Inspired and Motivated or Jealous and Envyness of Someone?

Hi everyone, sorry for not posting last week; I wasn’t feeling too well. Winter is definitely here in the U.S. Take care of yourselves and stay safe on the roads. Hopefully you all don’t succumb to the flu or major illnesses.

Inspired and Motivated by Someone

This is a concept that I’m sure you all can relate to in some shape or form. There is that one person who always motivates you to try something new or inspires you to never give up. This person also brings out the best qualities in you and helps you generate new ideas and maybe helps you view life in another perspective. If you know someone like this, that’s wonderful. You actually might have a few people like this instead of just one which is fabulous.

Envyness and Jealous by Someone

Now let’s look at the other side of the coin. So that person or people who inspire you, ask yourself this, have you ever been jealous or envyness of them? If not, that’s fine. If you answered yes, let’s look into this. Did they get something you wanted? Did they achieve something very easily while you struggle with it? Did you think that these people don’t have a worry in the world while your stressed everyday? Do they have the life you want while your trying and/or struggling to build it?

If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, your not alone. I can relate to this and this is a concept that happens every single day. Jealousy is a thing as well as envy. Now are you a bad person for thinking like this? The answer is no, as long as you don’t lash out toward anyone or them.


You can be inspired by someone and then you can be jealous of them the next minute. Why is that you ask, well it depends on how you view your self-worth. If your satisfied with how you view yourself and how your life is, then this special person is going to inspire and motivate you. If you aren’t happy with your life and aren’t satisfied with what you have, then jealously and envy will take over your thoughts.

For one thing, someone is always going to be better than you at something and that’s a fact. Second, people have the desire to always strive for more. This isn’t a bad thing, but if you aren’t grateful for what you get and already have, then it can be a bad thing. Remember there are people out there who don’t have what you have and would do anything to have it. You may think things are mediocre and not glamorous in your life, but to another person you have a glamorous life.


There are some ways to avoid feeling jealous and envyness toward that person or those people who inspire and motivate you:

  • Be grateful for what you already have. This includes the small things as I have mentioned in the past like a bed, food, clean clothes, towels, etc. This will solidify a foundation of positive thoughts that you can build on
  • Build your confidence. Theres always exercising. Try new things, like a new food, or visit a new location. Add some healthy foods to your diet. Your body will thank you by rewarding you with a positive feeling.
  • Say positive things about yourself. Positive self-talk can go a long way and be good for your conscious especially for your subconscious.
  • Smile at the small things. Whether your listening to some music, playing with your pet, made someone laugh and smile, or looking at nature. Smiling and acknowledging them will lift your morale.
  • Look back on your accomplishments. There are things you achieved that others haven’t. Big or small these accomplishments are a testament to who you are which is something no one can take away.

Wrap Up

Overall, the way your mind is wired will determine how you think about these special people or person in your life. If your not comfortable with who you are, then your more likely to be jealous and envyness of these kind of people. Social comparison is another concept that will make you feel uncomfortable in this aspect.

I can relate to this. It took me time to rewire my mindset and be inspired by a few special people in my life instead of envying them. They are on there own path in life and I have my own. I didn’t need to compete with them; when that finally clicked, a great weight was lifted off my shoulders. So if I could do it, you can too.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.


Best Things to Keep in Mind for starting the New Year

Happy New Year everyone, 2023 is here. I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday with loved ones. To those who have a hard with the holidays, your not alone. I know people personally who have a hard time with the holidays because loved ones have passed away or unfortunately have no one to celebrate with. My heart goes out to you all. You are still loved and are unique and special.

To start off the year, I thought I would post a small speech of Steve Harvey’s I found on Instagram. The speech is about the blessings we already have. I have mentioned in the past about the small things we should be grateful for like being able to breathe easily and having a bed to sleep in.

If you are unsure of how to start 2023, your not alone. There are many others who are in the same boat you are. Though I can’t tell you what you should do or what is best for you, this video serves as a reminder of what you already have and to center yourself.

Like I mentioned before the holidays, I hope to start posting more and create different kinds of content that can help better your life.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

The Friends You Can Confide In

Vulnerability, honesty, and trust. Do these words come to mind when you think of your closest friends? Are you able to confide in them about deep and personal things?

Different Types of Friends

So some of you may already know that there are various kinds of friends out there. You have your athletic friends, those who like to party, those who are good listeners, some who are reserved but easy to get along with, and so on. If this sounds like people you know, your not alone. Every person out there has a variety of friends.

Your allowed to have a variety of friends. Whether your a big social person or someone who is more laid back, having different kinds of friends enriches your life. As I’ve mentioned before, having moral support from friends is just as good as having moral support from family.

