Video Time: Mental Exhaustion

So I’m back after a week of resting. Work is still pretty busy for me. I hope you guys are taking care of yourselves.

This post is a compilation of videos about mental exhaustion. I’ve talked about recharging your batteries and refilling your cup. With the pandemic, our mental and emotional health has taken a hit; some more than others.

The first video talks about 6 signs of mental and emotional exhaustion. The second video talks about 5 types of tiredness. The third video is about mental fatigue and how we can improve it. These videos spoke to me. I hope you all can take away something from them.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Things About Wearing an Emotional Mask That You May Not Know

So this week, this is something that has been on my mind for quite some time. Lately we all have had to wear masks to protect ourselves from getting the coronavirus, but these aren’t the only masks we’re wearing.

We all wear an emotional mask at some point in our lives. If your wearing an emotional mask right now, let me just say that your not the only one who is. The person sitting next to you might be wearing one. The individual who you see at the other end of the room could be wearing one. Your best friend you have known for a long time might have worn one at some point in their life and maybe still does. Even your parents wear them every now and then or even right now. We wear these masks because we don’t want the world and the people in our lives to see us for who we really are.

Emotional Masks are a Thing

These kind of masks are not visible like the face masks people are wearing these days. People wear these kind of masks to hide their real emotions, intentions, secrets, morals, and values from the people around them even those close to them. Emotional masks are worn at school, work, when we’re with friends, church, at home, social events, and even when we are with our spouse, partner, boyfriend, and girlfriend.

Fatigue From Wearing Emotional Masks?

Yes, this can happen when you wear an emotional mask for an extended period of time. Your trying to hide your real emotions from others and these emotions can be heavy and strong. This would require you to use a lot of mental energy to keep them at bay. The longer the time period, the more energy you use.

For me, I felt tired not long after I got off of work and didn’t have much energy to do anything. When I took my mask off it felt relieving, but I ended up falling asleep and taking long naps. If you ever wondered why you were feeling tired or exhausted lately, it could be because your mask is still on or your leaving it on for too long.

What Wearing an Emotional Mask Can do to You

You may feel like your about to fall apart trying to get school work in order or crack under the pressure you have been under from work, so you wear an emotional mask to make it seem like you are doing wonderful and have everything under control. Your afraid people will look down on you, you may feel ashamed or guilty about something; overall you don’t want people to see you in a position where you don’t have things figured out or your life together.

For example, you may be getting ready to go to college and your scared. Yet, to your parents, family members, and friends you are excited and ready to begin a new chapter in your life. You don’t want them to know that you’re afraid, so you put on a fake smile and say things like ‘I’ll be all right’ or ‘I know what I’m going to major in college’.

Also by wearing an emotional mask you may end up putting up a wall which can keep people out from getting close to you. What I mean is if someone comes along and is struggling with things in their life, they may feel intimidated by someone who appears to have everything together where in reality they don’t; they’re in the same position as the other person. You could say why wouldn’t the struggling person go to the person who is doing all right and ask for advice to better their life? In some cases they do, but sometimes they don’t. The struggling person can get an idea in their mind that this person who is doing all right doesn’t want to be bothered by them. The negative thinking can make them think that they’ll bring this other person down and cause them problems.

Sometimes putting on an emotional mask to cover your struggles can cause people to not open up to you and be vulnerable. It could also make you not approachable. This doesn’t always happen, but it does. The way people are dealing with their struggles is linked to their self-worth and self-esteem which I have talked about in terms of what could happen if they are both low.

Here are some ways you can take off the emotional mask if your afraid too and how that can be relieving:

  • Prepare and be courageous
  • Be patient with yourself
  • Know who you are and accept yourself
  • Be aware of the process
  • Love yourself
  • Breathe a sigh of relief
  • Forgive yourself
  • Build new and closer connections with people
  • See things in a new perspective

Discussion

If you want to take off your mask, you first have to want to take it off. You have internal conflicts going on and heavy emotions present. If you have been wearing an emotional mask for an extended period of time, it can take longer to remove it. Gather your courage and remind yourself how much better you will feel by not wearing a mask all the time. Accepting who you are and your flaws can make things easier because you don’t feel the need to hide from people. This can help you love yourself and see your uniqueness in the world.

Forgive yourself of any mistakes you have made. You won’t feel ashamed and/or guilty and the need to hide behind a mask will disappear. Taking off that emotional mask can lower and eliminate that wall you put up. You begin to let people in and show your vulnerability which can lead others to do the same and they feel better about themselves. Be aware of the emotions that are present as you begin to remove your mask. If you take it off bit by bit, pay attention to yourself. Recognize how you feel when you aren’t wearing a mask. It should feel relieving. If it isn’t, you may be rushing things. Be patient with yourself and don’t rush the process. Also don’t forget to breathe a sigh of relief and savior the moments as you begin to remove your mask.

Wrap Up

Removing an emotional mask can help you see the world in a new perspective. You can start seeing people for who they really and look at things differently than you did before. You can see things and people more clearly. Use positive affirmations to help motivate you and keep the voices of anxiety and negative toxic thoughts out of your head. The overall moral is that removing an emotional mask is one of the toughest things a person can do in their life. So hang in there and don’t give up or doubt yourself; you can do it. I learned recently that vulnerability leads to intimacy. By removing your emotional mask and becoming vulnerable, you may inspire those around you to do the same. That can help them open up about their repressed emotions and you may find out that they’re dealing with the same problems and struggles you are. Take care and remember you’re not alone and you have worth in this world.

