The Friends You Can Confide In

Vulnerability, honesty, and trust. Do these words come to mind when you think of your closest friends? Are you able to confide in them about deep and personal things?

Different Types of Friends

So some of you may already know that there are various kinds of friends out there. You have your athletic friends, those who like to party, those who are good listeners, some who are reserved but easy to get along with, and so on. If this sounds like people you know, your not alone. Every person out there has a variety of friends.

Your allowed to have a variety of friends. Whether your a big social person or someone who is more laid back, having different kinds of friends enriches your life. As I’ve mentioned before, having moral support from friends is just as good as having moral support from family.

Confiding in Others

You have friends who you can laugh and have a fun time with, but you can confide in them if you are troubled. Easy right; well not always. Maybe the reality of your situation is that you have dozens of friends who you get along with, but only a few of them are ones you can talk deep stuff with. You may think you are being a burden to them by dumping you troubles onto them especially if you’ve done it before. You may think your damaging the friendship and that eventually you’ll loose them. If you have thought this way before, your not alone. I’ve been there myself.

As I mentioned you may have a variety of friends who you can talk sports with but not books. Then you have people who you can talk urban legends and unexplained events with, but not video games.

Some people only have that one friend who they can go to no matter what happens and have a deep talk, a rant, and even a good cry. This is what I meant about vulnerability, trust, and honesty. These three traits are precious. Not every person can open up, some have trust issues, and some just don’t know how to tell the truth.

There is a deep connection and understanding between people who are vulnerable to one another. You really get to know someone in how they think, how they handle their emotions, and how they view life. They provide you comfort when you feel fragile, confused, hurt, and broken. Sometimes they give you words of encouragement, a hug, a shoulder to cry on, even a listening ear for you to vent. Sounds like I’m repeating myself a bit, but these kind of people will really do these things for you. In reality, these kind of friends are easier to go to and confide in than our own parents. In my opinion, this shouldn’t be a thing, but it is.

Wrap Up

The close friends you can confide in shouldn’t be taken for granted. Some of the worst and toughest moments of your life are made a bit easier to deal with these kind of friends. If you have these kind of friends in your life, you should consider yourself grateful. Your not alone in this world; these kind of friends will remind you of that. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

I’m Back

Hi everyone after nearly one year away, I’m back. I’ll keep it brief on what I’ve been up to.

So I took some time to do a lot of self-care work. It had it’s ups and downs and stagnant days. At the beginning of the year, I got Covid which put me out of commission for awhile. I tried a new job which didn’t really suit me and was draining along with having another part time job with it. I lost some money through cryptocurrency. I have been working with a counselor and briefly with a life coach who have been tremendously helpful.

Now I’m working as a dietary aide at a assisted living facility full-time. I’m also studying again to take my exam to get licensed for counseling. I’m living more in the present and have gotten much better at not comparing myself to others.

So the plan is I’m going to post once a week for the time being. Before I took a break, I did redesign my blog with a new layout. The new post will be a symbolism post and will be posted tomorrow.

Thank you for your patience. I appreciate you all for following my blog and taking the time to read my content. I’m doing much better than I was this time last year. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Christmas Update

Hi everyone, I hope your all doing well and that the holidays are treating you all right. So I know I’ve been away for quite some time; well I have some updates.

So I’m currently working two part time jobs, one in the morning and the other from the afternoon into the evening. Right now all my energy and attention have gone into acclimating my daily routine into balancing and working both jobs while trying to not get burned out.

Those of you who are following me and get emails of when I upload posts, may have noticed that I redesigned my logo and changed the overall theme.

I also have been thinking of new ideas of writing different kinds of posts and setting up new pages. I’ll keep you posted on that.

Thank you all for being patient with me as I balance two jobs and work on some personal things in my life. I hope to get back to uploading posts soon. I truly appreciate all of you who follow, like, and comment on my posts. I enjoy seeing and reading your feedback.

Have a wonderful Christmas and holiday season as 2021 comes to a close. Spend time with loved ones, have fun, and relax, you’ve earned it. For those of you where Christmas isn’t the most wonderful time of the year, your not alone in your struggles. I’ll send good vibes your way and say a prayer for you all. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Taking a Break

So I wanted to let you all know that I’m going to be taking a break for awhile.  Looking for work is a job itself which can be draining.  I recently realized that I pushed myself too hard which has caused me to be hard on myself and caused me to be mentally exhausted. 

Recently I have educating myself more on self-care habits which are helping me.  I’m putting my energy and effort onto being gentle on myself and appreciating all that I have and to be grateful for it.

