Video Discussion: 7 Things You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty For

Hi there everyone, I hope you all are doing all right.  There are a number of things that we can feel guilty about.  This video focuses on 7 different things that we feel guilty about and how they can influence different aspects of our life.

The feeling of guilt can lead to feelings of inadequacy, unwanted anxiety, and perfectionism. This then leads to high levels of stress and overcompensating on every thing you.

Your not alone if you have felt guilty about doing something for yourself. We are allowed to have hobbies, personal interests, and we are allowed to invest our time and energy into them. I have felt this way, your parents, best friends, teachers, co-workers, boss, significant other, family members, etc have all felt this kind of guilt before.

Feeling Guilty for Feeling Happy

At some point, we have felt guilty about something.  We feel bad for hurting someone’s feelings, not doing something we should have, and for doing something that makes us happy.  Yes feeling guilty about being happy is a real thing. 

We feel guilty of being happy for doing things we enjoy because our brains can translate that into being selfish and self-centered.  We feel we should be doing something for everyone in our lives and helping them with their problems.  Yes this is something we do, but we also need to take time for ourselves. 

We need to rest and recharge ourselves.  We also need to invest our time and energy doing things that bring us joy.  That isn’t being selfish, that’s taking care of ourselves. This video goes into more details.

Wrap Up

Not being perfect, asking for help, being successful, saying no when you need to, removing yourself from toxic situations or people, ending toxic relationships, and wanting to be happy are only 7 things we shouldn’t feel guilty about. There are various other things as well. Our self-worth, esteem, and inner peace are very special and important to our well-being. Yes we do want to please and help others, but we also shouldn’t feel guilty or ashamed that we want to take time for ourselves.

I hope this video shined some light on your life. Hopefully you got some clarity and some bettee guidance in your life. Maybe some heavy stress and anxiety just got lifted from your shoulders and mind. Maybe now you can breathe better too.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: Prisoner of Your Past

Hi everyone, for this video discussion I thought I’d try something a bit different. Instead of watching and hearing someone explain the topic, I thought that it would be nice to try some reflection and then do the discussion.

The video has just a quote and some background music. You can reloop the video for the music if it makes it easier for you to think. If you want to use other music, go ahead.

Now that you have reflected on the quote, how do you feel? Does this quote hit home for you? Do you know someone who is a prisoner of their past? Were you once a prisoner of your past mistakes?

Prisoners of Our Past Why?

It’s not always easy to break free from our past. Sometimes people don’t know that they’re living their daily lives, though in the present, the mindset is in the past.

Mistakes, wrong choices, setbacks, not forgiving others, or not forgiving onself are some reasons why people are prisoners of their past. People can be smart, kind, and wise, but things change when something bad happens to them whether it’s by someone else, something else, or by their own free will. Now people will go through the storm and come out of it. However that’s not always the end of the story.

During that storm, people sometimes bury or try to bury something bad that happened to them that they don’t want anyone else to know. They are told to toughen up, smile, or act like it never happened and move on. Yet they deal with various emotions like regret, guilt, jealously, unwanted stress, or sadness. In some cases, people will succumb to depression or other bad habits and sometimes not realize it like unhealthy eating or drugs.

Other cases though, people will not want to forgive someone else who did them wrong. This can keep them stuck in that past hurt. Someone who hurt a family member, a friend, or someone close to them can be stuck in that past hurt because they are unable to forgive themselves.

Forgiveness can be Freedom

One way to help break free from being a prisoner of your past is forgiveness. I have talked about forgiveness before and forgiving yourself of past mistakes is the first step toward healing and truly moving forward. You acknowledge your mistakes, you see them as life lessons in which you learn from, and you free yourself from your prison.

Forgiving others is different. We are directly or indirectly taught that we shouldn’t forgive others who did us wrong. We wind up holding a grudge which can affect and change our way of living and thinking in ways that can be unhealthy. Remember forgiving someone doesn’t mean that your justifying or exonerating what they did to you, it means that your not going to be hindered by that hurt any longer. Your not going to let that hurt dictate every decision you make. Your not going to let that other person or people have power over you anymore. You accept and acknowledge what happened, you forgive the other person, and then you truly move on.