What is Grief? What Does It Do To Us?

Ever experience a very deep sadness about something? Was it because a pet or someone in your life passed away? Did you experience a variety of emotions that affected your mood? You may have experienced fatigue to the point where you couldn’t get out of bed, eat, or do anything. What you were dealing or dealt with is grief. I’ve dealt with it quite a few of times in my life. So your not alone when it comes to experiencing grief.

What is Grief?

Grief is how we respond when we have experienced the loss of someone that we had a bond and affection for. Everyone experiences grief differently. The duration can be long or short; it all depends on the person. You can experience numbness, shock, sadness, fear, guilt, isolation, even anger. All these things can happen all at once and one can influence the other. For example, if you hear that someone passed away and you weren’t expecting it, you may experience an initial shock and you may stay in that state for an unknown period of time before the sadness takes place. Grief can take a huge toll on you. The things that are easy to do like brushing your teeth wind up being hard to do. Fatigue is one thing that is common for people to experience. Your mind is trying to process the loss you have experienced which takes up energy. If you’re someone who is able to wake up, go to school or go to work, come home, and do things in the afternoon till you go to sleep, you may question why you’re having a hard time doing those things. All of a sudden you only have enough energy to go to school or work and when you come home you just crash and sleep all afternoon. You may even experience aches pains all over your body, loss of appetite, and trouble sleeping. Well your body is going through the stages of grief. Grief can come in waves, some waves are tougher than others.

The Stages of Grief

There are five main stages of grief. Denial, acceptance, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Here is some information on the five stages.

When it comes to denial, you just don’t accept what has happened. You don’t want to believe that person is gone. You go to sometimes great lengths to avoid the truth. You may be in a state of shock and confusion. It’s one thing to have someone pass away and you knew it was going to happen, but it’s another thing when someone passes away without any kind of warning. Denial has a way of helping you to pace your feelings when it comes to grief.

After the denial has passed, that’s when the anger can set in. For example, if someone passed away in a motorcycle accident because they we’re paying attention to the road, you may get angry at them because you believe they should have been more careful. You get angry at the fact that you experienced something tragic. When you try to speak with someone or socialize with others, you may snap at them over small things because you’re on edge.

Bargaining is where you struggle to find any kind of meaning to your recent loss. The one thing you ask yourself over and over is “If only something”. You think what if they got medical attention sooner? If only I had been there, it wouldn’t to have happened. We may even bargain with God to postpone the coming pain.

Then comes the depression. The first kind of depression we get is sadness and regret. We can become worried about the cost of a funeral. The regret part is the idea that we didn’t spend enough time with the person we lost. The second kind is where we prepare to separate ourselves from the person we lost and say goodbye.

Lastly there is the acceptance part. We have to allow the grief to take place. If we need to cry, then we need to allow ourselves to cry. We can begin to start coping with the loss. In some way shape or form, we have to be able to say goodbye in order to move on which can take time. The thing is there is no telling how long it can take because as I mentioned everyone grieves differently.

There there is no right or wrong way to grieve, but how to cope with it is another thing. Here are some healthy ways to help cope with grief:

1. Turn to Your Family and Friends

Going going through any kind of grief can take a toll on you mentally physically and emotionally. Having having your family and friends to go through it with is very helpful. You’re able to comfort one another with hugs, comforting words, have a shoulder to cry on, and having that face to face interaction is very helpful. They can help you with funeral arrangements or just hang out with you. They can be there for you if you need anything, just remember to ask.

2. Join a Support Group

Having a support system of friends and family is a great thing. It can also helpful to associate yourself with others who have experienced the same thing. Finding a support group and talking with others who have experienced the loss of a loved one can be a comforting and educational experience. You can look up support groups in your area online, talk with friends and family, maybe the funeral home, or the hospital can point you in the right direction.

3. Talk to a Counselor or a Therapist

If you’re having trouble finding a support group or someone who understands you, seek out a therapist therapist or grief counselor. They can help you work through the intense and maybe complicated emotions that grief can bring you. There are obstacles and rough waves that they can help you better cope with.

4. Remember to Eat

Seems like this would be an unusual tip, but grief can be very crippling and cause a great deal of fatigue. Personally I found it tough to eat, but I had to remember that my body needs food for energy. If you don’t feel like cooking, see if you have something small to munch on. If you got some fruits or vegetables, snack on them. Warm up some popcorn, munch on crackers. You can’t go wrong with warming something up from a can or the freezer. Fast food can be tempting; if you get it, that’s ok. Remember you want to get something in your body, you can stop eating it later.

5. Do Something Fun

The sadness and depression can be tough to deal with. One thing to remember is that the grief of losing someone you cared about is something that you truly never get over. In time you learn to keep it in check. What helps with that is to engage and activities that you find joy in. After you have accepted the loss of someone, it can be tough to get back into the things that bring you joy. If you aren’t ready to go out to a huge party with friends or an amusement park, for example, that’s ok. Stay in, watch your favorite movie, listen to your favorite music. Play games with friends online or in person. Watch your favorite TV show even if it’s reruns. If you can find something to help you laugh, go for it; laughter is the best medicine.

Final Thoughts and Sum Up

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again grief is handled differently by every single person. There is no right or wrong way. Don’t suppress it, let it out, it will help you to move forward. If you are religious or spiritual take comfort in your faith. The best thing to remember is to take care of yourself. You have others that care about you as well as your well-being.