My First Blog Post

Getting Started

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde.

This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this new blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.

Video Time: How to Improve Your Self Worth

Hi there, sorry about not posting last week, I had some personal things going on and work was very busy. I realized I haven’t made a Video Time Post in quite some time.

So these videos are about self-worth. One comes from motivational speaker Mel Robbins. The other comes from the video series Pysch2go. The last one comes from licened counselor Lisa Ryan.

These videos talk about the reasons why we sacrifice our self-worth to fit in with people, how to build our confidence, dealing with peer pressure, and how to take better care of ourselves mentally. I’ve discussed the topic of self-worth before and I’ve found that hearing ideas and other perspectives from different people to be insightful.

Also thank you to those who have been patient with me; I truly appreciate it. Im grateful to have people who read my content and take away something to better their lives and to enhance their knowledge on life. Down the road I hope to post more content during the week. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving to those who celebrate it. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Quote Break Down

So here is something brand new. I’m going to be discussing and breaking down various life quotes. These kinds of posts won’t be super long. Some quotes can be a bit tough to understand and find the message in them. My intention is to break them down part by part, explain it in layman’s terms, and provide some extra information.

So as I have mentioned before it’s important to take care of yourself mentally, physically, spirituality, and emotionally. Sometimes when we want to take time for ourselves, we feel guilty because we think it’s selfish. That’s where the ‘me first’ can come into the picture.

Are we taught that taking care of ourselves is selfish? The answer is yes and no. We can be taught it upfront face to face. We can indirectly learn it from the conversations we have with people, what we are taught, and from the behaviors and actions of others.

If this sounds like you then you are not alone. I have dealt with this concept numerous times even during my social media hiatus back in 2020 as well as last year. You are allowed free time.

In fact, you need that time to recharge yourself, heal, figure things out, or just simply give your mind and body a rest. Are running on fumes right now? Is the person you said hi to, the person you just saw get up and walk away, or are the person sitting next you running off of no sleep and low energy?

Only you can answer those questions. Sometimes people need ‘me’ time away from people to work on themselves, need quiet time, and be away from the business of our society. There is only one of you in this world. As I have mentioned in the past, that makes you special and unique. That is a great reason alone to take care of yourself in however you need to. As long as your not hurting yourself, your good. Your real friends and family members will understand when you need to take time for yourself.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Symbolism: How to see the Full Picture and Get Clarity on Your Life

Sorry about the lack of posting last week. Work is still hectic and busy for me. So this post could have been a video discussion post, but I feel this topic has more symbolism in it. With that said here is some background info on the video. It features an item from the video game The Legend of Zelda: Skyward Sword called the Gust Bellows.

https://youtu.be/KXIE8Qx6i3g

Clear the Clutter

So as you saw the Gust Bellows is an item that pretty much shoots out a continuous large gust of wind. Here is where the symbolism comes in. We are the character in the video named Link. Picture the sand as the fog and confusion you have about your life or various topics. Underneath the sand there is the clarity and the full picture of the situation and/or to your questions. The gust bellows represents the tools and techniques we can use to remove that fog and uncertainty in our lives.

If you have felt that there is some unclarity, uncertainty, in your life as well as confusion, your not alone. To remove the fog and confusion (the sand), we sometimes have to change our mindset. We have to unlearn old habits and implement new ways of thinking and create good healthy habits (the gust bellows). When we do that, we can start removing all the confusion and uncertainty in our lives.

To be real with all of you, eliminating that uncertainty and getting some clarity may reveal some truths that we may not like or be ready for. In the video, you saw some spikes come out the floor. Picture those spikes as some harsh truths which we have to face and sometimes accept and yes they can hurt.

On the flipside, clearing that confusion, getting answers to questions we have can reveal good things. In the video, green gems called rupees were revealed when the sand was blown away. In the game, rupees are currency to buy items, upgrades, and materials for Link. Also when the sand was removed, the right path for Link was revealed. Clearing that confusion in our lives can give us the guidance we need and to find and follow our own path. Getting that clarity to confusing things in our lives and those answers to our questions feels great right?