Confiding in Others

You have friends who you can laugh and have a fun time with, but you can confide in them if you are troubled. Easy right; well not always. Maybe the reality of your situation is that you have dozens of friends who you get along with, but only a few of them are ones you can talk deep stuff with. You may think you are being a burden to them by dumping you troubles onto them especially if you’ve done it before. You may think your damaging the friendship and that eventually you’ll loose them. If you have thought this way before, your not alone. I’ve been there myself.

As I mentioned you may have a variety of friends who you can talk sports with but not books. Then you have people who you can talk urban legends and unexplained events with, but not video games.

Some people only have that one friend who they can go to no matter what happens and have a deep talk, a rant, and even a good cry. This is what I meant about vulnerability, trust, and honesty. These three traits are precious. Not every person can open up, some have trust issues, and some just don’t know how to tell the truth.

There is a deep connection and understanding between people who are vulnerable to one another. You really get to know someone in how they think, how they handle their emotions, and how they view life. They provide you comfort when you feel fragile, confused, hurt, and broken. Sometimes they give you words of encouragement, a hug, a shoulder to cry on, even a listening ear for you to vent. Sounds like I’m repeating myself a bit, but these kind of people will really do these things for you. In reality, these kind of friends are easier to go to and confide in than our own parents. In my opinion, this shouldn’t be a thing, but it is.

Wrap Up

The close friends you can confide in shouldn’t be taken for granted. Some of the worst and toughest moments of your life are made a bit easier to deal with these kind of friends. If you have these kind of friends in your life, you should consider yourself grateful. Your not alone in this world; these kind of friends will remind you of that. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

I’m Back

Hi everyone after nearly one year away, I’m back. I’ll keep it brief on what I’ve been up to.

So I took some time to do a lot of self-care work. It had it’s ups and downs and stagnant days. At the beginning of the year, I got Covid which put me out of commission for awhile. I tried a new job which didn’t really suit me and was draining along with having another part time job with it. I lost some money through cryptocurrency. I have been working with a counselor and briefly with a life coach who have been tremendously helpful.

Now I’m working as a dietary aide at a assisted living facility full-time. I’m also studying again to take my exam to get licensed for counseling. I’m living more in the present and have gotten much better at not comparing myself to others.

So the plan is I’m going to post once a week for the time being. Before I took a break, I did redesign my blog with a new layout. The new post will be a symbolism post and will be posted tomorrow.

Thank you for your patience. I appreciate you all for following my blog and taking the time to read my content. I’m doing much better than I was this time last year. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Christmas Update

Hi everyone, I hope your all doing well and that the holidays are treating you all right. So I know I’ve been away for quite some time; well I have some updates.

So I’m currently working two part time jobs, one in the morning and the other from the afternoon into the evening. Right now all my energy and attention have gone into acclimating my daily routine into balancing and working both jobs while trying to not get burned out.

Those of you who are following me and get emails of when I upload posts, may have noticed that I redesigned my logo and changed the overall theme.

I also have been thinking of new ideas of writing different kinds of posts and setting up new pages. I’ll keep you posted on that.

Thank you all for being patient with me as I balance two jobs and work on some personal things in my life. I hope to get back to uploading posts soon. I truly appreciate all of you who follow, like, and comment on my posts. I enjoy seeing and reading your feedback.

Have a wonderful Christmas and holiday season as 2021 comes to a close. Spend time with loved ones, have fun, and relax, you’ve earned it. For those of you where Christmas isn’t the most wonderful time of the year, your not alone in your struggles. I’ll send good vibes your way and say a prayer for you all. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Taking a Break

So I wanted to let you all know that I’m going to be taking a break for awhile.  Looking for work is a job itself which can be draining.  I recently realized that I pushed myself too hard which has caused me to be hard on myself and caused me to be mentally exhausted. 

Recently I have educating myself more on self-care habits which are helping me.  I’m putting my energy and effort onto being gentle on myself and appreciating all that I have and to be grateful for it.

Again thank you all for the support.  I read all your comments and I appreciate them, the likes, as well as the feedback.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.


Hi everyone, so I wanted to let you all know that next week I’m going to be taking a break. For those of you who don’t know, I’m unemployed and have been since early May. I’ve been trying to find a new job which has been taking up my time and energy. This past week has been kinda rough for me. I’ve been hard on myself and have been dealing with unwanted stress and anxiety; so I need to take a step back and reevaluate some things in my life. I hope you all understand. Thank you all for your support, I hope you know that I really appreciate it.

As some of you know, Simone Bailes had recently pulled herself out of the Olympic Finals. The reason was because she wanted to focus on her mental well-being. Her decision and reason reminded me of why I took my social media hiatus. I need to refocus on myself again for the time being.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.