Video Time: Mental Exhaustion

So I’m back after a week of resting. Work is still pretty busy for me. I hope you guys are taking care of yourselves.

This post is a compilation of videos about mental exhaustion. I’ve talked about recharging your batteries and refilling your cup. With the pandemic, our mental and emotional health has taken a hit; some more than others.

The first video talks about 6 signs of mental and emotional exhaustion. The second video talks about 5 types of tiredness. The third video is about mental fatigue and how we can improve it. These videos spoke to me. I hope you all can take away something from them.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Symbolism: Don’t Just Recharge Your Batteries, Recharge Yourself

Sometimes we think we have all the energy in the world and that we can do anything and everything. Well that ain’t exactly our reality. As we get older, yes we don’t have as much energy as we did when we were younger, but is there another reason behind that?

Humans Have a Battery Life Too

Just like our phones, computers, laptops, iPads, for example, we too have a battery life. Let that sink in for a bit. When you wake up in the morning, do you feel fully recharged, somewhat, or not at all? Do one of these battery pics symbolise you throughout the day or your life in general? If they do, trust me your not alone. There are people out there who feel full of energy, some who have just enough to get through the day, and there are others who are burned out all the time. Your one of these people along with so many others.

I have mentioned in previous posts about being burned out and energy consumption. With everything we do we are using energy thus our battery life goes down. What one should know is where or what is most of their energy being consumed or going? Knowing the answer to that can help one to better manage their battery life.

This question really got me thinking. Is this our reality in our society today? Are we giving ourselves the chance to recharge like we do with all of our other electronic devices? Are we giving ourselves the same amount of love and care as we give to our electronic devices? Are our electronic devices a higher priority than ourselves? Are you coming home from work, school, somewhere, or got done doing something where you used up a lot of energy and are falling asleep and crashing on your bed or couch? I want you to really think about these questions.

Are you saying yes to some of them, no to some of them? Are you saying yes to all of them? Are you say no to them because you have found a good balance in your life? I want you to be honest with yourselves and not sugar coat anything. Are you arriving at some answers that are make you feel uncomfortable; well once again your not alone. There are dozens of people who have answered yes and no to the questions you said yes and no too.

What do I Do Now?

I recently gave this advice to a friend of mine. It’s not a crime to take time for yourself. We all need a break every now and then. Someone once told me that putting yourself first is always important and you should never feel bad about that. Now this may sound selfish, but ask yourself this. If we are too busy doing one thing after another, whether that’s work, school, volunteering, helping others, chores, for example, where is the time to recharge ourselves? Sometimes the answer to that question is there is no time. If we are unable to recharge yourselves, then it can lead to burnout.

Going to back to the symbolism post on refilling your cup, the advice I mentioned in that is what you can do to recharge your battery life. Engaging in your hobbies, meditating, resting, eating a healthy meal or eating in general, or just doing the things you love and are passionate about. There are things you do in your life that yes may use energy, but you don’t feel depleted; at the end, you feel fine. These things will help get your battery life back to full power.

Wrap Up

Recharging your battery life can take a little bit of time, a few hours, a day, a couple days, maybe a week. Only you know the answer to that question. Recharging your battery life may take some trial and error, but that’s ok. If you haven’t learned how to manage your energy, try the things I mentioned until you figure it out. Try not to be hard on yourself and be patient with yourself. This is also one of the things I worked a lot on during my hiatus from social media last year. If I can figure out a good balance, then you can too.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Symbolism: Pouring Your Cup of Liquid Into Others

So the title of this post may have you scratching your head or maybe you said ‘huh’ after reading the title? This idea is something I learned from a friend of mine whose is the son of the pastor at my church. This analogy is something he learned from someone else, then he told me about it, and now, with his permission, I’m sharing it with you.

This pic is a measuring cup filled with liquid. Now here is where the symbolism comes in. The measuring cup represents you. The liquid inside represents your energy. As you do various things (work, exercise, homework, cooking, cleaning, cheering someone, etc) your using up energy and the analogy is your pouring your liquid into other things and other people’s cups.

A friend needs your help with something; so you pour your liquid (use energy) into their cup. Your mother needs helping fixing something in the house; you pour liquid into her cup. Your best friend just had a bad day, so you help them feel better and more of your liquid goes into their cup.

At this point your cup may look like this. You have a very little amount of energy to use or none at all. Now you feel burned out and may not want to do anything.

Refill

So how do you refill your cup?

  • Take a day or more to rest up
  • Eat some healthy meals
  • Meditation
  • Yoga
  • Watch your favorite movie or TV show
  • Listen to your favorite music
  • Spend time with friends and family who fill you with joy

There are many more things you can do to refill your cup. Only you truly know what will do that. Having a true passion for something can be refilling. You may be doing something and it can look like your using energy, but that passion, to you, is not any kind of work; it’s something that recharges you and makes you happy.

Repeated Cycle

Now this is where things can work against you. Once your cup is refilled, you start pouring into other people’s cups again. When that happens, your once again fatigued, burned out, and the cycle repeats itself.

Now some people live like this day in and day out. There’s nothing wrong with that as long as their recharging themselves often, but some people can get tired of living like that.

A Different Way

Helping and supporting others is something we all should try to do and you can do that in various forms. Going back to the cup analogy, what my friend told me is that you not only let your cup get full, but let the liquid flow out if yours and into other people’s cups. That way your cup stays full, you don’t get burned out, and you can still help other people.

For those of you who are spiritual or religious, my friend says that he let’s God constantly refill his cup (renergize and recharge him). Those of you who aren’t religious or spiritual, whatever it is that recharges your batteries and refills your cup, that is where you want to divulge your time and energy to. This is where having that true passion comes into play.

Wrap Up

Now this idea is something that can take time to get the hang of. It can be a marathon which shouldn’t be rushed. Also it can be easy to be hard on yourself for making mistakes along the way.

Now I understand with Covid being a thing and all the other things that have happened this year around the world, not everyone’s cup will be all the way full and may not get refilled often. We are operating these days not at 100%; we are at 70, 50, 35, maybe 15% but that’s ok. We all have had a tough and challenging year dealing with the virus and things that we never thought would happen or things we never had to do or dealt with before. We just do the best we can with what we got, that’s all we can do. We shouldn’t compare ourselves with other people; that can just bring our morale down.

If your cup can get full, that’s great. If you are doing what my friend is, that’s great too. If your struggling to fill your cup and keep it full, that’s ok. I guarantee you that in either scenario, your not alone. I’ve struggled to refill my cup numerous times and keeping it full takes time and work.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Things About Wearing an Emotional Mask That You May Not Know

So this week, this is something that has been on my mind for quite some time. Lately we all have had to wear masks to protect ourselves from getting the coronavirus, but these aren’t the only masks we’re wearing.

We all wear an emotional mask at some point in our lives. If your wearing an emotional mask right now, let me just say that your not the only one who is. The person sitting next to you might be wearing one. The individual who you see at the other end of the room could be wearing one. Your best friend you have known for a long time might have worn one at some point in their life and maybe still does. Even your parents wear them every now and then or even right now. We wear these masks because we don’t want the world and the people in our lives to see us for who we really are.

Emotional Masks are a Thing

These kind of masks are not visible like the face masks people are wearing these days. People wear these kind of masks to hide their real emotions, intentions, secrets, morals, and values from the people around them even those close to them. Emotional masks are worn at school, work, when we’re with friends, church, at home, social events, and even when we are with our spouse, partner, boyfriend, and girlfriend.

Fatigue From Wearing Emotional Masks?

Yes, this can happen when you wear an emotional mask for an extended period of time. Your trying to hide your real emotions from others and these emotions can be heavy and strong. This would require you to use a lot of mental energy to keep them at bay. The longer the time period, the more energy you use.

For me, I felt tired not long after I got off of work and didn’t have much energy to do anything. When I took my mask off it felt relieving, but I ended up falling asleep and taking long naps. If you ever wondered why you were feeling tired or exhausted lately, it could be because your mask is still on or your leaving it on for too long.

What Wearing an Emotional Mask Can do to You

You may feel like your about to fall apart trying to get school work in order or crack under the pressure you have been under from work, so you wear an emotional mask to make it seem like you are doing wonderful and have everything under control. Your afraid people will look down on you, you may feel ashamed or guilty about something; overall you don’t want people to see you in a position where you don’t have things figured out or your life together.