Again thank you all for the support.  I read all your comments and I appreciate them, the likes, as well as the feedback.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Update

Hi everyone, so I wanted to let you all know that next week I’m going to be taking a break. For those of you who don’t know, I’m unemployed and have been since early May. I’ve been trying to find a new job which has been taking up my time and energy. This past week has been kinda rough for me. I’ve been hard on myself and have been dealing with unwanted stress and anxiety; so I need to take a step back and reevaluate some things in my life. I hope you all understand. Thank you all for your support, I hope you know that I really appreciate it.

As some of you know, Simone Bailes had recently pulled herself out of the Olympic Finals. The reason was because she wanted to focus on her mental well-being. Her decision and reason reminded me of why I took my social media hiatus. I need to refocus on myself again for the time being.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

How Often Does Time Get Away From You?

Hi everyone, I hope you all had a wonderful 4th of July (if you celebrate it). One thing that got me wondering this past weekend is time itself. I bet there was a handful of times at one point where you had said ‘where has the time gone?’ or ‘how did time get away from me?’. I myself have said that numerous times to myself or to my friends. Your not alone if you feel like time has gotten away from you.

How Does Time get Away From Us

Growing up, some of us don’t keep track of time or have any time management skills. As kids, sometimes we aren’t taught how to manage our time properly. When were in school, a conference, meeting, or a seminar for example, time can drag on and feel like forever yet only a small amount of time has gone by. Then some days, time goes by so fast and the day is almost over yet it feels like the day just started and we just woke up.

Lets be real, we all at one point have slept in and didn’t get out of bed until later in the day. Well that can be because we didn’t sleep until late at night. Is it this simple, unfortunately no. Everyone has a different life schedule where some of us have jobs late at night. Some of us stay up late to study and others stay up late partying. Then there are those who have sleep troubles where it’s physically and mentally hard to fall asleep.

Sleep schedules and patterns are just a couple of factors of time getting away from us. We can get so involved into something that we lose all track of time. Planning a party, building a model of the Titanic, binging something on Netflix, playing a sport with friends, playing video games are examples where time just gets away from us. We can be working on a company project, doing chores, or studying up for a math test that time just flies right by. Spending time with friends and loved ones always seems to pass the time.

Now all those things can eat up a lot of time right? Well some of you see that as your life, a life you used to live, or maybe a life you want to tweek and make changes to. With the right mindset, you can keep time in check while not obsessing or dwelling on it. You don’t need to look at your phone, the clock, or watch counting minutes and seconds.

Here are some tips to help you better manage your time:

  • Organization is a great way to have clarity and get down what you need to get done
  • Setting realistic goals and writing them down believe it or not can help motivate you to accomplish everything on your to do list
  • Planning how much time you want to spend on one thing can help you not lose track of time and get the next thing done before the day is up
  • Managing your stress to stay in the present and using it correctly to not let things slip away is helpful
  • Prioritize what needs to get done first or what will need the most energy can help you get things done and have energy to spare
  • Self-awareness is helpful in keeping track of time and I don’t mean looking at your watch or the clock consistently. You can set an alarm to let you know when your time on something is up or set up a 5 or 10 minute warning.
  • That to do list I keep mentioning, write it down if it helps you prioritize things better instead of remembering it all in your head.
  • Stay focused on what you need to do or get done. Try to minimize any distractions around you like the TV or unnecessary noise.

Wrap Up

Time management is key. Sometimes we feel like there isn’t enough time in the day to do the things we want to do. With the proper prioritizing of goals and your to do list, you can get a lot done and still have time in the day.

Some of what I said can be described as setting up a routine. I talked about routines before and how they can work against us instead of helping us. This just goes back to having the right kind of balance in your life which takes time to figure out. Everyone is different, so what works for some people may not work for you. It’s ok to have game nights on Fridays or going to the movies on Wednesday afternoons.

Remember to have flexibility in your life, that way you can manage your time better and not become a victim of your own routine; don’t let it control you, control it. It’s ok to change things up; something new is great for the mind. Also don’t forget that if you need time to rest and do nothing, that’s perfectly fine. Don’t feel guilty about it, we all need downtime and rest, we need to recharge ourselves, and this can help in slowing down our thoughts so their not causing us unwanted anxiety or stress. This helps in us having and maintaining a clear mind.

Staying in the present can help us not think and dwell too much about the future and the past. Try focusing on the next hour and what you can do in it. Don’t think about the next hour or later in the day. Don’t think back to earlier in the day, that time has passed. You have 60 minutes, put your energy and focus solely on that period of time. I have learned that this technique helps me stay more in the present time.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.