Quote Break Down

So here is something brand new. I’m going to be discussing and breaking down various life quotes. These kinds of posts won’t be super long. Some quotes can be a bit tough to understand and find the message in them. My intention is to break them down part by part, explain it in layman’s terms, and provide some extra information.

So as I have mentioned before it’s important to take care of yourself mentally, physically, spirituality, and emotionally. Sometimes when we want to take time for ourselves, we feel guilty because we think it’s selfish. That’s where the ‘me first’ can come into the picture.

Are we taught that taking care of ourselves is selfish? The answer is yes and no. We can be taught it upfront face to face. We can indirectly learn it from the conversations we have with people, what we are taught, and from the behaviors and actions of others.

If this sounds like you then you are not alone. I have dealt with this concept numerous times even during my social media hiatus back in 2020 as well as last year. You are allowed free time.

In fact, you need that time to recharge yourself, heal, figure things out, or just simply give your mind and body a rest. Are running on fumes right now? Is the person you said hi to, the person you just saw get up and walk away, or are the person sitting next you running off of no sleep and low energy?

Only you can answer those questions. Sometimes people need ‘me’ time away from people to work on themselves, need quiet time, and be away from the business of our society. There is only one of you in this world. As I have mentioned in the past, that makes you special and unique. That is a great reason alone to take care of yourself in however you need to. As long as your not hurting yourself, your good. Your real friends and family members will understand when you need to take time for yourself.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

You Can Learn to Smile Again

Everybody needs someone who can make them laugh when they think they’ll never smile again.

One of the things we do a lot when we’re a baby is smile. As we grow up, we begin smile just to smile. As we get even older, we also smile for different reasons. Those reasons include meeting new people, going on trips, playing video games, trying new foods, spending time with our children, parents, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, watching a new movie, getting a gift, spending time in nature etc. There are so many reasons for us to smile. However, different things will happen to us that will cause us to frown and be sad. Those things can be so tough to deal with that as time goes on we forget how to smile. Even after the dark clouds pass, we still may not still be smiling even if good things are happening to and around us.

Why Am I Having Trouble Smiling?

You would think that smiling is something that all of us can do with no effort right? Well unfortunately that’s not the case. We get hurt by different people in our lives. Could a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, co-worker, student, friends, etc. If your having trouble smiling after something bad that happened to you, your most definitely not alone. There are so many people who are in the same predicament. I myself have been in that spot numerous times. I bet there are people in your life who are having trouble smiling after something bad happened to them as well. Even embarrassment and humiliation can make us frown especially if it’s from friends and family. The hurt can be sudden and long lasting to different degrees. The more people who are involved in hurting you, the worse you can feel. Some people will hurt you without a reason which, in my opinion, is worse than knowing the reason. The closer you are to someone, the hurt is worse because you developed a strong bond with them and you trusted them. You may have told this person or people some personal things about you that you wouldn’t have told anyone else; maybe not even your parents.

Going through this kind of emotional pain can stop us from smiling. The pain of losing a pet or someone can stop you from smiling too. It’s ok to be sad during these times. Sadness is not a sign of weakness. This emotion can help us grow as a person which can help us move forward and find happiness again. As I mentioned, after the dark clouds from the storm have passed, we may still find it hard to smile. We can still be grieving from the loss and the hurt which makes it hard to smile. Emotional pain from people we trust, we care for, we love, can stick around longer than getting hurt by someone we barely know or a stranger. Losing a pet we have had for years and helped us through tough times can be really tough to deal with. If you think you can’t bounce back from sadness to happiness in a day for example, that’s fine. Getting hurt by someone or someone passing away takes time to deal with. Afterwards, you may have forgotten how to smile. Don’t feel embarrassed if you have to re-teach yourself how to smile.

Here’s some ways to help you smile again if your having trouble and need to relearn how to:

  • Be around the right person or people
  • Watch something that will make you laugh
  • Do things you enjoy
  • Meditate
  • Pray
  • Read something inspirational
  • Laugh at yourself
  • Get get reacquainted with yourself


Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. Kindness is a powerful trait people can give you. You can also give it to someone as well, remember that. These people will be there for you when you need them. I know a friend who makes me smile just by being herself. Her personality cheers me up. I’m sure there are people in your life who are like that.

Watching a movie, TV show, a video on the internet of something funny can cheer you up. Maybe it’s a funny scene from your favorite movie, a funny Tik Tok video, only you know. They say laughter is the best medicine. I’m sure there’s people in your life that can make you laugh. Another option would be to try laughing at yourself. I’m sure there’s things that you do the you can find the humor in. Maybe these things are something you do on a daily basis when you’re at work, school, or in public, with friends, family. Even if it’s something small, chuckling at yourself can help turn that frown upside down.

I’m sure you have a hobby and things you like to do with others or by yourself. Doing these things brings some kind of joy to you. I mentioned in a previous post that you should do what you can to create your own joy. If being around others isn’t an option, which is probably true due to the lockdown in quarantines in the world, do something you know you will like and bring you happiness no matter what is going on.

