Taking a Break

So I wanted to let you all know that I’m going to be taking a break for awhile.  Looking for work is a job itself which can be draining.  I recently realized that I pushed myself too hard which has caused me to be hard on myself and caused me to be mentally exhausted. 

Recently I have educating myself more on self-care habits which are helping me.  I’m putting my energy and effort onto being gentle on myself and appreciating all that I have and to be grateful for it.

Again thank you all for the support.  I read all your comments and I appreciate them, the likes, as well as the feedback.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Update

Hi everyone, so I wanted to let you all know that next week I’m going to be taking a break. For those of you who don’t know, I’m unemployed and have been since early May. I’ve been trying to find a new job which has been taking up my time and energy. This past week has been kinda rough for me. I’ve been hard on myself and have been dealing with unwanted stress and anxiety; so I need to take a step back and reevaluate some things in my life. I hope you all understand. Thank you all for your support, I hope you know that I really appreciate it.

As some of you know, Simone Bailes had recently pulled herself out of the Olympic Finals. The reason was because she wanted to focus on her mental well-being. Her decision and reason reminded me of why I took my social media hiatus. I need to refocus on myself again for the time being.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

How Often Does Time Get Away From You?

Hi everyone, I hope you all had a wonderful 4th of July (if you celebrate it). One thing that got me wondering this past weekend is time itself. I bet there was a handful of times at one point where you had said ‘where has the time gone?’ or ‘how did time get away from me?’. I myself have said that numerous times to myself or to my friends. Your not alone if you feel like time has gotten away from you.

How Does Time get Away From Us

Growing up, some of us don’t keep track of time or have any time management skills. As kids, sometimes we aren’t taught how to manage our time properly. When were in school, a conference, meeting, or a seminar for example, time can drag on and feel like forever yet only a small amount of time has gone by. Then some days, time goes by so fast and the day is almost over yet it feels like the day just started and we just woke up.

Lets be real, we all at one point have slept in and didn’t get out of bed until later in the day. Well that can be because we didn’t sleep until late at night. Is it this simple, unfortunately no. Everyone has a different life schedule where some of us have jobs late at night. Some of us stay up late to study and others stay up late partying. Then there are those who have sleep troubles where it’s physically and mentally hard to fall asleep.

Sleep schedules and patterns are just a couple of factors of time getting away from us. We can get so involved into something that we lose all track of time. Planning a party, building a model of the Titanic, binging something on Netflix, playing a sport with friends, playing video games are examples where time just gets away from us. We can be working on a company project, doing chores, or studying up for a math test that time just flies right by. Spending time with friends and loved ones always seems to pass the time.

Now all those things can eat up a lot of time right? Well some of you see that as your life, a life you used to live, or maybe a life you want to tweek and make changes to. With the right mindset, you can keep time in check while not obsessing or dwelling on it. You don’t need to look at your phone, the clock, or watch counting minutes and seconds.

Here are some tips to help you better manage your time:

  • Organization is a great way to have clarity and get down what you need to get done
  • Setting realistic goals and writing them down believe it or not can help motivate you to accomplish everything on your to do list
  • Planning how much time you want to spend on one thing can help you not lose track of time and get the next thing done before the day is up
  • Managing your stress to stay in the present and using it correctly to not let things slip away is helpful
  • Prioritize what needs to get done first or what will need the most energy can help you get things done and have energy to spare
  • Self-awareness is helpful in keeping track of time and I don’t mean looking at your watch or the clock consistently. You can set an alarm to let you know when your time on something is up or set up a 5 or 10 minute warning.
  • That to do list I keep mentioning, write it down if it helps you prioritize things better instead of remembering it all in your head.
  • Stay focused on what you need to do or get done. Try to minimize any distractions around you like the TV or unnecessary noise.

Wrap Up

Time management is key. Sometimes we feel like there isn’t enough time in the day to do the things we want to do. With the proper prioritizing of goals and your to do list, you can get a lot done and still have time in the day.

Some of what I said can be described as setting up a routine. I talked about routines before and how they can work against us instead of helping us. This just goes back to having the right kind of balance in your life which takes time to figure out. Everyone is different, so what works for some people may not work for you. It’s ok to have game nights on Fridays or going to the movies on Wednesday afternoons.

Remember to have flexibility in your life, that way you can manage your time better and not become a victim of your own routine; don’t let it control you, control it. It’s ok to change things up; something new is great for the mind. Also don’t forget that if you need time to rest and do nothing, that’s perfectly fine. Don’t feel guilty about it, we all need downtime and rest, we need to recharge ourselves, and this can help in slowing down our thoughts so their not causing us unwanted anxiety or stress. This helps in us having and maintaining a clear mind.

Staying in the present can help us not think and dwell too much about the future and the past. Try focusing on the next hour and what you can do in it. Don’t think about the next hour or later in the day. Don’t think back to earlier in the day, that time has passed. You have 60 minutes, put your energy and focus solely on that period of time. I have learned that this technique helps me stay more in the present time.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Whose an Approachable Person in Your Life?

Have you ever been around someone and you just get a vibe from them about whether or not you should talk to them or not? Their words say one thing and yet your not sure if you should ask them a question or not. You start thinking ‘should I even be around them though’.