Both scenarios show that forgiveness toward yourself and toward others is the first step toward healing, fixing things, making things better in your life, and maybe in other people’s lives as well.

Wrap Up

Being a prisoner of your past happens to even good people. Some know it and some don’t. Your not alone if you felt this way or are currently feeling this way. There are people all over the world who are prisoners of their past. Maybe the waiter who served you last week is a prisoner of his past. Maybe that server at Starbucks, the person right beside you, the person who is always happy, or your closest friend who is like a sibling to you are prisoners of their past.

You can break free from this. It will take some time and effort, but you can take the first step and start making and living a better life you deserve. You are worthy of love, respect, kindness, and peace of mind.

Reflecting on life can be scary, but it can be beneficial and enriching. I hope that when you reflected earlier when watching the video, you realized some things that you need in your life and/or no longer need in your life.

Take care, stay safe and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: You can be at Peace Again

So for this video discussion, I decided to talk about a piece of music that is near and dear to my heart.  It comes from the game Hyrule Warriors: Age of Calamity.  I had done a previous video discussion on a this game before which was a cutscene on not comparing yourself to someone else. 

This music to me represents overcoming hardships, bumps in the road, rough patches, storms, dark days, tragedies, anything rough. It can also mean accomplishing anything, breathing a sigh of relief, being filled with joy, happiness, kindness, even love. I encourage you to take a moment to listen to this for a bit and reflect on something that you got through and/or the last time you felt true genuine happiness.

A bit of backstory, this music plays after you beat the game return to the world map. When I first heard this, it was during my social media hiatus. I felt a sense of warmth fill me up. It was a few days after that I figured out that I was healed from the pain and heartache that happened to me back in October 2019. The healing process had come to an end. I also felt at peace and was ready to go back to social media and return to this blog.

Long story short, at the end of October 2019 my brother-in-law unexpectedly passed away at 29. The day before that I got hurt by someone I had feelings for and really cared about. I questioned who I was, the people in my life, sort of ghosted a special friend of mine on and off, closed up, and kept people at arms length.

With Mental Health Awareness month coming to an end, it doesn’t mean that you stop taking care of yourself. Whatever it is that your going through even if it’s hard, you can get through it. If you are healing from something, keep working at it; in time, you will be healed. If you are working through something and you feel stagnant and/or are taking steps back, it’s ok that can happen. If you think this storm your going through will not end, it will end.

I got through my storm, rough spots, and tough days, so you can as well. Your most definitely not alone. People you go to school with, volunteer with, work with, and those around you right now are probably dealing with something difficult or have dealt with something tough in their life.

To those who are dealing with unwanted stress, depression, a broken heart, or high levels of anxiety, cry if you need to, let out a scream in private, write down your thoughts and feelings, seek professional help, talk to a trusted friend, family member, teacher, or individual. You will get through it, you’ll be stronger for going through it and you’ll be wiser because you’ll learn from it.

Even though I healed, that doesn’t mean I’m immune to unwanted stress, anxiety, or any kind of pain. What I know is that I’m more prepared to handle any new bad thing that comes my way. I’m human, I’m not perfect which means tough days can still happen to me and I can still make mistakes. I look to see what I can learn from those mistakes and those tough days.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: Facing Your Trauma to Heal

This video is from a recent episode of the Flash. To set things up for those who don’t watch the show, this is an testimony from one of the main characters. The character is Iris West-Allen played by Candice Patton.

Spoiler Alert:

Last season, she was taken against her will by the main villian into what’s known as the Mirrorverse. It’s a dimension where everything looks the same, but incompatible to those not from it. The human mind can be wrapped to where an individual is no longer recognizable and is psychologically harmed to a big degree.

Iris spent 3 months there unable to call for help. Eventually, her husband Barry Allen a.k.a the Flash, frees her from the Mirrorverse and defeats the villian who kidnapped her and saves many other innocent people who were taken as well. However, Iris hadn’t dealt with the trauma she experienced. This video is Iris giving her testimony about her experience in the Mirrorverse to other survivors. Her testimony ends at 2:40. If you want to see the rest go ahead.

