How Often Does Time Get Away From You?

Hi everyone, I hope you all had a wonderful 4th of July (if you celebrate it). One thing that got me wondering this past weekend is time itself. I bet there was a handful of times at one point where you had said ‘where has the time gone?’ or ‘how did time get away from me?’. I myself have said that numerous times to myself or to my friends. Your not alone if you feel like time has gotten away from you.

How Does Time get Away From Us

Growing up, some of us don’t keep track of time or have any time management skills. As kids, sometimes we aren’t taught how to manage our time properly. When were in school, a conference, meeting, or a seminar for example, time can drag on and feel like forever yet only a small amount of time has gone by. Then some days, time goes by so fast and the day is almost over yet it feels like the day just started and we just woke up.

Lets be real, we all at one point have slept in and didn’t get out of bed until later in the day. Well that can be because we didn’t sleep until late at night. Is it this simple, unfortunately no. Everyone has a different life schedule where some of us have jobs late at night. Some of us stay up late to study and others stay up late partying. Then there are those who have sleep troubles where it’s physically and mentally hard to fall asleep.

Sleep schedules and patterns are just a couple of factors of time getting away from us. We can get so involved into something that we lose all track of time. Planning a party, building a model of the Titanic, binging something on Netflix, playing a sport with friends, playing video games are examples where time just gets away from us. We can be working on a company project, doing chores, or studying up for a math test that time just flies right by. Spending time with friends and loved ones always seems to pass the time.

Now all those things can eat up a lot of time right? Well some of you see that as your life, a life you used to live, or maybe a life you want to tweek and make changes to. With the right mindset, you can keep time in check while not obsessing or dwelling on it. You don’t need to look at your phone, the clock, or watch counting minutes and seconds.

Here are some tips to help you better manage your time:

  • Organization is a great way to have clarity and get down what you need to get done
  • Setting realistic goals and writing them down believe it or not can help motivate you to accomplish everything on your to do list
  • Planning how much time you want to spend on one thing can help you not lose track of time and get the next thing done before the day is up
  • Managing your stress to stay in the present and using it correctly to not let things slip away is helpful
  • Prioritize what needs to get done first or what will need the most energy can help you get things done and have energy to spare
  • Self-awareness is helpful in keeping track of time and I don’t mean looking at your watch or the clock consistently. You can set an alarm to let you know when your time on something is up or set up a 5 or 10 minute warning.
  • That to do list I keep mentioning, write it down if it helps you prioritize things better instead of remembering it all in your head.
  • Stay focused on what you need to do or get done. Try to minimize any distractions around you like the TV or unnecessary noise.

Wrap Up

Time management is key. Sometimes we feel like there isn’t enough time in the day to do the things we want to do. With the proper prioritizing of goals and your to do list, you can get a lot done and still have time in the day.

Some of what I said can be described as setting up a routine. I talked about routines before and how they can work against us instead of helping us. This just goes back to having the right kind of balance in your life which takes time to figure out. Everyone is different, so what works for some people may not work for you. It’s ok to have game nights on Fridays or going to the movies on Wednesday afternoons.

Remember to have flexibility in your life, that way you can manage your time better and not become a victim of your own routine; don’t let it control you, control it. It’s ok to change things up; something new is great for the mind. Also don’t forget that if you need time to rest and do nothing, that’s perfectly fine. Don’t feel guilty about it, we all need downtime and rest, we need to recharge ourselves, and this can help in slowing down our thoughts so their not causing us unwanted anxiety or stress. This helps in us having and maintaining a clear mind.

Staying in the present can help us not think and dwell too much about the future and the past. Try focusing on the next hour and what you can do in it. Don’t think about the next hour or later in the day. Don’t think back to earlier in the day, that time has passed. You have 60 minutes, put your energy and focus solely on that period of time. I have learned that this technique helps me stay more in the present time.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Comparing Yourself to Others…Nah

We’ve all been done it at some point in our lives, comparing our talents, skills, personalities, a lot of things about ourselves to other people. I have done this myself and have struggled with it for a long portion of my life. For example, we see other people and sometimes think ‘I wish I was muscular like that guy or I wish I had great hair like her’. There are times when we make a mistake or mess something up, we may feel low about ourselves. We may begin to think that we can’t do anything right and think that the people around us have no trouble doing anything. This kind of thinking can hurt our self-worth and influence us to believe in lies.

