Good Vibes

Video Discussion: You can be at Peace Again

So for this video discussion, I decided to talk about a piece of music that is near and dear to my heart.  It comes from the game Hyrule Warriors: Age of Calamity.  I had done a previous video discussion on a this game before which was a cutscene on not comparing yourself to someone else. 

This music to me represents overcoming hardships, bumps in the road, rough patches, storms, dark days, tragedies, anything rough. It can also mean accomplishing anything, breathing a sigh of relief, being filled with joy, happiness, kindness, even love. I encourage you to take a moment to listen to this for a bit and reflect on something that you got through and/or the last time you felt true genuine happiness.

A bit of backstory, this music plays after you beat the game return to the world map. When I first heard this, it was during my social media hiatus. I felt a sense of warmth fill me up. It was a few days after that I figured out that I was healed from the pain and heartache that happened to me back in October 2019. The healing process had come to an end. I also felt at peace and was ready to go back to social media and return to this blog.

Long story short, at the end of October 2019 my brother-in-law unexpectedly passed away at 29. The day before that I got hurt by someone I had feelings for and really cared about. I questioned who I was, the people in my life, sort of ghosted a special friend of mine on and off, closed up, and kept people at arms length.

With Mental Health Awareness month coming to an end, it doesn’t mean that you stop taking care of yourself. Whatever it is that your going through even if it’s hard, you can get through it. If you are healing from something, keep working at it; in time, you will be healed. If you are working through something and you feel stagnant and/or are taking steps back, it’s ok that can happen. If you think this storm your going through will not end, it will end.

I got through my storm, rough spots, and tough days, so you can as well. Your most definitely not alone. People you go to school with, volunteer with, work with, and those around you right now are probably dealing with something difficult or have dealt with something tough in their life.

To those who are dealing with unwanted stress, depression, a broken heart, or high levels of anxiety, cry if you need to, let out a scream in private, write down your thoughts and feelings, seek professional help, talk to a trusted friend, family member, teacher, or individual. You will get through it, you’ll be stronger for going through it and you’ll be wiser because you’ll learn from it.

Even though I healed, that doesn’t mean I’m immune to unwanted stress, anxiety, or any kind of pain. What I know is that I’m more prepared to handle any new bad thing that comes my way. I’m human, I’m not perfect which means tough days can still happen to me and I can still make mistakes. I look to see what I can learn from those mistakes and those tough days.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Time: Toxic Productivity

Hey guys, this topic has been on my mind for some time. I wasn’t sure how to approach it until now. Below is a link to 2 videos that talk about how doing too much and working a lot isn’t the best for your mental health.

The first video is from psychologist Dr. Julie Smith. Though her video talks about toxic productivity during Covid lockdown, the information is still relevant today. The second video is from Clement Mihailescu the CEO and Co-founder of AlgoExpert. He talks about his own experience with toxic productivity and what has helped him find balance with work and self-care.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Surprise Post and Update

Yep a surprise post. It’s not much. I uploaded 5 new pieces of music to the Relaxing Music page. Super Mario Sunshine and Mario Party 9 are the new additions. Also, I decided to change things up for the Good Vibes page. The page itself will still be there, but nothing else will be uploaded to it.

Instead anything Good Vibes related will be in the form of posts. I will create a category for it like I have for other posts.

Have a great day and a wonderful weekend. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Helping While in the Shadows

Have you ever wanted to make someone’s day better? Did you want to give someone some words of encouragement? If you answered yes to these questions, that’s great. Now let me ask you this, have you done these things but wanted to remain anonymous?

Wanting to help others, but wanting to be anonymous during the process isn’t something odd. I personally have done this numerous times and many people do this too, so your not alone. So why do people want to help those they care about but want to remain anonymous or in the shadows while doing so?

Helping From Afar

I previously talked about insecurities as well as low self-esteem before. Not long ago I talked about not wanting to be around wonderful good people because you felt like you didn’t deserve their attention or company. That being said, you still want to help these people in any way you can.

You may be going through a period where you feel insecure or really shy but you want to help out a friend. So maybe you give them something in their absence. You may slip a note of encouragement in their locker at school and it’s signed anonymous, you leave someone some money in their work cubicle, or you make an anonymous donation to a friend or family members charity. You may change or edit an invoice or someone’s English paper and then walk away.

Why Though?

Some people do this because they don’t feel like they don’t deserve the person who their helpings gratitude and thanks. They don’t feel worthy enough to be around these kind of people because of bad past experiences where their gratitude wasn’t appreciated and fear of rejection.

Being in the shadows feels comfortable for some people. For example, last year someone I know donated some money to a mutual friend of ours charity she was supporting, but the person remained anonymous. She was very happy with the donation, but she never found out who it was.

Some people will follow their friend’s social media accounts, but not interact with them. They may check their recent posts and tweets to see what they’re up to, but not comment or ‘like’ them. These people will read what is said and send good vibes that person’s way or say a prayer for them.

If you are someone who wants to break this habit and way of thinking, here are some ways to do that:

  • Accept your flaws
  • Be gentle with yourself
  • Accept acts of gratitude and the other person’s words of kindness
  • Don’t second guess yourself or the other person’s words or gestures
  • Embrace the good values and morals about yourself
  • Challenge your insecurities
  • Eliminate unrealistic expectations
  • Eliminate All or Nothing mindsets

Wrap Up

Helping those you care about in the shadows may be odd to some, but as long as your not being weird or inappropriate about it, your ok. Good intentions can be present, but they can be wrapped with insecurities and unrealistic expectations. This kind of mindset can be overcome, it takes time though. You are worthy of being around good people and having good people in your life. Like I said I have been through this myself. It took time, but I was able to overcome it. So if I can do it, you can as well.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Time: The Importance of Mental Health

Hi everyone. I want to change the content a bit. This post has 3 videos describing the importance of mental health. Mental health isn’t visible yet it affects our spiritual, emotional, and physical health. Mental health isn’t something to make fun of or dismiss. We are all fighting battles we don’t tell everyone even our closest friends and family members.