Trauma

Trauma is something we all unfortunately deal with at some point in our lives. We get hurt and betrayed sometimes by those we love and care about. We have people who pass away sometimes unexpectedly and sudden, we encounter situations that traumatize us with fear, sadness, and guilt. We see things so horrifying that we wish we didn’t see and would do anything to forget them.

I’ve dealt with some traumas in my life that I still remember today. I still remember the triggers and the feelings I was experiencing at the time like they just happened yesterday. Your not alone; your most definitely not alone. There are many others out there who have experienced trauma and the same traumas you experienced or are currently going through right now.

The Feelings of Trauma

Though Iris was taken to another dimension, she still experienced loneliness and dread like the others who were abducted. We don’t always have to be taken to an unknown place to experience those feelings. We can experience those feelings in places that are comfortable and known to us. Our favorite resturant, school, park, church, even our homes.

Iris was feeling angry and sorry for herself and hating that she was feeling like that. She thought that once she was saved and back home that all the bad feelings would go away and she would be healed and whole again. Unfortunately that wasn’t the case; like her many of us think that if were rescued from a bad and scary place whether it be physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual that we feel better.

What I find powerful about her testimony is that she says that she can’t heal unless she gives herself permission to feel those bad feelings. I love how the writers wrote that. One would think why do I need to give myself permission to feel my feelings? A good question, yet the answer lies on our personality.

Who We Are

If were someone who has a sunny disposition on life, we may inadvertently think that we don’t let bad things affect us and that we can easily shrug them off. Others see us as not having a problem in the world and that we’re happy all the time. Yet were still human and we are not immune to negative emotions.

People who smile, laugh, goof around with friends and family, and have fun are not immune to bad feelings. They may hide their feelings from others even those close to them because they may be scared how others will perceive them. They think others will think things like ‘she doesn’t get mad, she’s always helpful and kind’, ‘he’s so happy, he doesn’t have any problems’, or ‘he doesn’t know what disappointment is because nothing ever goes wrong for him’.

We have to be honest with ourselves. We have to be able to express and go through those bad uncomfortable feelings even if they go against our nature. Were human and we are allowed to feel all the emotions in the world. Some we express and feel more than others and that’s fine. A person who rarely gets mad is allowed to get mad, no one can tell him or her otherwise.

I personally have seen people in my life who are happy and helpful get upset and annoyed every now and then. It doesn’t happen often, but I remember that they are not immune to those feelings, they are allowed to feel that way, they’re not perfect, and they are human.

The lines ‘If you are hurting, if you feel angry, if the constant presence of those emotions is exhausting you, you are not alone. I am with you’ speak volumes to me. These lines are like the foundation of this blog. I have experienced hurt and anger and those feelings have caused me fatigued and exhaustion.

Wrap Up

There is beauty on this life; that’s a fact. Sometimes when were dealing with trauma, it becomes harder to see that beauty because our mind can be clouded up with negativity and darkness. As Iris puts it, looking for the beauty within each other is very helpful. Though it may take some time, I guarantee you that it helps because it helped me 2 years ago. That time spent together with others who have gone through what you are going through or are currently going through what it is your going through is an opportunity to help one another and to keep each from falling down again.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: Hopelessness Theory of Depression

Depression is something that I have touched on in bits and pieces throughout my posts. There are so many factors and events that can lead to depression. What this video will focus on is the hopelessness theory. This video talks about 3 negative inferential styles.

Cause

This is something I myself experienced. When something bad happens to you, you attribute it to something bigger that is beyond your control. You believe that the world or a group of people are out to get you.

If you do something that does bring you success and/or happiness, the feeling doesn’t last long. You think you got lucky or it was a one time thing that will never happen again. This mindset causes you to not see the effort and work you put into something even if it’s something near and dear to your heart.

