Food for Thought: Being Challenged = Change

You probably have heard how you need to challenge yourself to new things. You may also have heard that change can be a good thing. Have you heard the phrase, you can’t change unless your challenged? Maybe you haven’t heard this phrase before or heard this exact wording; I know I didn’t.

We all go through all kinds of different challenges and trials in our lives. Experiencing a new thing is a trial itself; you can consider it a challenge as well depending on what it is. Theses challenges and trials can help us grow and expand our horizon of skills and knowledge.

Change is something that people embrace and fear. Change can be enriching, but also scary. We can be heavily involved in our ways and routines that we put off or ignore any kind of change. Change can mean taking yourself of our comfort zone into the new or unknown.

So back to the phrase, you can’t change unless your challenged. Family members, teachers, employees, students, mentors, friends, spouse, your boyfriend, or girlfriend will challenge you directly or indirectly. Some will challenge you to learn a new skill, to be a better person, or to feel and express your emotions.

People will push you out of your comfort zone, not to make you feel uncomfortable, but to expand your horizon. They may want to help you see things in a new perspective or from their point of view. They want to help you grow. We can get stuck in our mental, spiritual, emotional, even our physical growth and not realize it. Those who care about us and our well being only want to help in the best way they can.

Sometimes its easy to accept change, sometimes its hard. Those we know and don’t know are on the same playing field. Sometimes its easier to change for the better by strangers encouraging us those we care about. Sometimes its the opposite; everyone is different. Now there are many other ways a person can change. You can read something new, learn new things by doing them, watch another person do something, or hear someone explain it to you. Change can be a good thing, but remember don’t change the core morals and values that make you unique and special.

Take care, stay safe, and remember that your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Taking a Break

So I wanted to let you all know that I’m going to be taking a break for awhile.  Looking for work is a job itself which can be draining.  I recently realized that I pushed myself too hard which has caused me to be hard on myself and caused me to be mentally exhausted. 

Recently I have educating myself more on self-care habits which are helping me.  I’m putting my energy and effort onto being gentle on myself and appreciating all that I have and to be grateful for it.

Again thank you all for the support.  I read all your comments and I appreciate them, the likes, as well as the feedback.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Don’t Lose the Love in Your Heart

The love you carry in your heart is something very precious.  It’s the love you have for the people in your life, life itself, and the love you have for yourself.  However, various things can destroy or damage that love. 

Words spoken out of anger, betrayal of trust, lies, words and actions that install fear into people are some examples that can take away that love if we let it.  When these things come from those we like, love, and care about, it hurts even worse and can be very damaging to our physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual health.

Don’t let the fear and anger of others take away the love you have on your heart.  Maybe easier said than done.  Anger and fear can cause a lot of pain to someone and it’s not always visible. Remember that

As I mentioned, having the ability to love yourself and other people in a genuine and sincere way is something precious.  Unfortunately not everyone on the world can do this.  If you can, treasure this gift and don’t take it for granted.   Your family members and the real friends in your life are grateful and blessed to have you in their life.


Hi everyone, so I wanted to let you all know that next week I’m going to be taking a break. For those of you who don’t know, I’m unemployed and have been since early May. I’ve been trying to find a new job which has been taking up my time and energy. This past week has been kinda rough for me. I’ve been hard on myself and have been dealing with unwanted stress and anxiety; so I need to take a step back and reevaluate some things in my life. I hope you all understand. Thank you all for your support, I hope you know that I really appreciate it.

As some of you know, Simone Bailes had recently pulled herself out of the Olympic Finals. The reason was because she wanted to focus on her mental well-being. Her decision and reason reminded me of why I took my social media hiatus. I need to refocus on myself again for the time being.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Discussion: 7 Things You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty For

Hi there everyone, I hope you all are doing all right.  There are a number of things that we can feel guilty about.  This video focuses on 7 different things that we feel guilty about and how they can influence different aspects of our life.

The feeling of guilt can lead to feelings of inadequacy, unwanted anxiety, and perfectionism. This then leads to high levels of stress and overcompensating on every thing you.