Stress isn’t a 100% bad thing. We need a bit of stress to alarm us to recognize unwanted stress. Trying to not let stress become too much for us to handle is one of life’s greatest challenges.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

May Update

Hi everyone. I have been dealing with some personal things lately. Tomorrow, I plan to upload some more Relaxing music pieces. I plan to resume regular uploads starting next week. With it being Mental Health Awareness month, I plan to upload content related to the importance of mental health.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Update going forward

Hi everyone. I hope everyone had a nice week as April starts to end this week. I got a few things new things to update you all on. First, I won’t be posting any content from 11 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. EST. The new job I got has me working for pretty much the entire afternoon now until 7. Second, I uploaded a new ‘Question of the week’ as well as more relaxing music from the Donkey Kong video game series. Third, the stress of acclimating to the new job has been tough. So once again there will be no new posts this week. I’m so sorry, I’m still trying to reorganize and figure out various things in my life. The things I could do in the later afternoon I no longer can do. I’ll post another update next Sunday May 2nd to let you all know what’s going on.

Thank you all for understanding. Thank you for reading the content I have posted and leaving comments. I truly appreciate it. That helps renergize me and helps keeps me going. Getting a new job can be a big stressor to deal with. Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: Facing Your Trauma to Heal

This video is from a recent episode of the Flash. To set things up for those who don’t watch the show, this is an testimony from one of the main characters. The character is Iris West-Allen played by Candice Patton.

Spoiler Alert:

Last season, she was taken against her will by the main villian into what’s known as the Mirrorverse. It’s a dimension where everything looks the same, but incompatible to those not from it. The human mind can be wrapped to where an individual is no longer recognizable and is psychologically harmed to a big degree.

Iris spent 3 months there unable to call for help. Eventually, her husband Barry Allen a.k.a the Flash, frees her from the Mirrorverse and defeats the villian who kidnapped her and saves many other innocent people who were taken as well. However, Iris hadn’t dealt with the trauma she experienced. This video is Iris giving her testimony about her experience in the Mirrorverse to other survivors. Her testimony ends at 2:40. If you want to see the rest go ahead.

Trauma

Trauma is something we all unfortunately deal with at some point in our lives. We get hurt and betrayed sometimes by those we love and care about. We have people who pass away sometimes unexpectedly and sudden, we encounter situations that traumatize us with fear, sadness, and guilt. We see things so horrifying that we wish we didn’t see and would do anything to forget them.

I’ve dealt with some traumas in my life that I still remember today. I still remember the triggers and the feelings I was experiencing at the time like they just happened yesterday. Your not alone; your most definitely not alone. There are many others out there who have experienced trauma and the same traumas you experienced or are currently going through right now.

The Feelings of Trauma

Though Iris was taken to another dimension, she still experienced loneliness and dread like the others who were abducted. We don’t always have to be taken to an unknown place to experience those feelings. We can experience those feelings in places that are comfortable and known to us. Our favorite resturant, school, park, church, even our homes.

Iris was feeling angry and sorry for herself and hating that she was feeling like that. She thought that once she was saved and back home that all the bad feelings would go away and she would be healed and whole again. Unfortunately that wasn’t the case; like her many of us think that if were rescued from a bad and scary place whether it be physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual that we feel better.

What I find powerful about her testimony is that she says that she can’t heal unless she gives herself permission to feel those bad feelings. I love how the writers wrote that. One would think why do I need to give myself permission to feel my feelings? A good question, yet the answer lies on our personality.

Who We Are

If were someone who has a sunny disposition on life, we may inadvertently think that we don’t let bad things affect us and that we can easily shrug them off. Others see us as not having a problem in the world and that we’re happy all the time. Yet were still human and we are not immune to negative emotions.

People who smile, laugh, goof around with friends and family, and have fun are not immune to bad feelings. They may hide their feelings from others even those close to them because they may be scared how others will perceive them. They think others will think things like ‘she doesn’t get mad, she’s always helpful and kind’, ‘he’s so happy, he doesn’t have any problems’, or ‘he doesn’t know what disappointment is because nothing ever goes wrong for him’.

We have to be honest with ourselves. We have to be able to express and go through those bad uncomfortable feelings even if they go against our nature. Were human and we are allowed to feel all the emotions in the world. Some we express and feel more than others and that’s fine. A person who rarely gets mad is allowed to get mad, no one can tell him or her otherwise.

I personally have seen people in my life who are happy and helpful get upset and annoyed every now and then. It doesn’t happen often, but I remember that they are not immune to those feelings, they are allowed to feel that way, they’re not perfect, and they are human.

The lines ‘If you are hurting, if you feel angry, if the constant presence of those emotions is exhausting you, you are not alone. I am with you’ speak volumes to me. These lines are like the foundation of this blog. I have experienced hurt and anger and those feelings have caused me fatigued and exhaustion.

Wrap Up

There is beauty on this life; that’s a fact. Sometimes when were dealing with trauma, it becomes harder to see that beauty because our mind can be clouded up with negativity and darkness. As Iris puts it, looking for the beauty within each other is very helpful. Though it may take some time, I guarantee you that it helps because it helped me 2 years ago. That time spent together with others who have gone through what you are going through or are currently going through what it is your going through is an opportunity to help one another and to keep each from falling down again.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.