Wrap Up

So overall, we are faced with uncertainty, confusion, and unanswered questions in our lives. We don’t always see the full picture or big picture figuratively speaking. However with the right tools and help from other people in our lives, we can. Does this process take time, it can. Everyone is different; lets just say some remove the sand faster than others. If your someone who needs more time to remove the sand, that is fine. Everyone moves at a different pace and no pace is the same.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Symbolism: The Cocoon, the Healing, the Transformation

Have you ever retreated to a place where you needed comfort and safety from something bad? Did you need to be in a place where you needed healing and to work on yourself? If you answered yes to any of these then your not alone. Many people do this throughout there lives and there is nothing wrong with that.

The Cocoon: The Beginning

By now you may be wondering why do I keep mentioning the word cocoon. We all know a caterpillar creates a cocoon and then comes out a butterfly. While the caterpillar is inside the cocoon, it’s safe and it starts to evolve into its next phase of life.

When we go through phases, rough roads, trials, transformations, and transitions in life, we can be dealing with a handful of emotions. Sometimes we find ourselves in a place whether it be a new home, new room, or new school where we can be safe and grow as a person. These places are sometimes temporary.

We can view theses kinds of places as safe havens to escape from a bad situation or living arrangement. For example, a wife ends up living in a new apartment after she gets divorced from her husband. This apartment can serve as a safe haven (the cocoon) for the wife. She can work on healing, getting her life back together. and moving forward from the divorce.

The Butterfly: The Transformation

Remember the cocoon phase is only temporary. After you got out of survival mode and felt better about yourself, did you feel that you were ready to tackle the world with a new perspective? Did you feel like you were ready to spread your wings again? I have felt like this and know many friends who have as well; so your not alone.

After coming out the cocoon figuratively speaking, you feel transformed. You can have either more energy, a new mindset, new strength or all three for example. You feel ready to spread your wings and soar to new heights. Maybe that sounds a little cheesy, but people who come out of the cocoon phase are ready to tackle new goals and do things they thought were once unachievable.

Wrap Up

New perspectives along with new mindsets can feel like a breath of fresh air for your mind and soul. Your thinking differently, you have a better and healthy mindset, and you have a better tolerance against negative things. Maybe your in a cocoon phase right now; if so that’s fine.

Maybe you got out of something horrible and you’ve been healing for a while now. You’ve been doing some self work on yourself. Your unlearning bad habits and developing better ones. All of this is fine, don’t let anyone put you down or tell you otherwise. You may even have some friends and family members who are in a cocoon phase and/or have transformed into butterflies.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

The Friends You Can Confide In

Vulnerability, honesty, and trust. Do these words come to mind when you think of your closest friends? Are you able to confide in them about deep and personal things?

Different Types of Friends

So some of you may already know that there are various kinds of friends out there. You have your athletic friends, those who like to party, those who are good listeners, some who are reserved but easy to get along with, and so on. If this sounds like people you know, your not alone. Every person out there has a variety of friends.

Your allowed to have a variety of friends. Whether your a big social person or someone who is more laid back, having different kinds of friends enriches your life. As I’ve mentioned before, having moral support from friends is just as good as having moral support from family.

Confiding in Others

You have friends who you can laugh and have a fun time with, but you can confide in them if you are troubled. Easy right; well not always. Maybe the reality of your situation is that you have dozens of friends who you get along with, but only a few of them are ones you can talk deep stuff with. You may think you are being a burden to them by dumping you troubles onto them especially if you’ve done it before. You may think your damaging the friendship and that eventually you’ll loose them. If you have thought this way before, your not alone. I’ve been there myself.

As I mentioned you may have a variety of friends who you can talk sports with but not books. Then you have people who you can talk urban legends and unexplained events with, but not video games.

Some people only have that one friend who they can go to no matter what happens and have a deep talk, a rant, and even a good cry. This is what I meant about vulnerability, trust, and honesty. These three traits are precious. Not every person can open up, some have trust issues, and some just don’t know how to tell the truth.

There is a deep connection and understanding between people who are vulnerable to one another. You really get to know someone in how they think, how they handle their emotions, and how they view life. They provide you comfort when you feel fragile, confused, hurt, and broken. Sometimes they give you words of encouragement, a hug, a shoulder to cry on, even a listening ear for you to vent. Sounds like I’m repeating myself a bit, but these kind of people will really do these things for you. In reality, these kind of friends are easier to go to and confide in than our own parents. In my opinion, this shouldn’t be a thing, but it is.

Wrap Up

The close friends you can confide in shouldn’t be taken for granted. Some of the worst and toughest moments of your life are made a bit easier to deal with these kind of friends. If you have these kind of friends in your life, you should consider yourself grateful. Your not alone in this world; these kind of friends will remind you of that. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: To See New Things, Empty Your Mind

First video discussion post in a long time. I watched the movie 2012 for the first time in a long time. Even though it was very short, this scene really spoke to me. A bit of background of what led to this scene. A family and group of people are fleeing to ships that will protect them from the end of the world. Elsewhere two monks are talking about what is happening. One monk helps to ease the other ones troubled mind by pouring tea into a cup and allowing it to overflow. Here’s the scene

A Full Mind

So I believe a lot of people are wired like the young monk. People are full of opinions and speculations about themselves, other people, and life itself. Yet people want to learn more and seek wisdom from others.

However, if we are too full of opinions and speculate about every little thing, then our minds are not able to take in new things. Even now, we still live in a fast paced society where we want answers to our questions right away. Our minds can go fast and even go into overdrive. When this happens, we have trouble learning new things or are unable to learn something new and sometimes are not able to see the things right on front of us. Even the simple things seem very complex.

An Open Mind

As the older monk said, to see the light of wisdom, you must first empty your cup. In other words, to accept new knowledge and wisdom from others, we need to slow our minds down. We need to put aside our thoughts, speculations, and opinions and have an open mind. An open mind will allow you to comprehend and learn new things.

This is easier said than done I know. For some people, they have trouble slowly their thoughts down because they’re going from one thing to the next. We also have a tendency to take in the littlest new thing and quickly fit it into our established thought patterns.

However by doing this we assume we don’t need to learn anything else and we close our minds. Some new things take time to learn and we don’t always get the full picture up front. We learn one new thing and then we learn the next part of it at a later time and date.

Wrap Up

The overall moral is we should always be open to new things. We should be patient and not rush the process. Some things are easier to learn than others. Some things take longer to learn and that’s just life which is ok. It’s good to have our own opinions and speculations, we just have to keep them in check every now and then which can be challenging.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Receiving Love

At some point in your life you have received various forms of love. Love can come from anyone. Parents, siblings, friends, spouses, boyfriend, girlfriend, animals, even kind-hearted strangers. Love can come when you least suspect it; I’m sure you’ve heard that saying before.

Maybe you heard or learned that love is something you have to earn. While that might be true for when you are dating someone and getting to know them on a deep personal level, this not entirely true in relation to life itself. For example, you should never have to be put in a position where you have to earn love from your parents. Your parents should love you just the way you are.

Sometimes we can be hard on ourselves about every aspect and trait about our personality and life. Our mindset may be wired to where we don’t think we are deserving of love from anyone. Even kind gestures and words, big and small, we think we don’t deserve them.

This can come from various forms of emotional abuse. Guilt tripping, lies, name-calling, body shaming, even giving someone the cold shoulder can hurt someone severely mentally and emotionally speaking. The duration and severity of emotional abuse can take a heavy toll on our mindset and affect how we view ourselves and life itself.

Now remember there are people out there who will give you some form of love. This can be from anything from positive words, a nice gesture, a pat on the back, to a hug and maybe a kiss. They will do so because they like you, love you, and because they are kind hearted people. Now whether or not you accept their love is up to you.

There are people out there who love you just the way you are. You are lovable because you exist. You are love. Love is more about how you treat yourself rather than how others treat you.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

I’m Back

Hi everyone after nearly one year away, I’m back. I’ll keep it brief on what I’ve been up to.

So I took some time to do a lot of self-care work. It had it’s ups and downs and stagnant days. At the beginning of the year, I got Covid which put me out of commission for awhile. I tried a new job which didn’t really suit me and was draining along with having another part time job with it. I lost some money through cryptocurrency. I have been working with a counselor and briefly with a life coach who have been tremendously helpful.

Now I’m working as a dietary aide at a assisted living facility full-time. I’m also studying again to take my exam to get licensed for counseling. I’m living more in the present and have gotten much better at not comparing myself to others.

So the plan is I’m going to post once a week for the time being. Before I took a break, I did redesign my blog with a new layout. The new post will be a symbolism post and will be posted tomorrow.

Thank you for your patience. I appreciate you all for following my blog and taking the time to read my content. I’m doing much better than I was this time last year. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Christmas Update

Hi everyone, I hope your all doing well and that the holidays are treating you all right. So I know I’ve been away for quite some time; well I have some updates.

So I’m currently working two part time jobs, one in the morning and the other from the afternoon into the evening. Right now all my energy and attention have gone into acclimating my daily routine into balancing and working both jobs while trying to not get burned out.

Those of you who are following me and get emails of when I upload posts, may have noticed that I redesigned my logo and changed the overall theme.

I also have been thinking of new ideas of writing different kinds of posts and setting up new pages. I’ll keep you posted on that.

Thank you all for being patient with me as I balance two jobs and work on some personal things in my life. I hope to get back to uploading posts soon. I truly appreciate all of you who follow, like, and comment on my posts. I enjoy seeing and reading your feedback.

Have a wonderful Christmas and holiday season as 2021 comes to a close. Spend time with loved ones, have fun, and relax, you’ve earned it. For those of you where Christmas isn’t the most wonderful time of the year, your not alone in your struggles. I’ll send good vibes your way and say a prayer for you all. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Symbolism: What You Build and Create is Different Than Others

You are Your Own Person

My very first post when I started this blog was a post on comparing yourself to others. This concept is a real struggle for some people. So for this symbolism post I thought I talk about in another perspective.

As we get older, we begin to create our own lifestyle. However, other people’s lifestyles can make us feel jealous and envyness. Sometimes we focus our mindset towards what others. This can be because they either have qualities, traits, or material things that we want or we think their way of life is than ours.

So I want you to focus on the first tree in the center of the pic. What do you notice? It’s not a huge tree. It looks to be in good health. It has a handful of branches that aren’t real big or long, but it has a bunch of green leaves.

Someone planted this tree and mother nature has been good to it and taken care of it. Now this tree didn’t get this way over night or in 1 week. It took time for it to get this way. Just like when you build or create something big like a house or a diorama, it takes time and effort to complete them.

Now don’t get me wrong, some things can get done in a day or less than a days time. The point is that every big business or actors successful TV and/or film career didn’t come about in a short time. That business success and fame took time to grow.

Now look at this pic. What’s different from the first? Well there are more trees. These trees are very big. They have more branches and they are longer and stronger. These individual trees have way more leaves on them.

Each of these trees are in good health and they have been around for a long time. Now think back what I just mentioned about the first tree. These trees have had more time to become what they are.

Overall Point

Success isn’t always achieved overnight or in a days time. The bigger and biggest things take time, energy, and effort to develop. Everyone starts from a different starting line. If you have built and created something and it’s only gotten as successful as the progress of the first tree, that’s fine. Don’t let the success of people and the creation of other things (the big trees) discourage you.

You don’t always know the full story. Those that make it appear like everything is going great and problem free, may be hiding some huge problems. If that’s the case, you should feel lucky that you don’t have to deal with those huge problems.

Some people only like talking about their successes which isn’t a bad thing. However, this can give push people away and intimidate them into thinking that they are not good enough or failures. They may think that nothing wrong ever happens to that person.

Now this goes into how someones mindset is. If it’s a pessimistic one, then that can cause unwanted stress. If it’s a optimistic one, someone can be happy for the other person’s accomplishment and maybe even get inspired from it.

One last thing, don’t put down or make fun of whatever someone else has created and built regardless of the size. A lot of work and passion went into creating whatever it is. The person who created it probably feels proud of it. Be nice to one another.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.