Best Things to Keep in Mind for starting the New Year

Happy New Year everyone, 2023 is here. I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday with loved ones. To those who have a hard with the holidays, your not alone. I know people personally who have a hard time with the holidays because loved ones have passed away or unfortunately have no one to celebrate with. My heart goes out to you all. You are still loved and are unique and special.

To start off the year, I thought I would post a small speech of Steve Harvey’s I found on Instagram. The speech is about the blessings we already have. I have mentioned in the past about the small things we should be grateful for like being able to breathe easily and having a bed to sleep in.

If you are unsure of how to start 2023, your not alone. There are many others who are in the same boat you are. Though I can’t tell you what you should do or what is best for you, this video serves as a reminder of what you already have and to center yourself.

Like I mentioned before the holidays, I hope to start posting more and create different kinds of content that can help better your life.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Time: Self Affirmations

So when things are getting you down or you feel like your a magnet for bad things in your life, you can feel like your not deserving of anything good. One thing I started doing was saying 10 things that I am grateful for every morning and every night. That has really helped me start to feel better and better deal with troubles in my life.

Positive self affirmations are also helpful as well. In these 3 videos, you’ll hear more about how positive and negative self informations can help you and also hold you back and hurt you. You will hear how they can affect you in your conscious and your unconscious. You may not notice much at first as this will take some time to get into a rhythm, but if you start repeating them on a daily basis, eventually you will start to feel better about yourself, attract better things, and your confidence will build-up.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Traits and Qualities You Have that Other People are Wanting Very Bad

Have you ever seen someone whose life you believe to be better than yours? Did you think that they have everything in their life altogether while your struggling to accomplish that? There’s a chance you probably have. However while you were comparing yourself to someone you think is better than you, another person was comparing themselves to you. This person was thinking you have everything in your life altogether and they are struggling to accomplish that.

Something you Have, Another Person is Craving

Now I’m not talking about material objects. What I’m referring to is personality traits, qualities, a job, and an education. These are non material things that people want, wish they had, desperately want, and would do anything to get them.

Personality Factors

Personality traits and qualities are different for everyone. You may cherish your traits and qualities and maybe you don’t pay much attention to them. You may even take some of the factors about yourself for granted and not realize that they are really special. Yet someone from the outside can see these personality factors and see how special they are.

Examples include:

  • Sympathy
  • Empathy
  • Intelligence
  • Sense of Humor
  • Independence
  • Optimism
  • Honesty
  • Tolerance for various things
  • Troubleshooting Skills
  • Confidence
  • Warmth
  • Openness
  • Gratitude
  • Emotional Stability
  • Self Control
  • Leadership
  • Loyalty
  • Courageous

The list goes on. You can have these traits and qualities and someone (whether it’s a friend, family member, or a stranger) really wants and wishes they had them.


If your if someone who has a job, here’s somethingto think of. The world is a huge place full of people. You at some point have heard of poverished nations. Countries where anyone will take any job they can get.

There are people who wish that they had your dream job of being a college professor. Your job of being a waitress is one you may not fully enjoy, but keep in mind, someone on this planet would give up a lot just to have that position.


A GED, diploma, and/or college degree are material things that symbolize an accomplishment you worked hard to achieve. The knowledge, skills, and experience you got while working on achieving those things however are what another person is craving. You sat through those classes and got your hands dirty to learn what you know.

An education is something that people take for granted. Your parents may have made several sacrifices to send you to college like taking a second job, helped you with your homework instead of spendingtime with friends, moved to a new area so you could go to a good school as a kid.

The Takeaway

Normally I mention tips and give advice, but here’s a different takeaway. If anything I have mentioned really spoke to you, your not alone. When I started learning about these things, they were a real eye opener for me. What I would recommend is be grateful for what you have; be blessed by these things. Being envious with what others have and comparing yourself to them is something we do as humans. For those who have been following me from the start, I wrote about comparing yourself to other people over a year ago in my second post.

It’s all right to strive for more and to be better, but be grateful for what you have and appreciate the journey and path you’re on. It’s all right to be inspired by other people, but don’t go changing who you are to match them. You don’t always know exactly what is going on in someone else’s life. Appreciate what you have even if it’s not huge and stupendous. If it’s small, that’s good to because someone out there is wanting it really bad.

Wrap Up

You have various traits, skills, and qualities about yourself that make you unique and special. There may be people in your life that wish they could do what can do and have what you have personality wise. That conversation you had with the cashier from Starbucks may wish that they had your sense of humor. People looking at you from the outside may see some things about you that you can’t. Be grateful and appreciate what you have and who you are. Unfortunately there are people in this world that are less fortunate than you.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth.

A Reminder of Your Self-Worth


Hey guys, I hope you all are doing well. With everything going on in the world, you may have questioned some things about yourself. You may have questioned your morals, values, and your viewpoints on the things going on out in the world. Maybe some of the things on social media and the news are bringing you down.

