grateful and blessed to have you in their life.

Food for Thought: Lost but you can Still Find Your Way

It’s been a long time since I wrote a food for thought post. Last month, I realized that no matter how lost you are, you can still be found. You can still find your path and way of life.

It’s never too late to find your way regardless of your age. If your struggling with negative and toxic thoughts or a lie that has plagued you for years, you can overcome it; just don’t give up. You can find joy, peace of mind, and freedom.