Your not alone if you have felt guilty about doing something for yourself. We are allowed to have hobbies, personal interests, and we are allowed to invest our time and energy into them. I have felt this way, your parents, best friends, teachers, co-workers, boss, significant other, family members, etc have all felt this kind of guilt before.

Feeling Guilty for Feeling Happy

At some point, we have felt guilty about something.  We feel bad for hurting someone’s feelings, not doing something we should have, and for doing something that makes us happy.  Yes feeling guilty about being happy is a real thing. 

We feel guilty of being happy for doing things we enjoy because our brains can translate that into being selfish and self-centered.  We feel we should be doing something for everyone in our lives and helping them with their problems.  Yes this is something we do, but we also need to take time for ourselves. 

We need to rest and recharge ourselves.  We also need to invest our time and energy doing things that bring us joy.  That isn’t being selfish, that’s taking care of ourselves. This video goes into more details.

Wrap Up

Not being perfect, asking for help, being successful, saying no when you need to, removing yourself from toxic situations or people, ending toxic relationships, and wanting to be happy are only 7 things we shouldn’t feel guilty about. There are various other things as well. Our self-worth, esteem, and inner peace are very special and important to our well-being. Yes we do want to please and help others, but we also shouldn’t feel guilty or ashamed that we want to take time for ourselves.

I hope this video shined some light on your life. Hopefully you got some clarity and some bettee guidance in your life. Maybe some heavy stress and anxiety just got lifted from your shoulders and mind. Maybe now you can breathe better too.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Video Time: 3 Ways Mindfulness Exercises Help You Relax and Keep You in the Present

Hey everyone, I hope your enjoying the summer season. For this Video Time post, I thought we focus on the topic of Mindfulness. These videos will explain what mindfulness is and the techniques that make it up.

These videos will discuss how to lower your stress levels, slow down your thoughts, and focus on your 5 senses. One video will break down the process of how a thought can quickly consume us and result in a negative feeling. We can have negative thoughts in which we can acknowledge and leave it at that. Whether or not we act on them is up to us.

Any thought can come into our mind and change how we behave and what we say vert fast. Remember different parts of our body can be affected by this process as well.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.

Food for Thought: Lost but you can Still Find Your Way

It’s been a long time since I wrote a food for thought post. Last month, I realized that no matter how lost you are, you can still be found. You can still find your path and way of life.

It’s never too late to find your way regardless of your age. If your struggling with negative and toxic thoughts or a lie that has plagued you for years, you can overcome it; just don’t give up. You can find joy, peace of mind, and freedom.

Symbolism: How Water and Negativity are Related

Hi everyone, so this title might be a bit puzzling to some of you. You may be puzzled by a picture of the Titanic sinking. Well hopefully this quote sheds some light onto the topic.

Water can Bring you Down as Well as Negativity

Most of you probably know this, the Titanic sank because water got inside the ship from the collision with the iceberg and sank it. The shipped filled up with water and brought it down to the ocean floor of the Atlantic Ocean. Negativity can bring us down just like water.

Now remember this whole post is meant to be symbolic. We are the ship and water is the negative vibes we encounter in our life that get under our skin (inside the ship). If we let negative vibes and bad attitudes get to us, that can bring down our morale. The negativity we encounter in life can get under our skin and we can sink into depression or succumb to high levels of stress and anxiety. Sometimes the negative and toxic things in this world can get to us and we don’t always notice it.

We Don’t Always Sink

Water surrounds ships yet they don’t sink unless it gets inside the structure. We can be surrounded with negativity anywhere we are and anywhere we go. However if we don’t let negative vibes and bad attitudes get to us, our morale stays intact and nothing brings down our mood.

Wrap Up

I hope you all understood this post. This was meant to help you understand something that is a mental concept, but in a physical sense. Your not alone if you try to keep negative vibes out of your life, yet they still get to you. Were human, were not perfect. There are ways and techniques in which we can keep negativity out of our lives; I have mentioned many numerous ways in previous posts. Look back at them if you need a refresher.

Take care, stay safe, and remember your not alone and you have worth in this world.