Symbolism: How to see the Full Picture and Get Clarity on Your Life

Sorry about the lack of posting last week. Work is still hectic and busy for me. So this post could have been a video discussion post, but I feel this topic has more symbolism in it. With that said here is some background info on the video. It features an item from the video game The Legend of Zelda: Skyward Sword called the Gust Bellows.

https://youtu.be/KXIE8Qx6i3g

Clear the Clutter

So as you saw the Gust Bellows is an item that pretty much shoots out a continuous large gust of wind. Here is where the symbolism comes in. We are the character in the video named Link. Picture the sand as the fog and confusion you have about your life or various topics. Underneath the sand there is the clarity and the full picture of the situation and/or to your questions. The gust bellows represents the tools and techniques we can use to remove that fog and uncertainty in our lives.

If you have felt that there is some unclarity, uncertainty, in your life as well as confusion, your not alone. To remove the fog and confusion (the sand), we sometimes have to change our mindset. We have to unlearn old habits and implement new ways of thinking and create good healthy habits (the gust bellows). When we do that, we can start removing all the confusion and uncertainty in our lives.

To be real with all of you, eliminating that uncertainty and getting some clarity may reveal some truths that we may not like or be ready for. In the video, you saw some spikes come out the floor. Picture those spikes as some harsh truths which we have to face and sometimes accept and yes they can hurt.

On the flipside, clearing that confusion, getting answers to questions we have can reveal good things. In the video, green gems called rupees were revealed when the sand was blown away. In the game, rupees are currency to buy items, upgrades, and materials for Link. Also when the sand was removed, the right path for Link was revealed. Clearing that confusion in our lives can give us the guidance we need and to find and follow our own path. Getting that clarity to confusing things in our lives and those answers to our questions feels great right?

Wrap Up

So overall, we are faced with uncertainty, confusion, and unanswered questions in our lives. We don’t always see the full picture or big picture figuratively speaking. However with the right tools and help from other people in our lives, we can. Does this process take time, it can. Everyone is different; lets just say some remove the sand faster than others. If your someone who needs more time to remove the sand, that is fine. Everyone moves at a different pace and no pace is the same.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

What Everyone is Saying About Regrets

We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, your are not your struggles, and you are here now with the power to shape your day and future.

Steve Maraboli


Hey guys, hope you all have been doing well.  With everything that has been going on lately, I know people’s hearts have been very heavy and have been consumed with a lot of emotions.  Going back to my post on moving forward and not back, there was something else I wanted to include, but I thought it would make more sense to make it its own topic.  What I’m referring to is regrets.  I have things that I regretted doing and not doing.  Your not the only person who has regrets in this world.  Everyone has one thing they have regretted doing or not doing in their life. 

What Regrets Do to Us


As humans, we are not perfect.  We all make mistakes at some point in our lives.  We can forget to do something important, we say something we wish we could take back, and we forget to say something important to someone we care about.  We do things that seem right at the time and later regret doing them.  A mistake can turn into a regret depending on how you react to it and if there are other people involved, their reactions can have an impact on it.  Regrets also come about when we are disappointed over something and feel sad.  According to Psychology Today (2017), “Regret is the second-most common emotion people mention in daily life, some studies show. And it’s the most common negative emotion” (Grierson, para 2).  Regrets can eat away at you and bring down your mood.  You can begin to neglect your overall health and become weak and fatigued.  You may begin to think your not worth a dime to anyone and that all the good things you have in your life, your not worthy of them.  You replay what happened over and over hoping for a different outcome and what you did wrong or what went wrong in general.  You look for a hidden meaning which may not be there.  People can get lost in the sadness and guilt that can come with having regrets. 

Common Regrets People Have

There some regrets almost everyone experiences at some point in their life.  One of them is not having the courage to live a life that is true to who they are.  They live their life of what is expected by other people and they don’t find true happiness and peace of mind. 

A second common regret is wishing that they worked smart and not hard.  It’s one thing to work hard, but working smarter (while still working hard) to where your not burning yourself out, not sacrificing your happiness, being able to spend time with others, and maintaining your overall health is what you should aim for. 

A third common regret is being able to stay in touch with good friends.  We can so easily get caught up in our lives and whatever problems we are dealing with that we forget to see how others are doing.  We forget to spend time with our friends which can be helpful in recharging ourselves and breathing a sigh of relief.  We can also forget to ask them for help and forget to help them out. 

A fourth common regret is being able to have the courage to express their feelings.  Sometimes we bite our tongue to maintain the peace between friends, co-workers, acquaintances, and family.  Yet in doing so we may also suppress our feelings.  This can cause us to not reach out more to friends and family, build or rebuild bonds and connections with other people in our lives, and not be able to be vulnerable to them. 

A fifth one is just not letting yourself be more happy with your overall life.  So many times we let good things get away from us because were either scared of something or someone or not feel like we’ll be good at something.  We also can be blind to good things that are right in front of us because we’re so consumed with our problems, wishing for things we don’t have, and wanting the next day or weekend to come so that we can enjoy something while ignoring the other days.  

A sixth one can be how someone approaches their education.  Some regret not doing well in school, some regret not finishing school, and some regret their major in college.  There are those who regret the way they handled student loans.  According to PayScale (2019), “the years of commitment and the repercussions that academic choices can have on earnings potential leave many regretting their educational choices.  Our research shows that the vast majority – nearly two thirds – of those with at least a bachelor’s degree regret something about their education” (Gruver, para 2-3).

Here are some ways that you can avoid making mistakes that can lead to regrets:

  1. Don’t follow someone else’s dreams
  2. Don’t take your loved ones for granted
  3. Live in the moment and the present
  4. Stop pretending to be someone else
  5. Take care of yourself
  6. Don’t fear failure
  7. Experience and listen more
  8. Stand up for yourself
  9. Seize the moment
  10. Think before you act

Here is a list of tips on how you can better cope with regrets you have made:

  1. Acknowledge what you’re feeling
  2. Catch yourself doing negative self-talk 
  3. Find the triggers that make you feel down and avoid them until you feel no pain from them
  4. Focus on what your grateful for because others have less than you
  5. Genuinely apologize and forgive yourself
  6. Focus on and embrace your positive qualities (you have them)

Wrap Up

Life can be too uncertain to have any regrets.  Yet they happen still happen even to the best of us.  Seizing the moment is one thing, but there are scenarios and situations where you should think before you act and what to say, as it could hurt someone’s feelings or hurt them physically.  As I mentioned, there is probably one thing that you regret in your life.  I hope that by reading this that you find a way to cope with it so that it doesn’t rule your life and the decisions you make in the future and that you can better avoid making new ones.  I’ll leave you all with this, one thing I recently learned is to work on solving your inner conflicts first and then whatever is going on in the world, it won’t be as overwhelming to you.  

Reference

Grierson, B. (2017). The Meaning of Regret.  Retrived from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-carpe-diem-project/201710/the-meaning-regret

Gruver, J. (2019). Biggest College Regrets. Retrieved from        https://www.payscale.com/data/biggest-college-regrets