Meditation can help clear your mind and slow down your thoughts. A clear mind can help free you from unwanted stress that may have come from being hurt by someone or some other problem your having. Praying, for those of you who are religious and spiritual, can be helpful. Talking to God and praying for yourself and others you care about can help bring guidance, peace of mind, and clarity which can lead to happiness, which can lead to smiling again.

I have found reading inspirational quotes to be helpful in smiling again. Some of the quotes I have been reading have described different things and problems I have dealt with in the past and recently. They help me feel that I’m not alone and that I can get through my troubles and it’s ok to not have everything together. These quotes have helped me get reacquainted with myself. Slowing down and taking a break from things to spend time with yourself can help you figure out how you think about things, your likes and dislikes, your morals and values, the next path you should take in your life, clarity on the path you already are on, and who are your true friends in life. Figuring some things out about yourself can take unwanted stress, toxic thoughts, and lies away and help you smile.

Final Thoughts and Sum Up

It is possible to smile again after being hurt, losing someone, or going through a tough time in your life. If you’ve got good friends, family, good health, be grateful for that and that can help you smile again. I found spending time in nature and appreciating its beauty brings a smile to my face; maybe it could do the same for you. Try writing down your thoughts and see if that clears your mind and helps you smile. You would think that one simple gesture would be easy to do and yet it’s a real tough challenge for people to pull off.

New Year’s Resolutions Yay or Nay?

I hope everyone had a terrific Christmas.  I hope you got to spend time with your family, relatives, and friends.  2019 coming to an end and 2020 is right around the corner.  As the year comes to an end, we say we will make changes to our life.  We set goals that we want to accomplish the next year that we call New Year resolutions.  In the end, some follow through with their New Year’s resolutions and some don’t.

At the end of the year, we begin to set goals that we want to accomplish, things we want to stop doing and saying, or things we want to get better at.  When the new year comes, we have the motivation to start these goals, but sometimes what happens by the end of the first week, two weeks, or month, we lose the motivation.  If you think your the only one who has stuck with their New Year’s resolutions or has fallen off the wagon, your wrong.

Your not alone when it comes to making New Year’s resolutions and not sticking with them.  Maybe there was one year where you made some goals and accomplished them the following year.  Another year you made some more goals, but you couldn’t follow through with them.  That’s fine; what’s important is that you learn why you couldn’t stick with those resolutions.

Maybe you had unwanted baggage that was draining your energy.  Maybe you were at a place in your life that you weren’t ready to take that next step.  Overall, maybe the timing wasn’t right.  Unexpected things happen that are out of our control, there may be things that we have to overcome first before we can move forward.  The fear of the unknown could be stopping us from taking that leap of faith.  It wouldn’t be surprising if we bit off my than we could chew, I know I have, so your not alone in that.

Well as 2019 comes to an end, it’s that time again when people are making those New Year’s resolutions.  If you have stuck with your New Year’s resolutions in the past, awesome keep doing what your doing.  If you haven’t or struggled here are some pointers that may help you:

1. Don’t Just Set Regular Goals
It’s easy to set a goal for yourself.  Anyone can set goals.  The question is are you setting realistic achievable goals?  I have talked about setting realistic goals once before.  You have to know what your capable of accomplishing.  You have to know how far your able to push your limits.  You have to be honest and true with yourself.

2. The Time Frame is Important

Setting a time frame is essential as well.  When do you want to accomplish these goals?  3 months, 6 months, 8 months?  The shorter the timeline, the more energy you’re going to have to put out.  If it’s a new thing, you may want to pace yourself and give yourself more time.  You may have a year long goal that will require to be patient with yourself and pace yourself in a respectable manner.  Before you begin, ask yourself this, ‘are you going to run a sprint or a marathon?’

3. Accountability

Setting New Year’s resolutions is something that you want to hold accountable to yourself.  Ask a family member or a trusted friend to hold you accountable with your resolutions as well.  Ask a few people if you want.  Should you start to fall off the wagon, this individual or these individuals can help you get back on track and stay on track.

4. Don’t Give Up

Staying committed to anything takes effort and energy.  You unfortunately will encounter rough patches.  These times can drain you and giving up begins to seem like a good idea. It’s during these times that you we’ll have to push yourself.  You can ask someone for help.  This could be whether you need to vent and let out your frustrations or you need a pep talk for energy and motivation.  Treat yourself to something nice to rejuvenate and replenish yourself.

5. Break Them Down

Committing to your New Year’s resolutions can be overwhelming especially if you’re thinking big.  There are things out there that look overwhelming, but when you break them down they aren’t as scary.  They actually can turn out to be very manageable for you.  Know what the full picture is, but take each day one at a time.  Breaking down the overwhelming huge intimidating thing into smaller manageable things is less scary.  Live in the present.  That kind of perspective doesn’t look as overwhelming.

New Year’s resolutions can be a hit or miss.  It all comes down to how you deal with them.  Trying to better yourself, expanding your horizon, and experiencing new things requires change, time, and effort.  Yeah change can be scary, but it helps us grow as a person.  I hope whatever New Year’s resolutions you make, I wish you the best of luck with them.  Hopefully this helps you.  You have my support.  I believe in you.