Your not alone if this is something that has happened to you. You probably know some people in your life who have experienced this and have thought this way before. Certain friends, co-workers, fellow students, family members, etc maybe.

Consequence

You may have been or gone through a sad, rough, hurtful, or tragic situation recently or at some point in your life. That describes me as well so once again your not alone. You may have had trouble thinking if any kind of good or silver lining could come out of that bad situation.

I have mentioned stressvision in the past. This is where you think the worst thing possible will happen and you have a negative outlook on life. Also you believe that you will never recover from whatever negative and bad thing happened to you and that those consequences will be impacting you forever.

Self-Image

This is where you compare yourself and everything about you to another person or a group of people. You believe that every bad thing that happens to you is all your fault where in reality that may not be the case.

You don’t recognize any positive traits about yourself. You may even lose the ability to see forward past your current situation. Your mind tells you that it will never end, no one can help you or will understand what your going through, and that it will get worse as time goes on.

Wrap Up

The hopelessness theory is just one part of depression. As I mentioned depression can result from various factors. I plan on discussing more about different things of depression in the future.

Therapy has helped me battle and eliminate depression. I would suggest you seek therapy if depression is taking a huge toll on your physical, mental, and emotional health. It will take time to develop a more positive mindset which includes learning new positive ways of thinking. Getting to the roots of your emotions and the situation can be scary and tough to figure out, but when you find them, you can begin healing.

Another thing I have found helpful is hearing others come forward with their personal stories and talk about their struggles. I encourage you all to try this. Vulnerability as I have mentioned can be scary, but it’s very relieving. Find a trusted friend, family member, teacher, loved one, pastor, or a therapist to open up to. Having depressive symptoms is NOT a sign of weakness and taking slow baby steps toward recovery is OK.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: Accepting Where You Are and it’s Where You Need to Be

This video discussion is from another video game I’ve played. The game is called Hyrule Warriors: Age of Calamity.

Spoiler Alert

If you haven’t played the game, are unfamiliar with the Legend of Zelda Breath of Wild game and storyline, and still want to play these games, this is kinda of a spoiler. It’s up to you if you want to watch this video.

This game had a particular scene which spoke to me about acceptance and that you are where you need to be.

Now you don’t need to watch the whole video. I couldn’t find this specific cutscene in a video by itself. The cutscene and part of the video I want to focus on starts at 20:28 and ends at 22:15.

Background Info

Here is a bit of background on what is going on. The blonde character is Zelda, the red-headed character is a Gerudo named Urbosa. The character the two are talking about is named Link.

Urbosa is like a mother figure to Zelda, having been real close to Zeldas mother before she passed away. Zelda is a teenager and the princess of the kingdom of Hyrule working to unlock a great power within her. Link is her appointed knight sworn to be her side and protect her from any kind of danger.

Zelda is comparing her progress of training for an upcoming threat to Links. She believes that Link has become so much stronger while she has not. Link recently acquired a powerful sword called the Master Sword to use for the upcoming threat.

As time begins to run out, Zelda talks about that there are no signs of the great power within her appearing no matter how hard she trains. Urbosa informs Zelda that Link is still the same person he was when she first met him before he acquired the Master Sword. She says that the two of them are one in the same. That both of them will rise to any challenge without any hesitation. Zelda was informed earlier by someone else that there is no need for her to be concerned or worried. Urbosa reminds Zelda of that and finishes by saying that she knows Zelda is exactly where she needs to be and that Zelda should accept that too. The cutscene finishes with Zelda thanking Urbosa.

Summary

What spoke to me was that we always are wanting to move from point A to point B, to point C, etc. If were not always moving or going up, then we feel bad about ourselves. We start to, once again, compare ourselves to others whether it’s strangers, friends, or family. The feeling of being stagnant is something were indirectly taught by others or what we read and were meant to interpret that as something not good.

I’ve felt and thought what Zelda deals with in this video; I’m sure you guys have at one point in your life. Even if were making progress on something whether it’s learning how to cook, how to paint, getting good grades, writing a book, or just making progress on how to be a better person, we are quick to compare ourselves to someone we believe is better than us.