For example, you may be getting ready to go to college and your scared. Yet, to your parents, family members, and friends you are excited and ready to begin a new chapter in your life. You don’t want them to know that you’re afraid, so you put on a fake smile and say things like ‘I’ll be all right’ or ‘I know what I’m going to major in college’.

Also by wearing an emotional mask you may end up putting up a wall which can keep people out from getting close to you. What I mean is if someone comes along and is struggling with things in their life, they may feel intimidated by someone who appears to have everything together where in reality they don’t; they’re in the same position as the other person. You could say why wouldn’t the struggling person go to the person who is doing all right and ask for advice to better their life? In some cases they do, but sometimes they don’t. The struggling person can get an idea in their mind that this person who is doing all right doesn’t want to be bothered by them. The negative thinking can make them think that they’ll bring this other person down and cause them problems.

Sometimes putting on an emotional mask to cover your struggles can cause people to not open up to you and be vulnerable. It could also make you not approachable. This doesn’t always happen, but it does. The way people are dealing with their struggles is linked to their self-worth and self-esteem which I have talked about in terms of what could happen if they are both low.

Here are some ways you can take off the emotional mask if your afraid too and how that can be relieving:

  • Prepare and be courageous
  • Be patient with yourself
  • Know who you are and accept yourself
  • Be aware of the process
  • Love yourself
  • Breathe a sigh of relief
  • Forgive yourself
  • Build new and closer connections with people
  • See things in a new perspective

Discussion

If you want to take off your mask, you first have to want to take it off. You have internal conflicts going on and heavy emotions present. If you have been wearing an emotional mask for an extended period of time, it can take longer to remove it. Gather your courage and remind yourself how much better you will feel by not wearing a mask all the time. Accepting who you are and your flaws can make things easier because you don’t feel the need to hide from people. This can help you love yourself and see your uniqueness in the world.

Forgive yourself of any mistakes you have made. You won’t feel ashamed and/or guilty and the need to hide behind a mask will disappear. Taking off that emotional mask can lower and eliminate that wall you put up. You begin to let people in and show your vulnerability which can lead others to do the same and they feel better about themselves. Be aware of the emotions that are present as you begin to remove your mask. If you take it off bit by bit, pay attention to yourself. Recognize how you feel when you aren’t wearing a mask. It should feel relieving. If it isn’t, you may be rushing things. Be patient with yourself and don’t rush the process. Also don’t forget to breathe a sigh of relief and savior the moments as you begin to remove your mask.

Wrap Up

Removing an emotional mask can help you see the world in a new perspective. You can start seeing people for who they really and look at things differently than you did before. You can see things and people more clearly. Use positive affirmations to help motivate you and keep the voices of anxiety and negative toxic thoughts out of your head. The overall moral is that removing an emotional mask is one of the toughest things a person can do in their life. So hang in there and don’t give up or doubt yourself; you can do it. I learned recently that vulnerability leads to intimacy. By removing your emotional mask and becoming vulnerable, you may inspire those around you to do the same. That can help them open up about their repressed emotions and you may find out that they’re dealing with the same problems and struggles you are. Take care and remember you’re not alone and you have worth in this world.

Getting Stuck in a Bad Cycle is a Pain

Let your unhappiness and frustrations be your fuel to break your vicious cycles

Trina Hall

You ever gotten into a situation where you got stuck in a bad, stale, or painful routine where the same things repeated themselves over and over? At some point in our lives this has happened to us. Either we did it to ourselves intentionally or someone put us in that predicament. There are times where a series of unfortunate events happen to us that is out of our control where we get caught up in a vicious cycle. I’ve been caught up in vicious cycles by my own doing or having things out of my control work against me. So your not alone if you think vicious cycles only applies to you.

What is a Vicious Cycle

A cycle where you find yourself repeating unhealthy, unwanted, behavior, that has become a bad habit, or part of a routine is a vicious cycle or circle. We can put ourselves in this predicament intentionally and unintentionally. For example, an unhealthy routine can be so ingrained and our way of living that we don’t notice it. We don’t notice the bad habits or the unpleasant things we’re doing because in a way they have become second nature to us. A vicious cycle can also consist of unhealthy repeated behavior between you and another person. For example, you may not get along with your sibling and every time you try to talk about anything, you both wind up arguing about something and you both wind up in a bad mood. It’s a vicious cycle if it’s happened numerous times even when you try to avoid it. You just feel stuck in it and you think you can’t break free.