This week, I thought I take some time to remind you that you are good enough and worthy of good things. People are dealing with a lot of heavy emotions right now as well as uncertainty about different things. For example, parents and students are concerned if schools will reopen in the fall. What changes will come about with all the protesting. When people will be able to work again (to those who are still out of work). Questions like ‘should I be doing something different in my life?’, ‘when will the pandemic end’, and ‘how long are we going to live like this?’.

I too have been dealing with all the uncertainty and these heavy emotions. So your not the only person who is dealing with these things. Many people are in this predicament. Some people show it and some stay silent about it.

That said, I want to let you know that your doing all right.

To those of you who are trying everyday to keep yourself together, To those who are making do with what they got, To those who are adapting to the new norms, To those who are discovering new things about themselves and learning new things, To those who are being kind and humble to themselves and others, To those who are giving back and helping others:

You have Self-worth

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You are worthy of good things in your life. You are worthy of having good people in your life. It’s ok if the glass isn’t all the way full. You can be all right in the middle. If you are grateful for anything in your life, no matter how small, then you have self-worth. If you are loved by someone, you also have self-worth. I’ve mentioned before that you are unique and special. If you are taking care of yourself, like eating and maintaining good hygiene, then you have value and therefore you have self-worth. It’s a difficult time for us, but we must keep moving forward. Every now and then, I need to remind myself that I have self-worth. Hopefully this was a good reminder for you in case you were feeling down, needed clarification, or just needed a recharge. We have value, we have a voice, and we are good enough. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone.

Gotta Look Forward, Not Back

You know you are on the right track when you become uninterested in looking back

With May being Mental Health Awareness Month and with the pandemic, our well-being is important to maintain. There may have been things that happened that maybe you didn’t handle right or you could have handled better. You probably said something you wished you didn’t say or wished you did say. I personally have been in these situations plenty of times. So now you know that your not the only person in the world who has been in this predicament. Yet what’s done is done and sometimes we can’t go back and fix it.

Why is Moving Forward Hard?

In a post from last month, I talked about how to move on from people. This time I want to talk about moving forward in general and not looking back. You can get stuck in a rut and not know how to get out, yet life still moves on. Moving forward and not looking back is easier said than done. You’ve probably had someone who has told you this one way or another. It can be tough because you may have had a falling out with a friend who hurt you or betrayed your trust. You broke up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, got divorced, got fired from your job, got a bad grade on a test, etc. So many awful and unfortunate things happen to us. We wish that we could go back in time and fix them, but we can’t. We get stuck replaying the event or events that took place wondering what went wrong. We try to make sense out of it when in fact sometimes we can’t. We can drive ourselves crazy to the point where we don’t eat, bathe, sleep, hydrate, or snap at other people.

We wish things could’ve been different, but we can’t cry over spilled milk. If we do, life can slip away from us and we don’t even realize how much time has passed. There are great things out in the world; sometimes we get so obsessed with a the bad things that we miss out on a trip to the zoo, a family cookout, your best friends birthday, hiking with friends, etc. You may even push away people who care about you that are trying to help you move on. You may feel like you want to be alone which I get because I wanted to be alone when something bad happened. It’s best not to forget the people who like you, love, and care for you because they may be hurting because you are hurting.

So if your stuck and having trouble moving forward and your life here is some ways that could help you:

Letting go of the past can help free you from the pain your feeling. Again easier said than done in some cases. You still have the chance to shape your future the way you want. Tomorrow is a new day to start over and make it whatever you want it to be. You can fill it with positive and joyful things. You may not think you can because you’re feeling down, but the reality is you can.

Living in gratitude can help you remember the good things you already have in your life. Think about the people in your life. Friends family, other students, co-workers, and acquaintances. You probably have a lot more people in your life who don’t give you any kind of trouble or argue with you on a daily, weekly, monthly basis. That’s something to be grateful of; the fact that you’re not fighting or arguing with everyone in your life everyday is a blessing. You can even think about the things you have. Do you have your own means of transportation? Do you have food and water to keep you fed and hydrated? Do you have a bed to sleep on? Do you have the option of wearing different clothes everyday? Do you have a phone and a computer? There are so many things (small things) we take for granted that are actually things we should be grateful for. There are people out there who don’t have any of these things and pray that they could have at least one of them. We’re surrounded by more good things that we are bad things; we just don’t always notice it.

Take ownership of your life. Remember you are in full control of your life. Don’t let those who put you in a negative state of mind dictate how you should behave. You may have to repeat positive affirmations and talk positively about yourself to remind yourself of the person you really are. You can get out of the rut; it may take time and effort, but you can do it.

Here is a video that talks about how to let go of the past and different ways then what I’ve described to move forward in your life and find peace within yourself.

Wrap Up

Moving forward in your life isn’t just moving forward from bad things that happened to you, it’s also making something of your life. If you feel like you can’t get past the hurt or that the rut you’re in is so deep that there is no hope, ask someone who was in the predicament you were in. They got out of it and moved on; so that should give you hope and can give you motivation to do so yourself. Even if you make a little bit of progress in a day, that’s still good. This shows that you’re moving forward even if it’s a slow pace. You got to find what pace works for you. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. As I mentioned before, your real friends and family will be there for you if you need support and comfort. Remember there is one person in your life who cares about you; you know who they are.