If someone we know say makes a lot of money, has a better car than us, gets good grades all the time, is popular among their peers, are they really better than us? You may have been quick to say yes, but really think about this for a bit.

Remember, we don’t always know what is truly going on with another person. This student who may be getting A’s on all of their schoolwork, that Twitch streamer who has always has a big audience, your boss where you work, may be fighting some silent battles no one knows about. These silent battles could be having a negative effect on their life.

Accepting Your Current Situation

Urbosa says to Zelda that she is right where she needs to be and to accept that. I believe that we should strive to be better and learn new things about life and ourselves. However, the days we don’t make progress are ok. If were on a journey, we should enjoy it and not miss out on other things as we work toward the goal or goals.

Where we are in life may not feel good right now, but maybe that’s where we need to be. We may not be ready to take the next step on our journey. There may be some things we need to learn or let go in order to move forward. We may grow up some more and mature in order to learn and accept some of life’s more advanced lessons.

Accepting where we are can be tough because we feel the need to be better. We have dry spells, we feel like we’re in a rut or dip, and we feel stagnant. What I have found to help is that once we accept where we are and were ok with it, we start to feel better.

Remember in the video that Urbosa mentioned that the Great Deku Tree told Zelda not to fret. A third party or more who also knows your situation can be helpful. On the inside, we think things are worse than what they are; in some cases they are to be honest. On the outside, people close to us who can see what we’re going through can see the full picture and the situation isn’t super hard or horrible. Most of the time, what were dealing with is manageable and we are equipped to deal with it, even when we think were not.

Wrap Up

You could say that where we currently are in our life is a place where if we don’t get out of it fast, then bad things will happen to us. Think about that for second. Maybe you didn’t exactly think that, but maybe in some shape or form your subconscious may have thought it. That may be something unrealistic that you came up with yourself or learned from someone else.

If we believe that we have a good foundation and are stable where we are at, that can make accepting where we are easier to deal with and process.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: Music Speaking Your Mood

This video discussion is a bit different. This one relates to a piece of music from a video game called Astral Chain. I played this game back when it came out in August 2019. This piece of music spoke to me and it perfectly fitted the mood I was feeling at the time. I used this piece of music as a headliner for this post.

This piece of music is called Astral Plane. Here is a picture of the what the place looks like in the game.

When you’re experiencing different emotions, your mood of course is affected by them. You can feel happy, jealous, energetic, calm, satisfied, sad, angry, fatigued, etc. This particular piece of music speaks to me as being sad, being in a state of confusion and deep thinking, as well as being satisfied.

When you’re experiencing emotions, sometimes it’s best to let them ride out. Well letting them ride out is one thing, but sometimes you still feel the need to express them. Words and actions are ways to express them, but just sitting down, walking around, or laying down and listening to music is another way.

If your feeling sad, listening to sad music (like a piano being played slowly) can fit the mood your feeling. You may not want to hear anything that sounds loud or upbeat. If your feeling joyful, maybe listening to a sad piano isn’t a good idea.

Sometimes you don’t know how to describe how your feeling. Music is an outlet for people to be creative and to express their feelings. Different kinds of music speak to people. When you hear certain pieces of music, you may say things like ‘that music describes how I’m feeling right now’, ‘that music fits the mood I’m feeling’.

Wrap Up

So if you have had trouble expressing yourself with words and actions, try listening to music. If you let music express how your feeling, your not alone. Music is something that I use to express my mood. Words can be difficult to come up with because your not feeling one emotion entirely. You can feel 60% sad, 25% calm, and 15% jealous for example. Songs can have lyrics that speak to you on various levels. Listening to music without lyrics can be just as helpful.

I hope this has been informative and eye opening for you. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: The Domino Effect

Been some time since I did a video discussion post. This idea came to me when I saw a video of a dominoes set up falling down. This video just shows 15,000 dominoes all falling down. The girl in the video has other videos of dominoes falling down if you want to check it out.

At some point in our lives we have heard of the Domino Effect being referenced. The concept is that when one thing happens another thing happens. Sometimes it’s right away and sometimes it takes a little while.

