Video Discussion: 7 Things You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty For

Hi there everyone, I hope you all are doing all right.  There are a number of things that we can feel guilty about.  This video focuses on 7 different things that we feel guilty about and how they can influence different aspects of our life.

The feeling of guilt can lead to feelings of inadequacy, unwanted anxiety, and perfectionism. This then leads to high levels of stress and overcompensating on every thing you.

Your not alone if you have felt guilty about doing something for yourself. We are allowed to have hobbies, personal interests, and we are allowed to invest our time and energy into them. I have felt this way, your parents, best friends, teachers, co-workers, boss, significant other, family members, etc have all felt this kind of guilt before.

Feeling Guilty for Feeling Happy

At some point, we have felt guilty about something.  We feel bad for hurting someone’s feelings, not doing something we should have, and for doing something that makes us happy.  Yes feeling guilty about being happy is a real thing. 

We feel guilty of being happy for doing things we enjoy because our brains can translate that into being selfish and self-centered.  We feel we should be doing something for everyone in our lives and helping them with their problems.  Yes this is something we do, but we also need to take time for ourselves. 

We need to rest and recharge ourselves.  We also need to invest our time and energy doing things that bring us joy.  That isn’t being selfish, that’s taking care of ourselves. This video goes into more details.

Wrap Up

Not being perfect, asking for help, being successful, saying no when you need to, removing yourself from toxic situations or people, ending toxic relationships, and wanting to be happy are only 7 things we shouldn’t feel guilty about. There are various other things as well. Our self-worth, esteem, and inner peace are very special and important to our well-being. Yes we do want to please and help others, but we also shouldn’t feel guilty or ashamed that we want to take time for ourselves.

I hope this video shined some light on your life. Hopefully you got some clarity and some bettee guidance in your life. Maybe some heavy stress and anxiety just got lifted from your shoulders and mind. Maybe now you can breathe better too.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Time: Establishing and Maintaining Boundaries

I hope everyone had a nice Easter and you all were able to relax and recharge yourselves. I have listed links to 3 videos on setting mental health boundaries.

The first video is from Kati Morton a licensed therapist. She explains 5 tips on creating and maintaining boundaries among friendships and loved ones.

The second video is from Dr. Holly Daniels who talks about boundaries, codependency, relationships, and more.

The last video comes from Haesue Jo another licensed therapist. She talks about what it means to set boundaries for your own health and safety as well as taking care of your well being.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

A Reminder of Your Self-Worth

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Hey guys, I hope you all are doing well. With everything going on in the world, you may have questioned some things about yourself. You may have questioned your morals, values, and your viewpoints on the things going on out in the world. Maybe some of the things on social media and the news are bringing you down.

This week, I thought I take some time to remind you that you are good enough and worthy of good things. People are dealing with a lot of heavy emotions right now as well as uncertainty about different things. For example, parents and students are concerned if schools will reopen in the fall. What changes will come about with all the protesting. When people will be able to work again (to those who are still out of work). Questions like ‘should I be doing something different in my life?’, ‘when will the pandemic end’, and ‘how long are we going to live like this?’.

I too have been dealing with all the uncertainty and these heavy emotions. So your not the only person who is dealing with these things. Many people are in this predicament. Some people show it and some stay silent about it.

That said, I want to let you know that your doing all right.

To those of you who are trying everyday to keep yourself together, To those who are making do with what they got, To those who are adapting to the new norms, To those who are discovering new things about themselves and learning new things, To those who are being kind and humble to themselves and others, To those who are giving back and helping others:

You have Self-worth

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You are worthy of good things in your life. You are worthy of having good people in your life. It’s ok if the glass isn’t all the way full. You can be all right in the middle. If you are grateful for anything in your life, no matter how small, then you have self-worth. If you are loved by someone, you also have self-worth. I’ve mentioned before that you are unique and special. If you are taking care of yourself, like eating and maintaining good hygiene, then you have value and therefore you have self-worth. It’s a difficult time for us, but we must keep moving forward. Every now and then, I need to remind myself that I have self-worth. Hopefully this was a good reminder for you in case you were feeling down, needed clarification, or just needed a recharge. We have value, we have a voice, and we are good enough. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone.