When it comes to building anything in life, you always need a solid foundation to start out with. Building a skyscraper for example needs a strong foundation to be built upon. The Empire State Building, Washington Monument, the Sphinx, or the Temple of Heaven wouldn’t be what they are without firm foundations. Not all foundations consist of bricks, wood, nails, beams, stones, concrete, or other building materials.
A lasting, strong, and meaningful relationship with a friend, loved one, business partner, family member, etc needs a strong foundation too. As time goes on, you build more and more on top of your foundation. You continue to expand reaching new heights, learning new skills, and acquiring new kinds of knowledge.
Once your foundation is well established, you can start adding more. In the picture above, these construction workers are building the next part of the building. They wouldn’t be able to do that if the foundation at the bottom wasn’t strong and keeping things up.
Going back the relationship aspect, taking the next step can succeed if the foundation is solid. For example, say you decide you want to marry your girlfriend after 2 months of dating. What you should ask yourself is if the foundation of your relationship is strong enough to make the leap into the engagement phase and then into marriage.
How well do you really know her? Do you know her likes and dislikes of foods, movies, pets, hobbies, etc? How well do you and her handle and resolve arguments? Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with her and living with her day in and day out? Do you sympathize and empathize with her and vice versa? Does she contribute you what you contribute to the relationship?
All these questions are the building pieces of a foundation. If you can’t answer some of these questions, your missing a piece or pieces that will be needed to not only keep the foundation strong, but those pieces are needed to be built upon in the future.
Changing things up a bit. If you want to marry your girlfriend after 2 years of dating, that’s a different story. Chances are both of you have spent a lot of time getting to know one another. You both know each other’s likes and dislikes. You both know how to handle and resolve arguments. There is a strong connection between the two of you where you don’t second guess each others actions. With these things in mind, your in better shape to live together and spend the rest of your life with her.
Foundations help shape us into who we are. They are also what keeps big buildings standing. If a building was missing pieces as it was being built, that can spell trouble, but it wouldn’t be catastrophic. If the foundation is solid, what’s broken can be fixed in an easier way.
Now if the building was missing pieces and the foundation wasn’t solid, there is a chance the foundation could crumble and then nothing could be built upon it; the foundation would have to be started from scratch. Think of this in a relationship aspect. Arguments and fights can cause damage to a relationship. Sometimes pieces need to be put back together and the stronger the foundation, the easier it is to pick up the pieces.
Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.