The Domino Effect is a factor that can take place in any aspect of life. From the behaviors of people and animals, weather patterns, technology, machinery, building structures, etc. The Domino Effect can work against you or be in your favor.

Influences from other people can rub off on you. For example, you see someone exercising, that can inspire you to exercise as well. You take notice of the person being healthy and having more energy. If you see this person getting results, that influence is a positive thing and can become a motivating factor for you.

A support beam or wall can bring down different parts of a building or the whole building itself. If one part of a machine breaks or goes bad, then other parts can go bad and break as well and maybe break the entire machine.

I want you to take a moment to think about something that happened to you, or someone you know, or you witnessed something where one thing led to another thing and another. It can be good or bad. I want you to think about the Domino Effect for a little bit.

So what do you think? The Domino Effect can happen with or without warning and it can happen fast or slow. If something breaks, another thing can break too (not always). Fix one thing, another thing can become fixable.

The video may just show a bunch of dominoes falling down and a girls happy reaction, but the symbolism is what I wanted to focus on. As you saw, those 15,000 dominoes all fell down. The Domino Effect doesn’t have a definite end. Things can happen over and over until something is completely gone or 100% complete and fulfilled.

So your not alone if you had the Domino Effect happen to you. It’s happened to me numerous times and if someone tells you that it hasn’t happened to them, then they’re lying. I hope you have enjoyed this post. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Get Knocked Down and Getting Up Even When it’s Tough

This video discussion is a bit different and a bit more on the entertainment aspect. It’s a short clip from the CW’s Crisis on Infinite Earths crossover. Most of what I want to talk about is symbolism. You’re free to watch the whole clip, but you don’t have to. Just a heads up, this is a spoiler for those who haven’t seen the crossover and still want to see it. What I want to focus on is what is in between 2:11 – 2:47.

The symbolism in that time frame really spoke to me after I watched it a second time. For those who don’t know, the individual in the video is Stephen Amell who plays Oliver Queen aka the Green Arrow on the TV show Arrow. As you saw, he’s shooting the demons him and the other heroes are fighting in the crossover. After re-watching it, I started to interpret it as an outward appearance of some of the battles we face in our everyday lives.

There are battles that we face on a daily basis, every week, every month, every year. We battle with past pain that we got from other people. We battle various illnesses. Some of us have disabilities that we deal with every single day. We even battle with ourselves. Sometimes we’re our own worst enemy and we’re at constant war with unwanted stress and anxiety, lies, toxic and negative thoughts about ourselves. To me, that’s what those first few seconds of that clip symbolize.

When the Green Arrow gets hit by one of the demons and falls down, to me that symbolizes us getting hit with a new problem, a curveball, an unexpected tradgey, or illness our in life. These types of things hit us with or without warning. Sometimes they upset our world and we can be at a loss of what to do. We can begin to question things that we once thought were true about ourselves, the people in our lives, society, life in general, and things that we had under control.

The next part of the clip shows the Green Arrow getting back up and continuing to fight. When we do get knocked down, we have to push and work to not let what knocked us down keep us down. We continue to battle our problems and work through our struggles. Then the Green Arrow gets hit by one of the demons again, but the second time it’s a harder it. For a few seconds, he can’t get back up and stays down. Those unexpected things and curveballs can hit us hard, and again with or without warning.

To me, this symbolizes that when we do get hit by those things, it may take longer for us to get back up on our feet. We don’t always have the energy to make a quick recovery. Sometimes we can become so broken that we may not have as much energy as we did before. The Green Arrow struggled even more to get back up than he did the first time. As you can see with determination and motivation, and remembering what he was fighting for, he was able to get the energy he needed to get back up. The same can be said for you. You could be fighting for someone you love and care about. Let that support system give you the energy to keep fighting and get up. I do understand that it is easier said than done, but it is definitely possible.

After the Green Arrow gets back up, he realizes he has no more arrows left and a swarm of demons is heading right for him. There are times where you feel like you have used up all your energy and have nothing left to fight with and your problems and struggles just get worse or you just got hit with more of them. Unfortunately some people just give up and succumb to the unwanted stress, anxiety, illness, and depression they’re dealing with.