You see someone who has a nice car, nice clothes, a lot of friends, is doing well in school, work, or just life in general and you think ‘that person must have no troubles or problems at all’. Sometimes you get jealous or envious of the other person and start comparing your accomplishments to the other person. When we do this, most of the time we conclude that the other person is better than me. Our self-esteem and our self-worth takes a hit when we do this. People sometimes think that they if they had what the other person had, they would be happy as well. For example, I have been in predicaments where I felt that I’m struggling to get an A in a class and everyone else is getting A’s without trying. This however wasn’t true; it was my insecurities getting the best of me.

A common comparison I have witnessed and experienced is seeing a friend, family member, or stranger in a relationship with another person and I start thinking that those two people are happier and doing better in life than I am. The truth is that those in a relationship may not be as happy as you think. So it seems silly that we would think that, but our insecurities get the better of us sometimes and our minds send us on a downward spiral. We have our own lives to live and shouldn’t try to mimic what other people are doing. The reality is that what works for some people may not work for other people. For example, someone who chews gum before taking test to relax may not work for the person next to them. This other person may do some deep breathing to relax. The thing is that both methods can work, it all depends on the person; we are all wired differently.

Here are some ways we can start to break this cycle and start doing our own thing:

1) Discover what makes you unique This may require some trial and error, but discovering what your capable of is part of your life journey and that can be fun. Maybe you have a knack for painting, building things, maybe you have always had a way of taking great care of animals than your friends. You should find out.

2) Focus on what you do best You have your own skills and talents. These things are what makes you unique. Close friends and family members may see special things about yourself that you don’t. Ask them and then excel in them and you’ll find your own peace and happiness.

3) Find and embrace joy When you are filled with joy, life gets easier. Create your own joy by doing things you love. Overtime you may begin to feel that confidence returning and your perception of measuring up to someone else fading away.

4) Distract yourself Comparing oneself to others can become a habit and it may take some time to break that thought cycle. When that thought cycle starts, try distracting yourself with something else. Focus on something else, get a song in your head, an object (I’ve focused on the color of bark of a tree), say something to yourself like ‘stop or no’, get invested in a movie, video game, watch TV, listen to music, try talking to someone, dance around. This could take some trial and error as well, but if you work at it you’ll find something.

5) Challenge the thoughts The thoughts that make you think that someone is better than you may not be real. Challenge the thought with positive things about yourself. List your skills and talents. Think about the compliments you have gotten, most people wouldn’t have said those compliments if they weren’t true. What are you good at? You are good at something. If it helps make a list of the positive things about yourself. Keep that list on you or somewhere where you will always see it. Recite these things when you wake up to help start your day. Overtime, your mind will begin on focusing those positive factors as second nature and you will begin seeing that what made you feel inferior to someone else was false.

We make our own path and our own choices, we shouldn’t follow someone else’s. The path that someone else is on may look good, but it may not be the right path for you. We are all wired differently and part of the journey of life is finding what works well for us. People will follow the herd as a way to not be alone or are afraid to stand out. This can lead to following someone’s path that isn’t a good one. We may know that this way of life or path is bad for us, but we are afraid to break away out of fear of something bad happening or our insecurities have something to do with that.

Doing our own thing and finding what works for us is a step in breaking the habit of comparing ourselves to others. This idea can be confusing because people only look to obtaining happiness, but there is more to it than that. What we have to do is see that there is a good and healthy part and the happiness part. Let me explain, someone may be happy in their life, but that happiness is coming from putting other people down. This scenario has the happiness part, but it’s lacking the good and healthy part. Both parts have to be together in order for your confidence to grow which I admit can be challenging and will take time. Our insecurities, the lies we get told by other people, and other things lower our self-esteem which hurts our confidence and we begin to compare our self-worth to other people. Don’t be hard on yourself, be patient, this can be beaten, it takes time, effort, and not giving up. I know you can do it.