What Can This Cycle Do You

This cycle can take a toll on you physically and mentally. Mentally, it can lower your confidence, affect your self-esteem, and your self-worth. You may believe that you will never get out of it no matter how hard you try or how much help you get. It could get so bad that you believe that you deserve this unhealthy way of life because it’s happening you so many times. An unhealthy way of thinking can lead to tough problems even down the road.

Physically, a vicious cycle can be draining to where you don’t have the energy to do anything. You may have heard the fight-or-flight response. When under stress, your body goes into this mode. The fight-or-flight response is the help us with survival situations. These situations are avoiding a dangerous animal or person, making sure we’re safe during a dangerous storm, making sure we stay focused when were traversing through rough terrain. As time has going on, the fight-or-flight response has gone into overdrive. Our body recognizes that we’re in a unhealthy, unsafe, or unpleasant situation so it’s putting out energy (cortisol and adrenaline) to help us get through it. These days situations like being stuck in traffic or waiting in a long line, arguing with someone are triggering the fight-or-flight response. These situations are draining our energy making it tough to do anything. With our energy being low or depleted, it makes it harder for us to deal and cope with anxiety, tough situations, or do the things we enjoy doing.

Break the Cycle

If your stuck in a vicious, or stale cycle, here are some ways to get out of it:

1. Try doing something brand new

2. Relinquish control

3. Challenge your thoughts and the situation

4. Look for repeated behaviors you do that are good

5. Open up to others

Discussion

Doing something entirely new is a great way to disrupt the cycle. Skydiving, traveling to a new country, learning how to scuba dive, learning a new language, are just a few ways to change things up in your life. Engaging in something new means you have no prior knowledge or experience. So the unhealthy, unwanted, and repeated behaviors have nothing to attach to. You can use this as an opportunity to start a healthy, fun, and proactive cycle.

If you’re in a vicious cycle where you’re trying to control something that you can’t, but you keep trying and keep failing, it’s best to just give up on that. Repeated attempts that have ended with the same result over and over and it’s affecting your health in a negative way, indicates that you should just stop it. There are things in this world that we can’t control like peoples behavior. Giving up on that control means that you are stopping the cycle.

The vicious cycle may be going on in your mind. Your mindset may be stuck in an unhealthy way of thinking. You may be dealing with unwanted stress, believing in lies about yourself, or thinking you’re a failure and will never succeed at anything. In reality, a situation is just a situation. It becomes a stressful situation when we attribute stress or anxiety to it. To break free, breakdown your thought process and the situation by challenging it and seeing what is real and what is not. From my own experience, I have found that I set unrealistic expectations for myself, so I changed the way I thought about some things. I picked apart my thought process and eliminated unrealistic and unhealthy thoughts about life, people, and myself.

One way to break a vicious cycle is integrate good behaviors into a new cycle. For example, if you watch something on TV that excites you, you can use that high morale to exercise. After exercising, you may have more confidence to do things that you may have been hesitant to do before. You acquire a new life experience or you learn something new which you can share with a family member or friends. You share this experience or information and your back talking about that TV show that excited you. As you can see one good thing led to another and another. You can turn the vicious cycle into a proactive, happy, and fun one.

Sometimes opening it up and talking things out can break the cycle. A cycle that consists of arguing back and forth with no resolve could be stopped by talking calmly instead of yelling and listening to the other person instead of interrupting them. Both of you coming up with solutions and trying to figure out what can work instead of it being one-sided.

Final Thoughts and Sum Up

A vicious cycle can be harmful to you. Remember if you’re stuck in one, you can get out of it. Don’t think that you’re the only one who is dealing with it. All it takes is one action to break the cycle. Don’t let yourself be a prisoner of your own mind. Ask for help to get out of it. If you’re stuck in a vicious cycle that includes another person or group of people, it may be best to forget about the other person or people all together. You decide how you want to live. If you don’t like being stuck in a stale or vicious cycle, you have the power to free yourself from it. It’s ok if you have to ask for help.

Burnout, Yeah It’s a Real Thing

Are you someone who does one thing and then goes to another thing over and over until you go to sleep or do you skip sleep? Are you that person who works 40+ hours a week? Do you have a homework assignment after another that keeps you busy until the due date? Are you working on a project and then when it’s done your right away working on another? If you said yes to any of these questions, then there may be a chance that your heading to a burnout or may be burned out.

The Body Needs Energy

We wake up, eat breakfast, do something (school, work, etc), eat lunch, do something else, eat dinner, do something another thing, then go to bed and repeat the process the next day. Energy is what gets us to do anything, but you knew that. The reality is, there is only so much energy we have to do things until we can’t do no more. We push ourselves to keep going. We drink things with caffeine and sugar in them like energy drinks and coffee for example to get through the day. We then crash at any point in the day and sometimes we don’t expect it because your body has had enough.

The Reality of Burnout

Burnout is real. I have experienced it numerous times in my life. So your not the only one who experiences this phenomenon. I guarantee you that every person has experienced this. We push ourselves and push ourselves because our mind says we can. We get to the point where we run out of energy and we dip into our reserves. When we run out of our reserves, I believe that we just run off of fumes until we crash. For the time being our body and our mind are in sync with each other, but when we push ourselves too far, our body takes the steering wheel and taps out. It doesn’t matter what our mind says what we can do at this point, our body has the final word and always will.

Here are some ways to detect burnout and how to prevent that:

1. Eat Something

When we wake up in the morning, we have a tendency to skip breakfast and just have a cup of coffee. There are times we get a pastry and something to drink at Starbucks. We also just don’t eat or drink anything in the morning and go to school, work, or run errands, etc. Our body needs food for energy and we all know that; we just don’t have time or we ignore that fact. Eating something whether it’s waffles, a bowl of cereal, fruit, pancakes, eggs, toast, in the morning will help give your body the right kind of energy to help you get through your day. Recharge yourself with lunch and eat a good dinner. Skipping meals will can lead to burnout since your body has nothing to give it fuel.

2. Get a Good Night Sleep

Besides eating, sleep is also important to avoid burnout. Your body needs to recharge and repair itself. Sleep is good for building muscles, hormone growth, protein synthesis, and to process information you have learned. Sleep can also help your brain to have the energy it needs to stave off stress and better handle anxiety. Lack of sleep can lead to unwanted emotional outbursts, mood swings, feeling weak and fatigue to do anything. I’m sure you know or have experienced that a lack of sleep can lead to falling asleep at the steering wheel and dozing off in class.

3. Listen to Your Body, it Knows Best

As I mentioned, our minds may tell us to keep going, but our body has the last word. Our mind can help make us or break us. Our body will tell our mind that it’s had enough and needs to rest. Our mind needs to respond and act responsible toward that. We can’t ignore what our body is telling us. If we push our bodies too far, too much, we can possibly end up doing permanent damage to ourselves which will stick with us for life. I know you don’t want this to happen to you, so listen to your body, it knows best.

4. Recognize the Signals

If your doing something and you start to feel tired all of a sudden, then maybe you need to stop and rest. If your studying for something and you find yourself having trouble concentrating and focusing, take a break. If your out of breath from exercising or doing something extraneous, then you should stop what you doing and rest. Drink something, get something to eat. These are the signals that our body tells us that it’s heading toward a burnout and it doesn’t want that to happen. There are other signals that you know and have experienced that I didn’t mention here. Only you know what they are; best listen to them.

5. Manage Stress

One of the things we forget to do when we are so caught up in things is to manage our stress. Stress can be good, but it can be bad. Stress can take over because our minds are focused and putting energy toward completing whatever task were working on. With our minds preoccupied, stress can sneak in and cause us to not pay attention to the signals our body is telling us. If you are feeling stressed, first make yourself aware of it. As time goes on, try to pace yourself. You know stress is present and you know it can drain you. Try giving yourself a longer break or give yourself an extra break. Maybe you need a quick power nap. Get something to eat and drink. Whatever it is, take care of yourself. Don’t let stress take the steering wheel.

Final Thoughts and Sum Up

Burnout can hinder us from experiencing the joy we get in life. If we’re burned out, everything we do can get sloppy. We may say the wrong thing to someone because we’re tired which has made us moody. You have to listen to your body. It knows you better than anyone in your life. Exercise is good for you, just don’t overdo it. Don’t fall victim to burnout. Take care of yourself; you can’t help anyone if you’re out of energy.