If you have had these thoughts before, your not the only one. I’ve had those thoughts myself. There are people who are cautious about who they talk to. They are also cautious about who they invest their time and energy with.

Why Do People Think This Way?

Shyness, unwanted stress and anxiety, letting insecurities run your life, not knowing how to introduce yourself to others, and fear in general can be factors of why someone will keep to themselves and not talk to someone. These factors can cause someone to think other people are not approachable. If your confused and/or don’t understand something, you don’t ask a question or for help and you just keep it to yourself. However that’s not always the case.

People give off vibes about their personality. This is can be from the way they talk and the way they act around friends, family, and strangers. Some people say things to invite others into their lives like, “If you have questions, don’t hesitate to ask”, or “You can call or text me anytime”. Words say one thing, the behavior from the person can say another.

There are people who can pick up on good and bad vibes from others very easily. There are people who you can open up to about anything. There are those you can open up to, but you are still reserved on some deep personal things.

Examples

If you know someone who raises their voice to the point of yelling during a simple conversation and has trouble talking to people, chances are this person isn’t very approachable even if they say you can talk to them anytime you need to. Then you have someone who smiles when they’re around people they know and don’t know. They are being kind and generous to others. When they say things, you can take their word for it. These types of people are approachable to go up to. You can introduce yourself to them and ask them questions easily.

Here’s some tips and ways to approach other people better and how you can become more approachable to others:

  • Be respectful to others and yourself
  • Smile and laugh
  • Take people up on their offer when they say you can ask them anything
  • Use eye contact
  • Take some deep breaths
  • Rehearse your introduction to others
  • Keep your head up
  • Mirror the person your talking to
  • Avoid nervous twitching and habits
  • Be accessible to others
  • If your holding something like a drink, hold it at your side, not in front of your chest
  • Be positive
  • Nod and acknowledge the other person during a conversation

Wrap Up

Anyone can be approachable; only you can decide if that’s you. Confidence doesn’t come easy for some people. It can take time, but that’s ok. Just be patient and keep working on it. If you have trouble looking someone in the eye, try looking at just one of their eyes or in between their eyes until it gets easier. Not everyone is out to get you. People who say ‘you can come to me and ask me questions’ some really do mean it. That goes for the same to those people who say ‘were always here for you’.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Surprise Post and Update

Yep a surprise post. It’s not much. I uploaded 5 new pieces of music to the Relaxing Music page. Super Mario Sunshine and Mario Party 9 are the new additions. Also, I decided to change things up for the Good Vibes page. The page itself will still be there, but nothing else will be uploaded to it.

Instead anything Good Vibes related will be in the form of posts. I will create a category for it like I have for other posts.

Have a great day and a wonderful weekend. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Helping While in the Shadows

Have you ever wanted to make someone’s day better? Did you want to give someone some words of encouragement? If you answered yes to these questions, that’s great. Now let me ask you this, have you done these things but wanted to remain anonymous?

Wanting to help others, but wanting to be anonymous during the process isn’t something odd. I personally have done this numerous times and many people do this too, so your not alone. So why do people want to help those they care about but want to remain anonymous or in the shadows while doing so?

Helping From Afar

I previously talked about insecurities as well as low self-esteem before. Not long ago I talked about not wanting to be around wonderful good people because you felt like you didn’t deserve their attention or company. That being said, you still want to help these people in any way you can.

You may be going through a period where you feel insecure or really shy but you want to help out a friend. So maybe you give them something in their absence. You may slip a note of encouragement in their locker at school and it’s signed anonymous, you leave someone some money in their work cubicle, or you make an anonymous donation to a friend or family members charity. You may change or edit an invoice or someone’s English paper and then walk away.

Why Though?

Some people do this because they don’t feel like they don’t deserve the person who their helpings gratitude and thanks. They don’t feel worthy enough to be around these kind of people because of bad past experiences where their gratitude wasn’t appreciated and fear of rejection.

Being in the shadows feels comfortable for some people. For example, last year someone I know donated some money to a mutual friend of ours charity she was supporting, but the person remained anonymous. She was very happy with the donation, but she never found out who it was.

Some people will follow their friend’s social media accounts, but not interact with them. They may check their recent posts and tweets to see what they’re up to, but not comment or ‘like’ them. These people will read what is said and send good vibes that person’s way or say a prayer for them.

If you are someone who wants to break this habit and way of thinking, here are some ways to do that:

  • Accept your flaws
  • Be gentle with yourself
  • Accept acts of gratitude and the other person’s words of kindness
  • Don’t second guess yourself or the other person’s words or gestures
  • Embrace the good values and morals about yourself
  • Challenge your insecurities
  • Eliminate unrealistic expectations
  • Eliminate All or Nothing mindsets

Wrap Up

Helping those you care about in the shadows may be odd to some, but as long as your not being weird or inappropriate about it, your ok. Good intentions can be present, but they can be wrapped with insecurities and unrealistic expectations. This kind of mindset can be overcome, it takes time though. You are worthy of being around good people and having good people in your life. Like I said I have been through this myself. It took time, but I was able to overcome it. So if I can do it, you can as well.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.