The Green Arrow however looks at the swarm and you can see the fire in his eyes that he is not going to give up no matter what. Even though the odds are against him, he’s fighting for the safety and protection of billions of innocent lives including his friends, family, allies, and loved ones and that’s what gives him the energy to continue to fight.

Remember you have a support system of friends, family, and loved ones as well. They want you to succeed. They care about you and believe you can do anything. They believe that you are strong. The odds may be against you, but you have to keep fighting even though it’s tough. When there’s a will there’s a way and there’s always a way. It may take a little while to find a solution and what works for you, but I know you can. Hope and faith are very powerful; cling on to them and hope for the best.

Lastly the Green Arrow drops his bow and charges the swarm of demons. I won’t spoil what happens next because this clip doesn’t show the aftermath of the battle. The dropping of the bow to me symbolizes that the tools and techniques you were using before may not have worked or are no longer working, so now you have to find another approach in dealing with your problems and struggles.

The Green Arrow charging the swarm of demons to me symbolizes that the gloves are coming off and sometimes you have to tackle your problems head-on no matter how tough they are. By doing this you’re showing that though you may be hurt and weak, but you’re not going let your problems or struggles take control and rule your life. If you have to take baby steps, that’s perfectly fine. In time, those baby steps will build-up and one day will show you that you have made great progress in your battles.

Wrap Up

For 36 seconds there was quite a bit to talk about. I know this post is different than my previous ones, but I hope you understand the symbolism I was trying to explain. Some people understand things better through symbolism and through visual aids. We can get lost in our minds when dealing with various things and we can get nowhere in finding solutions or ways to live and cope with our problems and struggles. Remember you’re not the only person in the world who is struggling and up to their neck with problems. Your friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers, boss, fellow students, church members, teachers, etc are fighting battles of their own. Some of them may not wish to not talk about them. I’ve been knocked down and I’ve gotten back up numerous times. There are times where it has taken me a while to gather the energy and get back up. I have done it, so now you know there is one person who can do it. If I can do it, you can do it. That’s the end of another video discussion. Remember you’re not alone and you have worth in this world.

I’m Afraid of Being Happy…Huh?

So for the first video discussion, it’s about being afraid of being happy. It’s from Meech from ‘On the Radar’.

The first sentence he says, I’ll admit I had to let that sink in myself. Why would anyone be afraid of being happy? You would think everyone wants to be happy right? Well unfortunately that’s not the case.

In the video, he talks about how happiness is foreign to some people. They only know how to think negative thoughts and are pessimistic about life.

They find comfort in being overwhelmed with stress. They find comfort in anger, depression, and agitation. People don’t want to come out of it because as bad and crappy as they feel, it’s comforting for them.

He brings up that we embrace depression and that we subconsciously stay in it and like it. I personally believe that is a thing because I have done that myself a number of times in my life.

Happiness is so foreign to people that he mentions that people are so afraid of it because they don’t know how to cope with it, respond to it, and deal with it. They don’t believe that it’s real. They are expecting things to go bad. So instead of enjoying the moment, they are completely dismissing it entirely. They are just waiting for things to go bad and putting all there energy and focus into that mindset.

Oddly enough, he mentions that when you’re around other people with that same negative mindset, the negative things that are talked about, both people are more likely to agree with one another. You can say that people feed off of each other’s negativity.

What I found interesting is that a if your too positive toward someone with this negative mindset, you can turn those people away. You could say that people who are used to being around negative people get turned away from any bit of positively optimism from them.

If you have felt this way or feel this way currently, your not alone. I have felt like this; I know friends who felt like this. There are people in this world who are like this. People who are in abusive relationships are like this. You may see people like this everyday in different areas of your life. Sometimes we notice them and sometimes we don’t. These people could be closer to us than we think.

I hope you all have enjoyed this first discussion post. I hope to do more of these in the future. Take care of yourselves and remember you are not alone and you have worth in this world.